Should I tell my mother this PLEASE READ ALL THE WAY TO THE END READ EVERY LINE DON'T SKIP ANY. Mom I'm sorry I went to my room last night but I don't want to be around you when you are drunk or drinking. I love you but you get mean not physically but mentally you start yelling at every one for no reason some times I think about recording you so you can here what you say to people. U start yelling a lot when you're drunk. you do good some days and will go a few days with out it but then you get on it again I started thinking about taking every bottle you empty and labeling them and lining them up on the table to show you how much you are actually drinking. I don't know why you do it even though you know that thare are groups that help. U say well I'm drinking because of this or that but thare are other ways to deal with stuff. I know you don't want to admit it and we'll get really defensive when someone tells you the truth. But the fact is fact you can't run from the truth and the truth is YOU ARE an alcoholic. u can't run from the past but you can except it forgive what has happened instead of dwelling on it and make the future better. Alcohol is running your life and making it hell and the only person who can change that is you so please mom please join one of those groups and get better. im sure you will be made at me or say I don't understand or yell at me and that's ok but you needed to hear it and I needed to say it
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Most Helpful Guy
You should tell her, but it's only sad that it won't make much difference.
Do not appeal to her life, and how she is ruining it. Grown up people, often do not care about their own life. You have to appeal about the people that need her, which in this case, is you, or other family that depends on her. It's more likely that she gets softened by that.
Also add a few lines, about how you love some acts that she does when she is sober, or things that she used to do and no longer does. This will put a perspective about how this is affecting you, and your vision of her as a mother.
I'd also advise to write it down and leave it on her night table or something. A talk is easily forgettable. Many of those words won't be memorized correctly, or won't have the same effect as written, cause she'll read it more than once, I guarantee you.
I'm not sure if it's wise to label her as an alcoholic, as people tend to disregard that about themselves, and always believe that they are not. I'm not sure what good it will make.
And also, before suggesting the support groups, talk about how she can talk about her problems with her own family (including you), instead of going for the drinks.
Don't forget to end it with an encouraging note, about how you believe that she can do it, and how you love her still.
Most Helpful Girl
If you were older, I'd say leave her behind until she agrees to get help. It's really sad for a minor to be in this position when there is legally nothing you can do on your own.0