I need others advice. In my quest to conquer all my fears and address my emotions about certain events that have happened in my life I still have a fear of trust and skepticism towards finding my first, "special someone". Yes I've never had a girlfriend, kissed bla bla bla all I have are my memories of girls telling me I'm a loser and what not. These memories keep replaying in my head when I try to think about what kind of girl I would like in the future. My mind keeps telling me I'm not good enough and I feel like if I did meet someone I would run them away with not trusting them. How do tackle these thoughts? If you have a question ask me and thank you :-)
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Thanks for A2A!
You see, fear is a vital part of our life. It is a necessary evil. People can't jump in swimming pool or cannot look down from a building because they fear death. This is important because without it, we'd jump and risk our life. It keeps us in limits.
Trusting someone is a difficult task, befriending isn't. Don't fear to befriend a lot of people. This will help you to learn a lot and get you a lot of experience and memories. Your friends will support you (but don't expect them to save your life because it is a "blind trust"), they'll help you to get better. Overtime, you'll start realizing the importance of specific people in your life and how you should interact with them.
The first step is, however, to ameliorate yourself. If you think you're not good enough, you're the worst person on this planet and are just wasting oxygen and personally, I don't believe such people exist. You CAN make yourself better. And what if you already ARE a great person who "trusted" idiots who called you a loser? How dare you to "trust" them and not that "special one"?
You're just 17. When I was your age, I've never had close female friend, let alone a girlfriend. By the time I turned 18 I started interacting with girls more confidently and openly. Realise one thing, if she says "no", you have nothing to lose, you already had a "no" if you didn't try, but if you will try, it'd turn into a "yes". You're still young. This is not a age to marry and get settled, this is your time to explore. I'm not telling you to fuck around, but don't be so remorseful over failures. You'll fail a lot. This is an age to fail. People will break your trust, people will make you feel special. The world is not so simple.
If she broke your trust, she was never your "special someone" in the first place. Try again, there are billions of girls.
The only thing you have to do is to value your time. Build a career, earn money, be respectful to others, be healthy and love your life. Heck anyone would dare to break the trust of such person.
Good luck! :)1
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