Probably going to regret asking this one but I think it was a few days ago someone asked a question of "what's your reputation on GAG?" I basically commented I didn't know and asked if anyone could clue me in and got 2 dislikes.
I remember I used to get picked on a lot in my first year of college too, granted a lot of those people kind of bullied a few other people too but I definitely felt like I was the main target.
I understand you can't please everyone no matter what you do but I just want to know what exactly it is people don't like about me.
I try to be empathetic and nice toward people, though I also try be honest yet sensitive though I have some strong views on certain things. Perhaps people don't like that or perhaps sometimes I come of as a bit annoying due to some of my opinions? I don't know.
Can anyone tell me why please?
I just want a reason really
Most Helpful Guy
You have to believe in yourself, my dear. The world is full of arseholes, most people are really in their own narrowly constrained world, have their own issues... Look at the world more clearly, and ask yourself why their validation is so important to you, and if they are the right sort of people to be doling out their judgement. And how existentially frail would you be, if your whole world would come crashing down at few a choice, nasty or careless words!
Some people don't deserve your niceness. It's important to have boundaries.1
Most Helpful Girl
You care way too much what others think about you. Stop acting like your goal in life is to please and impress everyone else as if receiving approval is the best internal mission you can have for yourself. The truth is that most approval of others isn't worth chit. These people that you're desperately, eagerly trying to get to like you probably aren't even all that valuable deep down inside. Their thoughts, actions, and pattern of behavior most likely isn't even something to deeply admire, respect, or think highly of. They're not going to rush to your aid should your house burn down tonight. They're not going to be present at your funeral or wedding. They're not going to be making an effort to communicate and stay in touch 10 years from now so who gives a f*ck?
Stop giving a f*ck. It's good for the spirit.1
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