Now, I'm understanding that it mah be rude to not finish a plate of food in Chinese culture, and how it may be rude to seem as if I am not enjoying food, but I am recovering from anorexia and my future mother in law is always pushing for me to eat more during meals when I visit with my fiancé (recently proposed). I always try my best to accept food, but some days i still struggle and I feel rude by denying her offers. I was wondering if there is any way for me to describe my anorexia to her in a gentle way because I am embarrassed about it and I'm still in the process of learning Mandarin.
Most Helpful Guy
It's rude to not finish your food in any culture.
There are kids in Africa, who would die for just a scrap of meat.. think about what they don't have, and then what YOU have0
Most Helpful Girl
Maybe get your fiance to explain that to her because he probably knows how his parents think and he might know what method of communication is the most effective. I think they want you to eat - not because they want validation that their cooking and efforts are appreciated but because they think you would be healthier if you gained a little more weight. I don't know though - I wasn't there. Get your fiance to explain this to them - he knows them in a personal way while you might not have that yet.0