Yes I been to the manager and yes he favor him more than me. He made me cry a few days ago because he said I quote" I wasn't working." Which is totally wrong. He yelled at me in public and than he called me a bitch and of course I'll cuss him out. He thinks he superior than the rest of the worker eventhough we are in the same level and he never listen. He verbal agressive and demanding. And I admit I am a coward for obey at first. I am tired and I don't know what to do. ): There is a promise that he going to change department but he still working in our department. I honestly can't wait for him to leave my area of work. I don't know what to do. I cried several times and been yell at him and I have felt weak under him. I feel embarssed at how much I let him abuse me like that. And everyone see him as a great worker since they know him for about a year. Please, What can I do? At least tell me what to do to stop crying. I just can't anymore. I work in walmart.
Most Helpful Guy
This is a tough one. First thing is not to get into a power struggle. As the quote goes, if you refuse to play the game, you're out of it. These kind of people are often relatively socially powerful or physically imposing, so you have to be careful in that regard. You don't want to fight him on his terms, as they say, he will fling more shit, he's well versed in it, and will actually enjoy it. Try and remain calm and aloof. Your manager has a legal responsibility to provide a safe working environment. You can threaten to escalate it with HR or the manager's manager (who incidentally, didn't deal with the issue, and so can get into trouble for that). Follow through and kick up a stink. Don't think you're not important enough for them to take notice. That's one of the mistakes you may be making. Your self image may be in tatters. You may put yourself underneath people like this bully, or be too willing to follow his orders or take to heart the shit he is saying. No one deserves to be treated like that. You have to value yourself. That will be part of the challenge.
While I don't advocate violence, and this may be impractical for your situation, but I think learning martial arts can be very empowering. Knowing that you can beat the shit out of someone if they step over a line, you can protect yourself, your physical integrity. Of course, one should always learn to deal with problems without resorting to violence. But one learns so much about themselves from a martial art, that I think it makes you less inclined towards violence in the first place.
The other thing is, try and take another perspective. Try and get out somewhere for the day, go for a walk, see some friends, visit somewhere. This experience, though very troubling, is just an experience, which will pass over you. Try and keep a higher perspective.
Your integrity should not rest on this horrible bully's words. He just says horrible things because he's miserable with himself. Believe in yourself. Act decisively to make sure you don't have to put up with this. These experiences, though they are horrible, will make you a much stronger and more self assured person, if you let it.3
Most Helpful Girl
I'm so sorry you are going through this Apple! People are so vile sometimes! I think this guy is a bully and nothing more. Unfortunately your supervisor is favouring him for some reason.
The thing you can do is document everything! If he says something to you, then go to your supervisor. Threaten to go to HR and report that your supervisor is not doing anything about it. You are well in your rights to make a big deal about this as it sounds like this is becoming a hostile working environment for you.
Whatever you do, don't engage with him when he starts saying stuff. Walk away and report it immediately. If there are witnesses, see if they can report this as well. You are not doing anything to deserve the abuse. Try not to take it personally, though I know it is really hard.
The problem is, this person seems really insecure. He needs a victim to pick on and to make them feel worthless in order to feel good about himself. That is really sad!2