It takes them a lot of courage and confidence for any person to go up to another person and tell them how they personally feel about them. You seem to be doing the right things such as smiling at the guy to indicate positive and open body language to get him to come over and take to you. Maybe you can try waving at him or even use your hands to tell him to come over and have a conversation with him. Guys usually just look over at a girl that are interested in to see if she is in the open and that she is in the mood. If she is smiling and looking like she is having a good time or is even in a neutral mood then a guy with confidence will go over to that girl and ask her out. If the girl looks sad then a guy with confidence will go over with a strategy to make her feel better and then ask her out. If a guy sees that the girl he is interested in is angry then he might just stay away until she cools off or he might just go over to her, try to cool her off, and then try to ask her out. In my mind, guys make it happen by analyzing availability, mood, and confidence. A guy will most likely already know if he is interested in a girl whether through physical means or personality means. He just needs the confidence and fearlessness to go over and try to make it happen with a girl. I hope my response wasn't too long and I hope I could answer your question and maybe give you some peace of mind. Best of luck with your romantic endeavors!
No matter what you do, many guys will not approach you even when they are interested. Fear of rejection, or being rejected hurts them so they reject themselves by not doing anything.
Try approaching them. If you are extremely good looking, a great majority of guys will be intimidated by you.
Guys reading this question/answers. If this is you, go and try to get rejected. It won't hurt you, and you will not care at all very quickly. She will say yes, or she will say no. 50/50 chance trying, 0 chance not trying.
If rejected trying to only talk to someone unless they are busy or something, they are someone you would not want to be around anyway.
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It can be for lots of reasons; they might think you're too pretty/think you're too much out of their league for them to even try. Other reasons can be fear of rejection, they might already have a girlfriend, it might not have been in their plans to try their luck with a pretty girl that day or worth even trying, they might think you look like someone they know, they don't want to annoy you, embarrass themselves, they might not know what to say or start a conversation with a someone they don't know in a public area (club, mall, movie theatre, gym, cafeteria.
Try walking up to a stranger and start talking to them after exchanging awkward looks as they watch you walking towards them, how would you feel and how do you think they would feel, what can you start talking about? It not always easy and it can turn awkward quickly.
They might be turned on by your looks and enjoy looking at you but don't necessarily want to bother talking to a stranger or someone they don't know. Sometimes it might be because you stand out, but it has nothing to do whether they find you attractive, you might be simply in their vision and it's hard not to look at you from where they are standing.
Base on the guys checking you out mean that you have one of the following characteristic.
- Big breast
- Big butt
- Nice figure.
If you don't have any of that you might be dressing too provocative.
Guys eyes are automatically draw check out these thing like a moth to a flame. Its not voluntary. It like a reflex that we don't have much control over.
Also being in a relationship that start off with a guyy checking out your body is properly not a good thing. Friend introduction is properly the best way. You have a third party that you know to vouch for the guy credibility.
Because if you go up to a hot girl and tell her she's hot or has a nice ass... 99.9 percent of the time you will get called a pervert by either the girl herself, or by another guy around the girl...
And if you try to grind on her ass you will get slapped or called a rapist..
So the only thing you can do is talk to her about regular non-sexual things...
But what's the point of that? cos you don't care about nonsexual things... the only thing your intrested in the girl is her body
So there's no point trying anything
Because 999,999 times out of a million it isn't worth approaching a girl. Why don't you just approach the guys?
"...and how can I get them to actually make a move?" SMH...yet another girl who wants to rob men of their free will. I've said it before and I'll say it again - your best bet is the Jedi Mind Trick.
This is old but just wave. They'll come. It doesn't make you easy.
just bend over in front of them and let me know what happens thanks
Do you smile at them?
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