I look at speaking up as pushing one's interest, expressing an opinion, or making an ambitious ask. Us as individuals have created a range of acceptable behavior. If we are within that range of acceptable behavior, we are rewarded. If we step out of our range, we are punished. Punishment referring to dismissed, demeaned, or ostracized.
I think this has everything to do with confidence, and let's not look at confidence from a fixed perspective. Confidence may vary depending on the context of the situation. For example, I may be extremely confident when I'm discussing fitness and bodybuilding, as I may have absolutely no confidence when debating philosophical topics.
So my question is, do you have the confidence to speak up for yourself when the risk of punishment is high?
Do you feel that you are often caught in the scenario of thinking that if you don't speak up, you will go unnoticed, or if you do speak up, you will get rejected?
Most Helpful Girl
It depends if the pay off is worth it.
I have no issue speaking up for myself, but there are situations where it is more grief than it's worth. But more than anything I don't allow anybody to walk all over me or dismiss my opinion because they don't agree with it.1
Most Helpful Guy
Sometimes. If it's not that big of a deal to me, I'll let shit go, but I'm never gonna get punked. I don't sweat over the little things cause I think it's just being picky and whiny and unnecessarily forward, but I'll never let myself willingly get fucked over0