My husband got a job in Japan in a new company that will make video games and he is asking me to move there with him. I've never been there before and i don't know if they're friendly or not, he said this is the job he was dreaming of and they will pay him much. He is upset because i'm not there to support him and he said we can't stay separated like this forever. I'm worried about my daughter too and other things. It's been a year since all this happened and he will come in a small vacation to discuss things with me.
- You should move there to support him71% (10)62% (8)67% (18)Vote
- You should convince him to find another job0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
- You should do what's best for your daughter14% (2)31% (4)22% (6)Vote
- Other15% (2)7% (1)11% (3)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
You should do what's best for you, which I'm guessing your objective is to be happy. Will you be happy if your husband is living in Japan and you're not there? Would you be happy if you moved there? What about your daughter?
It's a tough situation, but you and your daughter have a life too, leaving it all behind isn't easy, and not always the best. But also not having your husband and your daughter's father in the picture, isn't good either.
I think one of you has to make a sacrifice. Either he goes back home to his family, or you go to him
If I was in his position, I wouldn't have left. I can't leave my daughter to grow up with her father being thousands of miles away, and I couldn't leave my wife either. But I put family over work, others don't, and your husband seems to fall under "others".1
Most Helpful Girl
It´s his dream, if there are no serious strings attached where you are, then go. You would regret not doing it. Your daughter will learn plenty of new things, culture, language... I think you not going there might be very damaging for your relationship. He would know you don´t fully support him... You can always go back, but it might be the best time of your life. It will not (probably) be for forever. If it is not working out, you can go back, but giving up without even trying? It will be difficult but I bet there´ll be plenty of expats and they support each other and will help you :-)2
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