They are expensive!
You have to take care of them all the time!
No rest since after work you have to work as a mom/dad!
You can't buy anything for yourself or save because kids first right?
Life sucks so why bring another human to suffer?
You have to give up your dream in order to keep your kids safe and netural.
Most Helpful Guy
"They are expensive" --> Actually, little kids don't cost a lot. My dad once said 'little children don't cost you money, they only cost you nerves'. Babies/toddlers don't eat a lot and some things can be bought in bulks. Children only become expensive once they become teenagers. Luckily, by that time most parents earn quite well and have perhaps even saved up some money.
"You have to take care of them all the time" --> What if I enjoy doing that? I can't think of something more rewarding than playing with my little son/daughter when I come home in the evening or reading good-night stories to them. What else would I do? Sit on the couch and watch TV maybe? Doesn't seem like I'm missing much there. Besides, there's also grandparents and things like daycare.
"No rest since after work you have to work as a mom/dad" --> I strongly believe that only couples should have children who have a very stable, long-term relationship. You don't need to be married but you should be dating for several years already. If this is the case, you can find good ways to share the work so that both parents get enough time to rest.
"You can't buy anything for yourself or save because kids first right?" --> Wrong. Yes, children do come first and certain compromises need to be made but that doesn't mean you have to live like a monk. My family always went traveling for example, even when my siblings and I were little. You just need to keep an eye on your finances and get throw your money out the window anymore.
"Life sucks so why bring another human to suffer?" --> I fundamentally disagree. Life is how you look at it. If you're a bitter, grumpy complainer, life sucks. If you make an effort to see the great and beautiful things in life, it will feel awesome. I am very thankful for the time I have on this earth.
"You have to give up your dream in order to keep your kids safe and natural." --> Like, what dream? Working your ass off to make career and become some boring old white-bread loser behind a desk who makes lots of money but mostly lives to fulfill his daily routine and suffers from depression at age 55 because the company kicked him out? Eh, no thanks. My dream is having children. I can't think of anything more fulfilling and satisfying in life than giving all my love and responsibility to a child.
Most Helpful Girl
There is a beauty in having kids. <3
You get to be their role model which forces you to actually be a better you.7