I'm 22. I've always been introverted and liked being alone. In preschool I would wedge myself between bookshelves and watch other kids play and laugh at them. I was perfectly content. It wasn't because I was afraid or had anxiety. I was shyer when I was younger. I have shy moments now as well but for the most part when I don't talk it's because I just don't want to. I hate small talk. I don't like telling people the affairs of my life. I'll only speak when I actually have something to contribute and feel like it's meaningful. I keep getting comments from others "you don't talk!" Or in college now, a group member said I was unapproachable because I never talk. Other times I've been labeled as stupid or unaware of things because I don't blab about everything under the moon. Or on dates.. guys always remark how quiet I am. I respond to those who talk to me and I'm the kindest person, but I honestly find it of great effort to talk. I just prefer not to. I like listening and watching or doing other things other than talking. Of course, I also feel a barrier to a lot of people and it's hard for me to connect to many. with those I have a lot in common with, I can talk a lot and carry a great conversation with. But, I rarely have that connection with people around me.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm very much the same. I love to talk, but not about bullshit. If I'm going to make the effort, it better be about something interesting and substantial. I've gotten "unapproachable" too.
Susan Cain's TED talk was so affirming to me, that I bought her book:
Most Helpful Girl
i know exactly how you feel. i have often been called stuck up because of how little i talk. also, when i was in school i HATED being put in groups. it was so freaking awkward. i think the reason for this is because society makes extroverts such a huge deal. the quiet ones are the ones they seem to be afraid of because they never know what they're thinking. so the introverts get pegged as devious, or problematic. it's really dumb.2