At the beginning, the person might seem well controlled, strong and perhaps even resilient within their mindset, but once you get to know them ( 3-6 months in) they begin to become moody and play the victim card too much making them self-pity majority of the time. Do those types of people often come across you? after that, you wonder why on earth am I attracting whiny people all the time.
- All the time!!Vote A
- Nah, I can tell from the beginningVote B
- Sometimes I doVote C
- I prefer these types pffVote D
Most Helpful Guy
I have no control over who I get as coworkers. But when I'm the supervisor, those types tend to leave my crew quickly.
As for friends, no. Whiny little bitches don't stick around me very long, definitely not long enough to think of me as their friend (I can't think of them as a friend). If they're not scared off by my appearance or my background, then they hit the road as soon as I start talking. I'm not afraid to say what I think or call someone else out on their bullshit, IDGAF *WHO* they are. Speaking your mind tends to drive away the weak. I'm completely in favor of this. I don't want any snivel-bitches around me, of EITHER gender, though I will tolerate SOME behavior from women that I won't tolerate from men. Still, women that are going to be around me should have a thick enough skin that they don't run off crying just because I used 'fuck' as an interjection, verb, adjective, noun, or preposition, or get butthurt by complete honesty or friendly insults.
Most Helpful Girl
I mean, it's bound to happen sometimes... but I find that boundaries reallly help prevent this. I have some great great friends but I tend to make friends more and more these days with a solid sense of who they are and what they believe in. I find my friends incredibly inspiring and motivating!
If I could describe one key 'reason' I attribute this to... it's respect. And that starts with a certain level of self respect. When you respect yourself appropriately you're more able to respect others and see them deeper. You know your limits and you're more able to openly be yourself. You uphold your standards and you understand to what extent it's realistic to hold others accountable to retain your friendship/relationship. And people who don't do that same tend to either step up to that or repel because the friendship incompatibility is evident. I just let it all play itself out and enjoy the ride.0