I am 20 years old. In uni, studying Computer Science, live at home, getting good grades, working when I can and generally have a decent life.
However, I struggle with moderate to extreme depression, somewhat low self-esteem and severe loneliness. I have only 3 friends from high school, 2 of which I hang out with relatively on a regular basis. I have no girlfriend, or any of the sorts. Nor have I ever had one.. besides a short fling in highschool that lasted barely the span of 2 months. I did have my first kiss with her, but have never been on a date, and yes also a virgin. I am in love with a girl I have known for several years but she is in another city going to school as well. We are only friends and talk seldom... and I have reason to believe she is dating another guy which has only furthered my despair.
I have trouble making friends as I am quite an introvert and shy towards new people which unfortunately may come off as being arrogant at times. Though when I get to know people I warm up considerably like an extrovert. I have an excellent sense of humor, wit, and even a bit of charm I suppose in those circumstances. I am sensitive, caring, and consequently live in my mind a lot so no one really hears me out. As far as meeting other women are concerned.. well.. it's even worse hah. I don't think I would want to anyway since my heart is already with the girl I mentioned earlier.. but you get the picture.
Anyways, I figured I don't really have anywhere else to go but here. My parents don't want to listen me and say it's mostly my fault that I feel this way.. which makes me very upset. Talking sensitive things such as this to my male friends also never really seems to solve anything either since I suppose they are equally in the same boat as I am.
Just looking for some advice on life..
Most Helpful Girl
Wow, this is why I say that most parents are guilty of emotionally neglecting their children, but can meet other areas. One thing I will say is that there is nothing wrong with you. I honestly don't know what your trying to accomplish with saying all about you. Accept that you just need to focus on school right now as computer science is a tough degree. And your just going to have to let this girl go. You have plenty time to date later on. Being shy and introverted is not an issue. Your just different. And stay true to yourself. I'm proud that your still a virgin, that is very important.
Overall you seem to be doing just fine, other than the fact that you have longing for a girl who you already feel you can never be with. Just continue doing what you have to do. But what is the overall question you want to ask, as I'm sure your prospects for the future and being lovesick isn't really what you just wanted to talk about?0
Most Helpful Guy
I understand all your problems. These problems look simple from the surface. But they are really grave in nature. They are rooted inside your subconscious mind. A great paradigm shift is required in your thinking process. Unless you are able to put a new blueprint in your mind to alter your previous bad thoughts nothing positive can be done. Just go and meet a Psychologist or a Hypnotherapist. They will give you the right line of treatment. Solution is within your sight if only you are willing to go by what I said. You will become a new person full of hope and confidence. Thanks.0