My best friend's dying and when i went to visit her at the hospital she was begging me to marry her husband when the time comes, and raise her daughter because she can only trust me. She said she already talked to her husband about it and i was surprised, i didn't know what to say because she was crying and begging, I mean it's too early for me to think about marriage and i know that her daughter loves me and i will be there for her but this is a tough decision. I used to spend my time with her family at their house but now i feel it's kinda awkward because of her husband.
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Most Helpful Guy
That's very selfish of her. I understand she loves her family and wants her family to be in safe hands once she's gone, but that does not give her the right to put you in a situation where you would have to dedicate your life doing something that isn't even your job nor responsibility.
It isn't your job to marry a man who isn't even your man of choice and it isn't your job to raise someone else kids when you possibly don't even have kids of your own. And it damn sure isn't your job to move into their house and help pay for their expenses.
If I was in your situation, I'll tell her No! and explain to her that you'll make sure her family is taken care us but you will do it as a friend not a wife/mother. If I was in her situation I would NEVER ask a friend of mine (or not even my damn brother) to stop living their life so they can be the 2.0 version of me. Yeah, I'll ask them to look after my family but they can do that without marrying my wife and playing Dad.
Most Helpful Girl
You may be her friend, but you are in no way responsible for her husband and daughter. That is something that he has to try to work with on his own until he is able to get on his feet again. It is never easy to lose a wife or mother. I already lost that about a year ago with my late mother. This is not for you to do. I know you love your friend, and her family as if they were your own. But you have to tell her that. You can help support her husband, but you can't marry a man you don't love and is soon about to be widowed. It just doesn't work that way. In that time, he needs to get professional help and have as much of an outlet as possible from trusted family and friends if any. It is NEVER too early to think about marriage if your 18 and over or even younger. The point is, if YOUR not ready for marriage now, don't do it. Marriage is extremely tough. Being single is hard, but marriage is a lot harder. And if you two have nothing in common at least, don't share the same views, morals, belief's, standards and want to share a future together, stay single. If you can't be willing to submit as a wife, stay single. Please. You don't want to get caught up in that. Tell her the truth and your honest opinion. Yes, she is suffering and upset. But you have to think rationally here. She may want whats best for her family, but this is also a bit selfish by entrusting you to do basically the impossible. Now is definitely not the time for all of this. Maybe later on in the future, but now? No.1