Feeling depressed these past few days
didn't do to well and two exams and have one on Monday
The love of my life, well, I don't know what to call her, called things off between us </3 , Which is fine, it wouldn't have worked out. but its just really bummed me out.
I hurt my back playing basketball, so I can't play ball or lift weights
My friends are all going out, and want me to come up tomorrow, but I turned them all down since I dont drink or smoke. I don't know what to do with my life, I feel purposeless. I feel like I need to find some motivation.
I feel lost. I just want to sleep but it doesn't help.
How do you cope when you are depressed?
Most Helpful Girl
You're not perfect. You will fail at some things and succeed at some things. Numerous/Countless students have failed exams or performed poorly than they intended. It just means you need to focus better, study better, and ask more questions on the material you're not understanding. Nothing wrong with asking for help. I had taken a state test last April, and I was counting on that test to be a breakthrough for employment. I got an email, opened it up and the word "FAILED" was the first word I saw, and I remember going outside crying really hard. So, I bought a subscription to help me study the test for three months. Took it again some weeks ago and I passed.
Break-ups can be painful, but people never realize that they are also healthy and a good thing, becuase break-ups tell you that you were NOT compatible with that person, and that they were the wrong person. It's better to part ways then to waste your time being in a relationship with someone that is not meant to be. Why waste your time and your energy? Why be with a person that may not even fully want to be with you? Instead, you can be with someone that loves your time and effort. And being with the wrong person who is unfit for you would have brought you more pain the longer the relationship went on. Allow yourself to grieve it out. If you saw her as the love of your life, then you'll obviously need a lot of time to heal, becuase that's how much your heart invested in her.
If you hurt your back, just heal, relax, take a break, dude.
I applaud you for not drinking and smoking. Doing without those two things will make your life a lot easier. Most people nowadays can't even think on their own and just slip into what other people are doing. But just because you don't share interest in the things they do, does not mean you're purposeless. It just means you need to find OTHER things to do with them, or find a more suitable crowd that fits you. They're still your friends, but they're just doing activities you prefer not to. Nothing wrong with that. Suggest doing something with them that doesn't involve smoking, etc.
With my depression, I exercise. I watch comedy movies. I listen to relaxing music. I try to reason with myself and motivate myself to move into action about certain things I CAN have control over or change. I do aromatherapy with pure essential oils. I think about the things I am grateful for and imagine a life without those things to see how drastic my life would be.2
Most Helpful Guy
I have felt oddly depressed and hopeless for the last week, too. No energy, no motivation, for the first time in a while.
Indulge yourself or do something you enjoy, keep yourself busy. When you are down it might feel like you don't deserve to enjoy yourself, but once you get started it tends to be better. I went for a long bike ride on Wednesday to clear my head and enjoy the weather while it's still sort of warm out.
I also have my best friend. We have supported each other through a lot of shit and I can always trust them to listen and offer the honest truth about what's going on.1