In my lifetime I have met few of that kind of people, as I called them: contradictory people.
Basically, that kind of people would do really nice and really horrible things to you. I don't get why are they like that and I wondered have you ever met people like that?
Currently at my work place I have this female coworker and she is one moment nice to me than another ignorant even rude. Sometimes she would act as my best friend and another time like we don't know each other. I have confronted her about some issues and once her response was: sorry and she changed what the problem was; and another time she said to me: well, I am rude and arrogant. Chatting can also be challenging: she would share personal information, than another time she would get offended for someone indiving her privacy by asking anything.
At work I have to deal with her and I don't know what is the best way? Any advices?
When I'm distand and cold I feel like a bad guy when she is nice; and when I'm nice I feel like an idiot when she gets rude. Like I don't wanna deal w her, I'm mostly now avoiding her and interact when I really must. Like what is her problem? What do you guys think?
I had the same experience with the guy I liked, one day he would be so good and than another so uncaring and rude... I think plus and minus equal minus , so I don't consider them good people...
Have you ever met this kind of people and how did you deal?
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I consider workplace and romance to often be very different dynamics.
In a workplace, two-faced people can drive you insane if you let them get to you. But to me the real problem is not so much that they're two-faced. It's the fact that they have this other side. Even if they didn't hide the other side and were just hostile to you every chance you get and spreading false rumors about you, that can be just as nasty.
Those types of people are often very quick to judge, will almost never change their mind, tend to feel threatened easily by others, can think rising up in position boils down to putting others down, and generally don't give people a fair chance once their minds are made up (which happens very quickly).
For dealing with those types, unless you have an equally mean spirit about you, often the best thing you can do is just not let it get to you, to be the bigger person always. If alliances start forming, often the two-faced person will lose in that scenario if the other person is resilient to their tactics and is constantly exhibiting a better character.
Romance can be quite a bit different. Feelings of love or attraction can often be accompanied by fear in people who aren't so emotionally mature. In those cases, the person isn't necessarily two-faced but conflicted about their feelings towards a person. That's a different dynamic because their outward behavior might be the same, but internally they are genuinely conflicted.1
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