Still in college, getting close to getting my degree (yay!). Obviously there are a lot of attractive girls on campus that I see on a daily basis, so it's almost impossible to not think about sex fairly often. However, I've been around these same girls for years, and have tried to go on dates and I've either been rejected, lead on, or blown off each and every time. About a month ago I had a breakdown, and swore off dating. Now I don't let any girls tease me or try to lure me in just to get an ego boost like they usually do. I go about my business, make sure I have a high GPA and stay involved on campus. I plan on going to grad school to get my Masters so that I can get a better paying job than if I just got my Bachelors, and I have plenty of guy friends and hobbies that keep me happy and allow me to have plenty of fun. Obviously deep down I want a girl eventually, but at this moment in time it doesn't seem to be worth all of the drama. My friends have gone through really shitty break ups and even in the good times are complaining about their relationships because it adds to their stresses. Just way too many time commitments. I haven't found a girl yet who's shown any remote interest at me which makes me feel like crap when I think about it, so I just don't think about it anymore, and try to ignore relationships and girls who look at me. It's gotten to a point where when a girl smiles at me I smile back, but automatically rule out the possibility that she likes me. No attractive girl has ever liked me in a sexual way, even though I think I'm decent looking (5 foot 10, 150 pounds) so I've just kind of given up. I used to be sad about it, but now I think it will help me be happier in the long run. Getting myself caught up in that sort of stuff could just be a huge distraction and make me feel less confident, which affects other parts of my life.
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Just treat it as if it ever happens, then it will happen. Such as having a companion for traveling or whatever. But even then no absolute guarantees that an actual relationship would develop and happen and even if that did happen, NO Absolutely Guarantee that it will last forever either. I think those who are able to cope and learn to be content with being still Single and quit trying really have what it takes to keep going forward, as they really have developed some inner strength and will. Some people call it quits but deep down they aren't truly ready to call it quits and continuously dwell on their unhappiness due to the lack of having a relationship. They still feel hurt, mope or cry or blame others for their current single status. The worst might just kill themselves and totally give the fuck up, but that's on them, I don't want to be judgmental about it. Learn to take control of your emotions, if you want to be happy then you will feel happy. Stop caring about what others think about you for being single for a very long time.
Happiness comes from within ourselves, it's inner happines that reall and truly counts and not something from somebody else that wil provide for you.
Treat having someone else later on as a "bonus", and that is "if" it ever does happen at all eventually, and if it don't, then it don't, as these things are sometimes just outside of our control anyway so don't fret about them anymore, and instead, just have fun and enjoy your life the best possible way that you can WHILE YOU STILL CAN.
Otherwise, you get so deeply and emotionally attached to them and then if something changes and things don't exactly work out the way you originally had expected, you won't be so hurt and let down, upset, or depressed. Even more baggage develops from a bad breakup or split.
But if the other person want to be so attached and clingy to you for any reason then so be it, and then it's on you to decide if you still want to be with them or not.
I would strongly agree with PRIORITIZING your career and future. Because right now, the economic climate is not good, you might find a job, or you may not find a job and suffer and face long term unemployment and have student loans to payback, and even more stress. Or you might find a job that totally fucking sucks, regardless of how much they pay you and you'd hate it and feel chained to it like a prisoner, or a slave just "living", scratch that, merely "EXISTING" just to work for somebody else just to2