You boyfriend/girlfriend has dated interracially in the past-do you have a problem with it?

[Anonymous]

You find out that your girlfriend or boyfriend has dated interracially in the past, meaning they've dated someone of a different race. Do you have a problem with it or are you accepting of it or is it whatever? Would your opinion of them change?

Yes I would have a problem with it

No I would not have a problem with it

It depends or other-explain

Updates

+1 y

Some users are asking why this matters and are saying this is a useless question.

Almost every question on this site is useless. I asked this to gain a different perspective and looking at the poll, there are obviously some people who are not OK with the above scenario. If this question is useless or has no meaning, why bother answering? This was just for my curiosity. Thanks for answering

[superqueer]

Yes, I would definitely care, and it would be a deal breaker. I am not ashamed to admit it. I believe in equal rights and opportunities for everyone, but I don't believe in racial mxing.

And to all those who claim that only hillbillies or small minded mutants feel this way, well, embrace your new age mumbo jumbo if you like; I know that I won't be able to change your minds. Just know this: no one is going to give you a medal for being a white person that dates other races in order to be politically correct. If you really want to, then fine, but don't pretend like the sun is somehow shining out your backside because you do, and that other white people who don't want to, are somehow inferior creatures of the night. We are still allowed to have freedom of choice and freedom of expression in today's time, and that means that a white person should be able to be honest about his preferences in dating without being assaulted and harassed for being displeased with a girl's inter-racial dating track record. It does not even make him a racist, just culturally conscious and conservative.

He might view a white girl that has done this as being just a tad too liberal and indisciplined to have made such a bold move. In other words, they just won't be compatible. Whitenes and the features of white people - brown, red and blond hair, green and blue eyes, etc. are recessive and it might concern a man that the hite girl he is dating was at some point willing to not pass on those features. It is his right to like whiteness that much if he does. She will then be better off to be with a white man who doesn't care, but this does not make the other white guy a bad person. If it does, then why is someone who tries to conserve a certain threatened language from going extinct not considered as a hater of other languages?

Also keep in mind that us white people are not particularly blessed when it comes to penis size, with only small percentage having above 7" penises. So you might think you are this wonderful, open minded white guy, but when you make love to your white girl she is going to subconsciously compare you to the 12" African American lovers she had slept with in the past and oh boy, will you be coming up short in that department. Don't be surprised if that's the reason she leaves you. This is only logical and natural. They say size doesn't matter, but that's just women trying to be PC. In the back of their minds they will resent you for being inferior. Not that I have had personal experience with this matter (: it's just pure common sense.

[Bergilpol]

Its shows she had no regards for her ancestors.
The thousands of generations before her who were all whites. Its the most ancient and sacred matter that transcends church and ideology. And she is ready to end all that. Loving the swag and game and staring at the bulge in his pants, and not caring about his sloping forehead that indicates his smaller brain size.

[Anonymous]

anyone who votes A is almost surely inbred...

[johnlaw1990]

Anyone who uses the "inbred" argument, is a communist who thinks they can shame the world into thinking like them.

[nyalalam]

A. Most definitely A. I will never knowingly date a white girl that had dated outside her race in the past. I believe one must be loyal to your race, at least sexually. I will also immediately dump a girl I'm in a relationship with if I find out that she has done this. I will make a point to find this out before I get too invested in her. Luckily I don't live in the USA. Here where I live white girls are still conservative and have their heads screwed on firmly. Also no self-righteous people here that will call me backwards for simply not buying into this new age, hip-hop, color-blindness propaganda. Sure, everyone can have equal rights, but date your own race, thank you very much. I won't try to stop you from dating outside your race if you really want to; I'll simply lose sexual interest in you and it is my right to dump you for it.

I have to laugh at all the beta white males and liberal wussies insulting people who vote A. Have fun thinking you are better than others. If you liberals can only realize how intolerant and totalitarian you are. More power to you if you don't care about this issue, but don't insult or try to incriminate those who do.

[nyalalam]

I'm a guy. I randomly clicked girl without thinking when signing up, and now I'm stuck with it :/

But my opinion would have been the same if I were a girl.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Depends on their intentions.

I prefer white / Hispanic / Asian guys -

I've met a couple white guys who have black gf's because they actually care and love these women. Then I've met others who just want to have a sexual experience with other races, but give all their true affections to women of their own race.

