I'm really curious about this question and your experience with 'being nice'. Whenever I'm nice or keep my mouth shut, I get walked all over. However, when I turn into bitch mode, I'm told I'm mean but I get stuff accomplished. Like, I don't understand. Why can't you just get things accomplished being nice instead of having to go into crazy heifer mode? Why do I have to be mean to get anything done? I'm 27 and I always have to be mean to get anything accomplished, whether it's work, friends, family, my apartment management complex... I just don't get it.
If you want example, my sink plumbing started leaking into my apartment wall. I call for maintenance. He temporarily fixes it. It leaks the next week. I call again. I'm told I need new pipes. Another week goes by and the water damage to my wall is completely visible and still no new pipes. I go to the front office and complain. They said they'd be up in an hour. They came in 2 days, replaced the pipes 2 more days later, and then LEFT the pile of broken pipes in front of my door for over a week. That's when I go ape shit in the office, cussing, yelling, calling the manager an idiot, and threatening not to give them my rental check. My old pipes were removed from my doorstep and my wall fixed 30 minutes later.
I'm not understanding. Why is being nice a license for someone to be treated like crap? I hate having to be mean to get stuff done.
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, this is pretty true. It does seem to be that when you're nice about something, people think they can walk all over you, take advantage of you, think to themselves, "Ah, she's too nice, she won't complain about it, so we can be as lax as we want."
Even in my older young adult life, I myself have had to become a lot more stern with people. I'm more concerned about people getting their job done than whether or not they think of me as an asshole for having to get tough about it.
I hear you.0
Most Helpful Girl
Because people don't understand good authority and respect anymore, they have to be beaten into it... for it to be effective...0