I work at bar so I can't really avoid them. My boss wants to keep her customers around, I am not allowed to say something about it, I just have to keep my distance. There are certain customers who indirectly insult me on a daily basis. Some will even ''jokingly'' threaten me if I don't smile back. What's the best way of dealing with these kind of people? I can't quit my job yet.
Most Helpful Guy
I guess put on a fake smile while working at the restaurant. Don't let them interfere with your job. Out of curiosity how are you rejecting them? If you're being real polite about the whole thing, they're just complete losers. Sometimes when a girl is harsh/ nasty about the rejection it can draw a lot of unecessary attention. As a guy, when a women is nasty about the whole thing I find it to be very irritating and I know it sounds bad but I kind of despise her for it. It can accidentally be taken personally at times even if it's not meant to be and just is not good. Makes things very awkward if you have to see them again. If she's polite and reasonable about it I find her respectable and no hard feelings ensue.1
Most Helpful Girl
You're in a tight spot. That type of risk comes with the profession of having to work around drunks. However there needs to be a line drawn somewhere. You should not have to tolerate threats. You also shouldn't have to give customers signs of hope they'll ever have a chance as some of the guys suggested. That could lead to even more unwanted advances as I'm sure you're already aware of that. You need to talk to your boss about this if you don't feel safe. Also record the conversation in case something comes up in the future. The boss has a duty to see that their employees are safe in that environment. If something happens to you, then they're partially at fault for not taking more preventive measures.1