Because she believe divorce shouldn't be on your mind at all when marrying?
Guys, how would you feel if your fiance refused to sign a prenup?
What Girls Said 8
This is why I much prefer poor men. They're not as untrusting in this regard.
I would rather date an unemployed man with no car and lives with his mom, than a man who doesn't trust me and makes 40k/yr with his own car.
If you don't trust me, you should not marry me. It's as silly as those couples on Maury who go and get lie detectors. Their relationships are clearly hopeless.3
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Here's the thing - this isn't something that one of you should just throw at the other... it's one of many things that should be part of the discussions you have long before actually tying the knot... you should also be discussing things like what happens first one of you gets sick? Or loses your job? Or decides to try and start on a new career path? What if your plan to have or not have kids gets messed up?0
I'd be ok about it , because I'm financially stable and I have my own house etc. So I wouldn't need anything from him if we did get divorced. I'm very independent , so don't rely on anyone for financial security.1
I think lots of guys on here say they "wouldn't marry her" if she wouldn't sign the prenup, but would you really not? If you're in love enough to want to get married, would that be really all it took to forget the whole thing? I highly doubt it.
The idea of this prenup business is much easier said than done.2
I would just tell her that you don't feel comfortable getting married without one. Maybe you could suggest just living together instead of getting married. You shouldn't be forced into a marriage without a prenup if it makes you uncomfortable.1
She should have no issue with it. Her lack of wanting to sign it would leave me to believe she's being shady. If she loves you it shouldn't matter.0
I wouldn't want to marry a man who asks me for one.1
What Guys Said 28
Well it kind of reminds me of something I read in a newspaper. A woman said the same thing to her husband then they married she cheated on him then took all of his money. The fact is the law always sides with the woman, always. So its perfectly understandable why a man wouldn't want to have a metaphorical loaded gun to his head (though considering that the suicide rate doubles after divorce maybe not that metaphorical) even if its a woman he trusts. If she is confident in her marriage and that she will always stick around and work things out she should have no problem signing a prenup because that would show how much she cares about the relationship that she will put it all on the line for you. So tell her that and don't let her dictate to you what you should or should not do the divorce rate is incredibly high and its almost always initiated by women so you have every reason to want a prenup, every one of those men who lost everything did not plan on loosing it did not plan on their wives divorcing them yet that's exactly what happened and they suffered immensely for it losing all that they spent their entire life trying to build and acquire.0
I'm not quite sure about the differences between a prenuptial agreement and a regular marriage contract (maybe you could explain this to me). In my country, things likes financial division of property in the case of divorce must be agreed upon in the marriage contract. So that's basically mandatory for everyone who gets married. So in this sense, a prenup seems unnecessary because it deals with the same questions as the obligatory marriage contract the way I understand it.1
I would think she's an idiot. You don't worry about death either at marriage, but you sure as fuck get life insurance. See if she'd be happy if you let all your insurance lapse on the wedding day. Oh wait, that would affect her financially, so she'd be pissed.1
Assuming she's proven to be vastly different from all women out there, and that I'd be adventurous enough and quite idiotic to propose to her, then prenup would definitely be a MUST for me, even though I'm very aware prenup isn't necessarily a live saver.
If she says no, then she'd prove she ain't different from any other girl at all, so for me it's a take it or leave it sort of deal. Every reasonable man and woman should know by now no prenup, no marriage.2
Don't marry her then. It's for the protection of assets of both, that they brought to the marriage. It has nothing to do with what assets are aquired after the marriage.
A woman that refuses a pre-nup is highly suspect. Especially in light of the way the entire divorce court favors women.
If you actually have hard-earned assets, money or big stuff you own, and don't want to lose half of it in a divorce, then you want a prenup. Period.
Chances are only 50-50 that you'll stay together anyway. Women up and leave at the drop of a hat. Surely you've heard the 'but I'm not haaaaapppy' mantra. [shrug]1
i'd feel she's a selfish bitch. there's a REASON women initiate 70% of divorce-there's BENEFIT to a woman in divorcing, UNLESS there's a prenup-then it's an even playing field.
a man who marries without a prenup is a fucking idiot. and a woman who refuses one is not fair minded in the first place or she'd understand the mans' need for one-and she thus isn't marriage material in the first place.1
If my fiance refused to sign a prenuptial agreement, I would give her a hug and say "bless your heart love."
Anyone that asks a fiance to sign a prenuptial agreement really does not want to get married and share in the full joy or burdens of a lasting relationship.
Just my opinion0
I'm very against prenups myself, so I wouldn't even pitch one.1
where i live divorces aren't as popular as in america and were catholic even though it happends sometimes, but if i were American a prenup would be a priority , no offense but American women are far from the kind of girl you want to start a family with and they will betray you in the blink of an eye.0
i would not marry anyone without a prenup, its not about not trusting the person i am going to marry but about the courts that i dont trust.0
Holler we want prenup! We want prenup!1
If she's not interested in anything long term, then dump her and go meet some new girls. There's no reason to keep something going with a girl that's marking you up as a meal ticket.0
I wouldn't marry her.1
I will make her sign it or otherwise I wouldn't marry her. And everyone who doesn't sign it is stupid as hell. Sorry to be so direct but its true. Sign it or don't marry her.1
I would feel that she is stupid if she not can see that signing a prenup before getting married is a good thing. Then you an focus on building things togheter from now and in future. Past is past and what she or you have managed in past, is of couse yourown - if a divorce happens. And if not divorcing i would beno problem, you share everything meanwhile.
There is so much divorces so to not do it, would be very stupid for the one that has riches. If0
I wouldn't marry her.1
I would feel frustrated but if she wants to get married bad enough she will sign it, I can wait her out, lol.0
I would call off the marriage if that's the case. Shows I can't trust her.1
An ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure- Ben Franklin0
Im not divorcing anyway0
I would think she is immature
I'm not marrying her. I strongly believe marriage is a trap, she will strip the guy of his assets and property then once she's bored she will leave0
I wouldn't marry her.
To me it shows she is only interested in what I have, and how much she can get if it doesn't work out.
If she loved me for me, she would have no hesitation in signing.
That said, it would be drafted to suit both of us - it has to be fair for both of us, and no alimony to be paid by either side, what was mine when we married is mine, what was hers is hers, what we earned during we split equally, and I will demand equal custody of any children.0
I would agree with her1
Then, I don't get married.1
I will love such a fiance!0
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