It' works sometimes like that in other races too - guy just happened to be white in my example lol

Anyway - if the guy has dated openly, and not exclusively while flinging with other races , then I'd be more eased in his intentions.

If he prefers his own race and just wants another flavor to sample on the side - then I'd be bothered by it.

But who wouldn't be bothered being the side dish?

[xochanelxo15]

I experienced with a white guy before and once we ended he told me that he was embarressed to go out with me because of my race. A few weeks later, I found out he hooked up with a few girls of his own race..if bothered me a lot because of the way he told me when we originally broke up. We both made this decision to because I just wasn't committed anymore, and I was attracted to someone of my own race within the relationship. And I felt dishonest so I told him, he might of said this out of anger and his actions definitely showed..but it's over now. I honestly do not care, but I think you would have to experience an interracial relationship and a breakup with that to understand this question and where she's comming from.

[Camilus]

If it is a white woman and they only dated guys of another race exclusively and then dated me (white guy) then it might make me think something was up. I would think she had low esteem for her race (most likely low self-esteem too), but now she wants to go back to her race after getting jaded from too many dudes from the other race.

If I date a girl of a different race and she has dated interracially before then it would make me feel more at ease knowing I'm not the only white guy she has been with and the relationship isn't some kind of experiment.

If it's any woman that just dates whatever guy she likes no matter what race they are then it wouldn't bother me.

[brokenbutbreathing]

No. I would not have a problem. In fact, I can't even see it as something that needs to be mentioned.

Seriously people - who cares?

Skin color is as important as hair color.. ie, it's not.

And talking about different cultures makes no difference either. People who grew up in London differ from those who grew up in the countryside.. And they're the same race.

The only thing I'd have a problem with, is people that have a problem with this. If I found out that any of my friends were that racist I honestly think I'd have issues ever looking at them in the same light.

[kheserthorpe]

I'd be worried that if she had dated a lot of guys from a race with small penises, she'd be used to the easy quickies, and disappointed with how much foreplay she'd need to comfortably handle me.

Well, worried might be overstating it a bit ...

[SkinnyG]

ok now you're race profiling? heehee

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

wow. slongs were the last thing I'd think someone would worry about :P

[Matrim]

umm wtf? I'm sorry but this is the most meaningless question ever. I would have a problem if they dated sheep or dogs...One would think that humans date humans right?

[heartbroken28]

so true that is exactly what I thought

[Asker]

If it's meaningless then why did you bother reading?

[brokenbutbreathing]

Best answer I've seen yet. And @QA I'm assuming he answered to make the point that it is a silly question and it shouldn't matter.. Unless they are dating sheep.. That is weird.. Lol

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I would prefer a boyfriend who hasn't but I would overlook it if it was just for sex or he didn't really care about her. Also if the majority of girls he dated were his race I'd overlook it. But not someone who has dated outside their race repeatedly unless he's mixed himself.

[Mrsupaakeru]

Why? I'm simply curious.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Because he more than likely has self hate/mommy issues. Most black men who majority date interracially usually have deep seated racial issues that I want nothing to do with. Either he is ashamed of being black, he's hateful toward black women as a whole, or he had issues with his mom it's always something. I just can't be bothered

[tohrment]

That's makes you uncomfortable, but you're okay with dating a guy who has relationships where he doesn't care about her or are just about sex? Odd.

[DiamondKutt]

Yeah the stereotyping is not cute. Just sayin'.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Most men will deal with women just for sex. Not every guy in a relationship has tremendous feelings for the girl he's with, sometimes it's a relationship of convenience and other times he just wants a steady supply of ass

I don't like the stereotyping either but most of the black men who date out DO have messed up things to say about black women as a whole. I have heard this come out of their mouths. And ask nonblack women who date them what they say about sistas. it's often nothing nice.

[Kladdpapper]

It was only until when I began visiting this site that I realized people actually care about 'race' when they date. This is not present in the place I live and if someone would say they did not want to date someone because of their race they would be shunned and pretty much hated by everyone. Preferences is a whole other thing like liking blondes or dark eyes, but refusing to date a decent nice person because of their race is ridiculous in my view. :)

[EngineeringStudent]

I'm not insecure/racist, so why would I care? Wouldn't change at all.

