He was smokin' up with a couple of friends. I came down from my high and was already sober. The topic of coke suddenly entered the conversation, and my boyfriend suddenly mentions that he did some recently. I was like, "..."
He asked me what was wrong, and I told him that we'd talk about it later when we were alone; and when we finally were I told him straight up that I was disappointed and surprised that he did that. It wasn't his first time; he did it quite a lot when he was single. However when we got together, he said he wouldn't get into it again because we already had each other.
I asked him why he did it and he said it was because he was still young. So I said, "Does that have anything to do with me?" and he said, "No."
He bought me dinner, said sorry, and told me that he won't do it again - meaning next time he does drugs he'll let me know. He added that it was a once in a blue moon thing, and that he wouldn't be doing it every weekend.
I was so appalled though. I don't know how I can handle being with someone that even does this on occasion. I feel betrayed because I thought he wouldn't even try to do anything like that again. And I feel like a goody-two-shoes next to him because I gave up hard chemical drugs when I got together with him. This situation also made me wonder whether there was anything else he hasn't yet told me.
With all these feelings, I kept shut because I didn't want the night to erupt into a crazy fight. So I kept cool.
The next day however, I found myself depressed over the "betrayal". I asked him if there was anything he wasn't telling me yet.
Then he suddenly goes on a ballistic rampage, telling me that I doubt him so much and that I might not be mature enough to handle this relationship. More crazy sh*t will come in the future - and when he said THAT, I began to wonder if he was going to do anything more stupid behind my back and tell me like.. 3 to 10 months later.
I feel as though the equivalent to what he told me would be "HEY BABY I'M PREGNANT AND THE BABY ISN'T YOURS."
He doesn't seem to understand my point. And although YES. I've doubted him BECAUSE OF THIS INSTANCE, he thinks I have no reason to - while I kept on reminding him that I had no idea that he did coke.. And with that said, I was wondering whether there were more things he hasn't told me yet. Things that don't just pertain to cheating, but to drugs, and other things that are important for the other partner to know.
He treated what he did as though it were nothing at all. Which I found appalling.
I have no idea what to do. We've been together for a little over a year, and things have been great up till then. I feel so hurt from this revelation that I am even contemplating ending it. I feel so stupid because I've done so much - I even stayed in the country for college so we won't have to deal with long distance BS. Now I'm starting to wonder whether I've made the correct decision.
I'd very much appreciate it if anyone has some advice to share.
He asked me what was wrong, and I told him that we'd talk about it later when we were alone; and when we finally were I told him straight up that I was disappointed and surprised that he did that. It wasn't his first time; he did it quite a lot when he was single. However when we got together, he said he wouldn't get into it again because we already had each other.
I asked him why he did it and he said it was because he was still young. So I said, "Does that have anything to do with me?" and he said, "No."
He bought me dinner, said sorry, and told me that he won't do it again - meaning next time he does drugs he'll let me know. He added that it was a once in a blue moon thing, and that he wouldn't be doing it every weekend.
I was so appalled though. I don't know how I can handle being with someone that even does this on occasion. I feel betrayed because I thought he wouldn't even try to do anything like that again. And I feel like a goody-two-shoes next to him because I gave up hard chemical drugs when I got together with him. This situation also made me wonder whether there was anything else he hasn't yet told me.
With all these feelings, I kept shut because I didn't want the night to erupt into a crazy fight. So I kept cool.
The next day however, I found myself depressed over the "betrayal". I asked him if there was anything he wasn't telling me yet.
Then he suddenly goes on a ballistic rampage, telling me that I doubt him so much and that I might not be mature enough to handle this relationship. More crazy sh*t will come in the future - and when he said THAT, I began to wonder if he was going to do anything more stupid behind my back and tell me like.. 3 to 10 months later.
I feel as though the equivalent to what he told me would be "HEY BABY I'M PREGNANT AND THE BABY ISN'T YOURS."
He doesn't seem to understand my point. And although YES. I've doubted him BECAUSE OF THIS INSTANCE, he thinks I have no reason to - while I kept on reminding him that I had no idea that he did coke.. And with that said, I was wondering whether there were more things he hasn't told me yet. Things that don't just pertain to cheating, but to drugs, and other things that are important for the other partner to know.
He treated what he did as though it were nothing at all. Which I found appalling.
I have no idea what to do. We've been together for a little over a year, and things have been great up till then. I feel so hurt from this revelation that I am even contemplating ending it. I feel so stupid because I've done so much - I even stayed in the country for college so we won't have to deal with long distance BS. Now I'm starting to wonder whether I've made the correct decision.
I'd very much appreciate it if anyone has some advice to share.
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I'd like to mention that he's done shrooms and told me immediately before or after. We also smoke weed together sometimes. But as for coke, I know nothing about it except that it's a chemical drug and that it makes you hyper.
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He's not addicted to coke by the way.
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