I met this guy who is really into fitness. He has an amazing body. He is just always in the zone and it's sort of overwhelming. He gets up really early to go on runs everyday. His meals are all prepped in the fridge at all times. He is really fun to be around but his precise schedule and how set in his ways he is can be a little overwhelming. His place is always spot on clean. He is always on the go it seems like. Do I have a right to feel this way or is it weird that I'm even questioning this guy. I think he was in the military or something but I haven't asked.
- You're weird.. sounds like the perfect guyVote A
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I keep my place pretty clean and I do pack lunches like that but he almost does it so perfectly I'd be worried that one minor injury would set him back and he may become the opposite way too lazy. Life doesn't work the way he wants it too. He needs to realize that0
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Ok. A few things to think about, here.
THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT THING here, BY FAR, is the "neat freak" thing.
If the two of you have VASTLY differing standards of neatness -- in other words, if he's a true neat freak, and you are... just a normal person, or on the slobby side -- then A WELL-FUNCTIONING LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP WILL BE *IMPOSSIBLE* between the two of you.
Not just "very challenging" or "difficult" or "love can do it".
See, there's no "win" there. If you lived together and the place wasn't up to HIS standard of "clean", then, misery would ensue (and believe me he'd make you miserable -- neat freaks in messy environments are like 2-year-olds who haven't slept in four days).
If you DID get the place up to his standard, and you did the cleaning 50/50, then YOU would build up a bunch of resentment -- and rightfully so -- because you'd be doing all this work that would be totally pointless FOR YOU, just to achieve some standard for HIM.
And last, if you did the *rational* thing -- which would be bringing the place up to his standard, with HIM doing 80% or 85% or whatever of the cleaning -- then HE would probably start to resent YOU. This would be stupid and irrational (since he SHOULD be doing most of the work, in this scenario), but, I GUARANTEE that's how it would turn out. And YOU would probably be very uncomfortable in that environment, too -- because NON-neat-freaks are just made to feel that way in neat-freak environments. I know these things. (:
So... think long and hard about that one. If yr standards of cleanliness are too different, THIS RELATIONSHIP WILL NOT EVER WORK WELL, and you may as well cut the rope now.
The rest of this stuff -- the meals and the schedule -- depend on whether he's the "includer" type.
A little background, here.
Our house actually runs a lot like what you're describing here. I'm a fitness professional with an NPC pro card in the figure division. My husband doesn't compete, but he sure as hell *could*, if he wanted to -- he's still easily in the single-digit bodyfat percentages, year-round, at age 47 mmmhhhh omg.
If we're not on a total "diet break" week, we tend to cook ALL of the meals for EVERYONE -- us and our 3 kids (and our dogs, who mostly eat raw) -- for a whole week at once, divvy them up, and put them in the fridge.
We don't sit down and eat meals together "as a family".
We don't go to bed or wake up at the same time. (ahah about that... my0
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