You find out that your girlfriend or boyfriend has dated interracially in the past, meaning they've dated someone of a different race. Do you have a problem with it or are you accepting of it or is it whatever? Would your opinion of them change?
Some users are asking why this matters and are saying this is a useless question.
Almost every question on this site is useless. I asked this to gain a different perspective and looking at the poll, there are obviously some people who are not OK with the above scenario. If this question is useless or has no meaning, why bother answering? This was just for my curiosity. Thanks for answering
If it is a white woman and they only dated guys of another race exclusively and then dated me (white guy) then it might make me think something was up. I would think she had low esteem for her race (most likely low self-esteem too), but now she wants to go back to her race after getting jaded from too many dudes from the other race.
If I date a girl of a different race and she has dated interracially before then it would make me feel more at ease knowing I'm not the only white guy she has been with and the relationship isn't some kind of experiment.
If it's any woman that just dates whatever guy she likes no matter what race they are then it wouldn't bother me.
I think some white guys might fear that you've been stretched out by some 'big black brothas' and won't be able to reach where they've been. Of course, having this belief would denote a lack of self confidence and understanding of human anatomy. If your guy has a problem with it you should dump the chump. If homegirl hating then she just a dumb bitch.
This thread looks like a trap for racists! I dare anyone to say they wouldn't date a person who had dated outside of their "race"(whatever that means). The poor little xenophobe would have to post anonymously.
I found out that for the whole year before we started dating, my boyfriend had joined an interracial dating site and interacted with many many black women and dated one for several months. He also had a long distance relationship online for months with a black woman that he called his soulmate and asked her to marry him. (I found their old conversation). We have been dating for 2 years. As a white woman... This really bothers me and I can't let go of it. I wouldn't care if he occasionally dated a black woman because race didn't matter... but because he went looking specifically for only black women on this site and liked soooo many of them, I feel like he has a preference for black women and I don't want to be someone's second preference. He says he loves me more than anyone he had ever known and he doesn't care about anyone else and wants to be with me for the rest of his life, but I still struggle with this.
I experienced with a white guy before and once we ended he told me that he was embarressed to go out with me because of my race. A few weeks later, I found out he hooked up with a few girls of his own race..if bothered me a lot because of the way he told me when we originally broke up. We both made this decision to because I just wasn't committed anymore, and I was attracted to someone of my own race within the relationship. And I felt dishonest so I told him, he might of said this out of anger and his actions definitely showed..but it's over now. I honestly do not care, but I think you would have to experience an interracial relationship and a breakup with that to understand this question and where she's comming from.
I've met a couple white guys who have black gf's because they actually care and love these women. Then I've met others who just want to have a sexual experience with other races, but give all their true affections to women of their own race.
It' works sometimes like that in other races too - guy just happened to be white in my example lol
Anyway - if the guy has dated openly, and not exclusively while flinging with other races , then I'd be more eased in his intentions.
If he prefers his own race and just wants another flavor to sample on the side - then I'd be bothered by it.
No. I would not have a problem. In fact, I can't even see it as something that needs to be mentioned.
Seriously people - who cares?
Skin color is as important as hair color.. ie, it's not.
And talking about different cultures makes no difference either. People who grew up in London differ from those who grew up in the countryside.. And they're the same race.
The only thing I'd have a problem with, is people that have a problem with this. If I found out that any of my friends were that racist I honestly think I'd have issues ever looking at them in the same light.
lol...I would respond with cool and ask about the cultural difference they experienced with that partner. I see no problem with it...I don't really plan out who to date whomever comes along that I become interested in I date no matter past interracial relationships. I accept that person for who they are...now if you asked me how I would feel if my boyfriend dated someone with AIDS or an STD in the past I just might have to say goodbye. Safety First! ha.
I would prefer a boyfriend who hasn't but I would overlook it if it was just for sex or he didn't really care about her. Also if the majority of girls he dated were his race I'd overlook it. But not someone who has dated outside their race repeatedly unless he's mixed himself.
It was only until when I began visiting this site that I realized people actually care about 'race' when they date. This is not present in the place I live and if someone would say they did not want to date someone because of their race they would be shunned and pretty much hated by everyone. Preferences is a whole other thing like liking blondes or dark eyes, but refusing to date a decent nice person because of their race is ridiculous in my view. :)
A. Most definitely A. I will never knowingly date a white girl that had dated outside her race in the past. I believe one must be loyal to your race, at least sexually. I will also immediately dump a girl I'm in a relationship with if I find out that she has done this. I will make a point to find this out before I get too invested in her. Luckily I don't live in the USA. Here where I live white girls are still conservative and have their heads screwed on firmly. Also no self-righteous people here that will call me backwards for simply not buying into this new age, hip-hop, color-blindness propaganda. Sure, everyone can have equal rights, but date your own race, thank you very much. I won't try to stop you from dating outside your race if you really want to; I'll simply lose sexual interest in you and it is my right to dump you for it.
I have to laugh at all the beta white males and liberal wussies insulting people who vote A. Have fun thinking you are better than others. If you liberals can only realize how intolerant and totalitarian you are. More power to you if you don't care about this issue, but don't insult or try to incriminate those who do.