My dad just walked up to me and said my name to get my attention, I said what and closed my iPad. I think he interpreted that as I thought he was trying to pry at my privacy, he then told me to stop being pissed off at people, I said I wasn't pissed off at people, he said Yes you are. When someone accuses me of being pisssed off, I'm going to be pissed off so I said I am now. And he cussed me out. What just happened? Earlier today, my mom accused me of saying offensive things under my breath, what? No I don't. Oh yes and apparently not starting a conversation with my sister is rude and offensive. Sorry for being an introvert. Eventful day today. I will say that.
How can I stop having them assume things so they'll leave me alone?
Most Helpful Guy
I don't know you. But I think if they are saying that, especially if they say it a lot, then you should at least consider that there is something to it. You should at least try to figure out why they say it. It won't hurt to consider it.
If you take a good hard honest look at yourself and don't see anything, then move on. If it's something on their end, maybe you could figure that out also. But until you understand it, it's kinda hard to do anything about it. They aren't saying that for no reason, even if the reason is miscommunication or misunderstanding.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think its the way how you come off and portray yourself to them. If you constantly irritated, be passive-aggressive and how you're reacting to what they say. If for an example you gave: "When someone accuses me of being pissed off, I'm going to be pissed off so I said I am now."
Whatever you do CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS. Breathe and remain calm. See, your problem is that the moment the person accuses you fo wrong doing you immediately react. Don't do that. That's why he cursed you out. Just calmly say that your not, or just ignore them.
Other than what is happening with your mother. All you can do is just let it be. You don't need to keep explaining yourself to people who have nothing to do with what you do. If you didn't do anything, then you didn't do anything. I'm an introvert as well, and as an INFJ I tend to have the same issue as you do. I'm still learning to be more responsible for my emotions and how I project and handle the way I speak and communicate with people. We are all not perfect. We all make mistakes. The problem with your family is a lot of ignorance on their part, who refuses to get to know you because they believe their way is always right. Especially if their extroverts. Hopes this helps. Remember to practice on that. Make sure you stop, think and listen before you speak.1