That's a picture showing the merit system of academic excellence in the Philippines. Just seeing that chart makes me feel bad about myself.
As for me, I fall under the third (and the lowest of all) classification because my academic average is only 92.
I have this friend who falls under the second classification because her average is 97 (add one more point and she'll receive a gold medal). Last year, I completed 10th Grade with 93 as my average and she had 89 as hers. Now, seeing her performing better than me makes me question my former accomplishment. My mom even got angry at me because she said my friend's improvement is a sign that I'm too arrogant enough to underestimate her (which I did not even do; that's just her opinion and is not true at all).
I guess I better accept the truth that she's excelling even if I did my best. The question is, how? 😞
Most Helpful Guy
The same thing is with me. I always feel very inferior if someone is better than I, even if by a small margin. Even though I'm two years ahead of my class in all subjects, my friend is a step ahead, with higher grades than mine.
I guess the way that I deal with it is just to realize that I'm still better than a lot of people in my school, and my grades are still good, if not the best. A lot of people would love to have my grades, but they don't put in the effort that I do. A 93% is better than that of a 60%, right?2
Most Helpful Girl
You need to try to keep things in perspective. You are a great student, a high achiever and if you keep up this pace, you'll probably be able to get into any school you want.
Ask yourself these questions and hopefully the answers will give you a better perspective..
Is winning and the grade the most important thing or what you learned along the way and how you got there?
Does one or two points really make them smarter than you?
Did you leave anything on the table or the term I like to use is did you give a 'max effort' all the time?
When you didn't do as well as expected, did you go back and figure out what you could have done differently? We tend learn more from when we make a mistake than when we get it all right.
Ultimately it's the processes and habits you develop in High School that will determine how successful you'll be in life, not that your average was a couple of points lower than someone elses.
p. s. If you want to get to more of the How to be a High Achiever, you should listen to the book on CD (don't think it ever came out in print) called the Maverick Mindset by Dr John Eliot. He's engaging and anything but boring. You should be able to check it out from your library or through interlibrary loan. It's 8 CD's, so you can always make an mp4 audio book out of it and listen to it on your phone. Good luck on your journey and if you have any questions, feel free to IM me.1