Few of the reasons why i've never had a boyfriend is because i'm not that good with socialising, i'm awkward, i'm too shy to talk to boys.
I just recently turned 18 and I was having a conversation with a colleague and I told her I have never had a boyfriend and not seeing anyone. They all assumed I was gay because i've never had a boyfriend. They also say stuff about me being innocent, cute, beautiful.
it wouldn't be a problem if they assumed I was because I know i'm not but they think I stare at them/check them out when all I do is actually stare into space. They would stand with their backs infront of me on purpose then look at me weirdly, they think i'm staring at them. It gets reallly awkward and I actually get affected as in I would get irritated because why would they even think i'm that way.
they do this all the time and they would just stand in front of me and would purposely try to get close to me. They would do nonsense stuff because I presume they're trying to validate the fact that I might be gay. I am not but it is really bothering me when they do it and I am aware when they actually do stuff like that.
I don't know if i'm just paranoid or what but it really irritates me.
Some guys at work seems interested in me but i'm a really quiet person and as I said, i'm shy around guys because i'm scared i'll look like an idiot.
They immediately assume I was gay just because i've never had a boyfriend and i don't seem interested with any guys at work. Can't they think of other reasons? Why are people, adults in fact, so shallow? I'm actually so depressed and this just makes it worse.
Most Helpful Guy
Perhaps your friends are in disbelief that you haven't had a boyfriend because they find you to be pretty and the only reason they can come up to explain your status is that you just aren't interested in men. An extrovert will never understand an introvert or somebody who is shy and vice versa, you're best to not even bother wasting energy or time trying to explain your predicament to anybody who also isn't shy. As for their teasing of you, I'm not sure why you are so upset if you are confident about your sexuality. Why does it matter what they might think?
I used to be kind of shy as well but I eventually got out of it by just forcing myself out of my comfort zone. I've come to realize that most people who will actually talk to you won't really think that you're an idiot if you say or do something while trying to open up to them. They're more likely to think that you're an idiot if you try to convince them that 1+1=16 or that Canada is in Africa. If you can manage to convince yourself to worry less about what other people think of you, and to instead focus more on them, what they say and what they do, then you'll do well in socializing.0
Most Helpful Girl
I've never had a boyfriend. Why are people so shallow?
I'm not seeing anything you mentioned as shallow.
Many people assume a relationship is what others want- if you don't have a boyfriend then the assumption is you want a girlfriend.
They saying you're "innocent, cute, beautiful" seems more like building up your confidence. They may think you not never having a boyfriend affected your self-esteem so they want to build you up.
Did they tell you they think you stare at them/check them out? Or do you assume that's why they look at you weirdly? They may be looking at you weirdly not because they think you're checking them out but because you're shy, not good with socializing, and staring into space... some people find that weird/creepy.
Maybe they're trying to include you by standing in front of me and trying to get close to you. They may feel that you aren't comfortable talking to them or joining in the group (if it is a group standing away from you). So they may think getting closer may have you feel easier about joining in and not feel excluded. Especially if your depression is leaking out and others can see it or guess you're sad.0