Me and my husband's friend were spending the day together he's also my best friend too. He invited me into his bedroom it was the first time I've been in there. I accidentally had sex with him. Now I'm in love with him I don't ever want to leave him. He used to be a sex addict but I thought he got over it. He said he was sorry and held me in his arms and hugged me. He's a really sweet guy. He's mad and jealous that I picked our friend over him. My husband started college this year he's in school right now. I don't know how I'm gonna tell him when he gets home. We've only been married for 3 months. My husband is really nice and sweet like he is he'll probably understand but I'm still scared to tell him. How can I tell him or should I even tell him?
Most Helpful Guy
"Me and my husband's friend were spending the day together he's also my best friend too."
ok cool so far
"He invited me into his bedroom it was the first time I've been in there" hmm a little alarming, but not too terrible
"I accidentally had sex with him" 67.media.tumblr.com/.../...g4I6Xh1trbh6do1_400.gif3
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Is this even a serious question and problem you have? I can't even believe you're married, to be honest. But okay, let's assume this is real. Your husband is a victim of deceit, and your husband's friend is a victim of circumstance. You weren't ready for marriage because first and foremost, your *husband* should be your best friend, not any other guy, and secondly the devotion you're supposed to have with your best friend (who should be your husband) would be the buffer between you and any "accidents" you might have. There should just be no temptations or feelings about other men in the picture, period.
Since you've done this, and painted a troublesome picture of the guy you were deceitful with, there is (what I view as) a definite incompatibility with BOTH men. Once you tell your husband what is only fair to tell him, then I would make an appointment with your doctor to get referred to a therapist to find out what is lacking to make you hurt others and yourself.
And yes, it's fair you tell him. How would you feel if you found out eight years later that your husband did something similar and chose to leave you in the dark because he was just 'scared'. You're denying him happiness to find with or without you knowing the truth. Why should you have it all? You're a couple, and have a responsibility to have a joint life together. Whatever your vows were, go reread them. In there if you see 'be honest' or 'forsake all others' then make things right again by working on your mistake so this doesn't happen again either with him, or someone else in the future.