It's like you can't win for loosing. If you decide to abort, you're a baby killer. But if you decide to give the baby a chance at life, but with a family who can actually support them, then you're a horrible human being for not caring about your kid...
whats the deal? I'm speaking from experience here. I've decided to give my baby up for adoption and have gotten nothing but hate for it.
Most Helpful Guy
People are selfish and I'd bet most of those who call the moms who put their children up for adoption are actually bad parents who haven't realized it. I personally fully support the moms who are brave enough to think beyond their own selves and want to give their children a chance at the life they actually deserve.
Plus what good is a mother who is barely able to survive on her own, a baby is only going to stretch her already thin amount of resources even lower.1
Most Helpful Girl
Because they shouldn't have sex in the first place. Unlike getting raped, they had a choice to wait till getting married to have sex. But don't. It's within anybody's right to judge as long as they aren't doing the same thing. People have to use discernment when others are doing wrong. Birth control or condoms CANNOT and will not save you from what is natural. A lot of people have horror stories being within the system: getting abused, raped, sent from group home to group home, one family to another family if things don't work out. It's a messy situation. Few had good outcomes. Many may not. The point is you know what the consequences of having premarital sex is. It is your responsibility to be accountable for you allow and don't allow. That is how I look at it. I don't hate you. But I don't agree with your decision. You don't know what the future would hold for you had you kept your child. If you can't be responsible to not wait for sex, you don't have sex. But you will do whatever you want to do. So while you have free will, others have right to judge. Just clarifying. No disrespect, but telling you the hard truth.2
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