[Anonymous]

Well, where I live it seems like most of the white girls that do date interracially go with thuggish types of guys. If that's the case, no I would not date her. That would be the same if she was dating a similar type of white guy too, though. If she was dating someone a little more similar to me and he happened to be of another race, I'd be fine with it.

[UnoriginalUsername]

Lololol. I know of people like that. I don't get it. I wouldn't care one bit.

[Mrsupaakeru]

This thread looks like a trap for racists! I dare anyone to say they wouldn't date a person who had dated outside of their "race"(whatever that means). The poor little xenophobe would have to post anonymously.

ps just so everyone knows: totally NOT a racist!

[Mrsupaakeru]

I guess my answer was overly flippant. For the record, I would be open to dating anyone and would not be at all bothered if a girl I was dating dated someone with different physical characteristics from mine (some people term this' race').

[palek]

Only a small-minded mutant would have a problem with such a thing.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

THIS XD

[palek]

; - )

[brokenbutbreathing]

Nice.

[osalien]

I think some white guys might fear that you've been stretched out by some 'big black brothas' and won't be able to reach where they've been. Of course, having this belief would denote a lack of self confidence and understanding of human anatomy. If your guy has a problem with it you should dump the chump. If homegirl hating then she just a dumb bitch.

[Chaaz]

lol... the whole silly "once you go black you never go back"nonsense?

[johnlaw1990]

Dump the chump? If someone doesn't want to date interracially or date someone who has dated interracially, that is their right. You have no right to try and force your ideology down their throats and vice versa.

[MrJune]

Personally, No.

I feel sorry for people who are racist, or bothered with people who can look past the color of someone's skin, or the label of someone's race and find true happiness.

[BeautifulButterfly99]

I found out that for the whole year before we started dating, my boyfriend had joined an interracial dating site and interacted with many many black women and dated one for several months. He also had a long distance relationship online for months with a black woman that he called his soulmate and asked her to marry him. (I found their old conversation). We have been dating for 2 years. As a white woman... This really bothers me and I can't let go of it. I wouldn't care if he occasionally dated a black woman because race didn't matter... but because he went looking specifically for only black women on this site and liked soooo many of them, I feel like he has a preference for black women and I don't want to be someone's second preference. He says he loves me more than anyone he had ever known and he doesn't care about anyone else and wants to be with me for the rest of his life, but I still struggle with this.

[BeautifulButterfly99]

by the way... I'm a female. Hit male by mistake when joining and don't know how to change it.

[Askingonly]

Wow I'm with you
My girlfriend told me her admiration for one race, I also don't want to be second choice, do I marry her?

[Prescribed_By_Me]

lol...I would respond with cool and ask about the cultural difference they experienced with that partner. I see no problem with it...I don't really plan out who to date whomever comes along that I become interested in I date no matter past interracial relationships. I accept that person for who they are...now if you asked me how I would feel if my boyfriend dated someone with AIDS or an STD in the past I just might have to say goodbye. Safety First! ha.

[cun7n1nja]

Nah, that kind of thing is pretty irrelevant to me.

[gonyr]

wouldnt care, but I will acknowledge that there sometimes is a stigma in our society when you see a white girl whos been with a few black guys.

but anyone who says that they would have a problem can no longer refer to Kim Kardashian as hot

[MissConfused93]

Umm no. Because I only date interracially. I've been with a black guy, an el salvadoran, a Mexican, ...

[mariafromabove1979]

which had the biggest dong lol

[MissConfused93]

Dunno. The black guy or the Mexican? I like how I got a down vote lol. I don't try to only date interacially, it just works out that way.

[Alpha_1]

It's a well known fact that Hispanic and Arab mixed people have the biggest followed closely by black guys.

[Hazel63]

a person from el salvador or mexico is Hispanic, essentially the same race lol just saying. Distinctly different cultures though. :)

[MissConfused93]

Yep, I'm aware hahaha.

[Alpha_1]

I know you are aware, it is a well known fact

[MissConfused93]

No, that comment was meant towards Hazel63

[Alpha_1]

no really?

I was joking both times at yours and hers size racial profiling. It depends on the person.

[sunseeker11]

keep your perviously sexual encounter to your self. it will because touble later,

[Pedantic]

I wouldn't have a problem with it, but it would matter.

I would basically see them as more enlightened and I would expect to get more out of the relationsihp as a result.