Do white men really not like black women?

Question

I've always lived by the motto that race didn't matter, so I never factored it into anything-- especially when it came to dating. However, I stumbled upon an article about race and dating which lead me to multiple threads on white men dating black women and what they thought about it. What I read was crazy. I never would have guessed that, in this day in age, that something like race would still matter-- especially when it came to dating & love. So here's my question, do white men honestly not find black women attractive? And, if so, why not?

karlthomas · Accepted Answer

I'm white and I am generally attracted to white women, but I also find other races attractive. I will say with all honesty, that I generally do not find darker skinned women, be them Hispanic or of Afro-descent altogether attractive. I imagine a large part of attraction can be represented in the ability of one partner to find corresponding elements that mirror, supplement, or complement themselves in the opposite partner. When one element of that equation, or search to find 'someone like you', comes in contact with something so stark and divergent from what is expected of a partner, it can be difficult to overcome.

The other side of this discussion is the promotion of certain aspects of culture within the Afro-community at large. For many, it is simply easier to deal with members of similar cultural background that you are comfortable with than to sift through members of a particular race/religion/etc.. for members of that race that do not necessarily fit the typical definition of said race/religion/etc...

As an example, I find it much easier to approach a table of white women in conversation than to approach black females in conversation. With the white women, my chances of them having similar cultural backgrounds as myself is higher than if I were to approach the table of black women.

I am not attracted to the rap culture. I find it to be rather disgusting for both male and female African-Americans. I find it to be a sub-culture that preys on the less intelligent members of the African-American race to become thugs.

Now my perception is that the odds are rather high that the black women at the table will have at the very least, grown up in the rap culture. Whether that is true or not is beside the point. It is my perception. And like it or not, it is promoted by the media, Hollywood, and many of the Afro leaders in this country.

But the white girls hardly get a free pass. They are likely to be whining, conceited, spoiled, and fully dependent on others for their creature comforts. They are also likely to be to busy texting to notice I am having a conversation with them.

Perhaps I should start pursuing black chicks!

G-Daz · Accepted Answer

Tottally not true...don't listen to an article, its a single point of view and I don't think the internet is a good source for gaining an understanding of general preferences.

Honestly I think even the guys who claim they are not attracted to black girls will always have exceptions. I've known white guys who have stated they do not find black girls attractive, yet when its a celebrity like gabrielle union, beyonce, rihanna etc those ones apparently do not count 0_o. This is why I think racial preference is generally less ingrained and more environmentally influenced through upbringing and surroundings for the most part and most people will follow trends just because its the "norm".

Its generally that or they believe stereotypes about black girls being 'ghetto' and loud etc but in my opinion, its just an excuse or another way of just saying they are not open to it. I find black girls very attractive for a host of reasons, physically and mentally. I only actually realized how attracted I was to black girls by 17 too

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

yea they do I'm black & most of the time I'm approached by white guys. *Even the ones that say the don't like black girl, followed by you're the exception you're pretty you look like Janet Jackson, Haley berry ( just some or any famous black woman) .Or they will pull the I didn't know you were black. When they ask me my race and I am clearly black. I thought you were Spanish, mixed, Indian. It's all really a preference thing I'm usually attracted to white guys but not strictly. I think people should like whoever they like. I also don't like when white guys approach me and are like I only like black women. Acquaintances from high school on Facebook. -_- Because honestly

I prefer if I like them and we are in a relationship they only like me.

foreverme · Accepted Answer

Like anything, obviously there are white guys who like black girls and there are those who don't. It's just a preference (and I'm sure you have your own preferences too), so don't get hung up over it and don't take it personally. You are lucky to be living in the US where there are so many black guys to choose from and would probably love you. I can't say the same where I am from...I can go days or even weeks without seeing a black guy.Yeah white guys have shown interest in me, but I kind of want to see what it's like to date a guy of my own race.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I love how some of these men are saying I only date people b.c of there skin color?

I tend to be attracted to white men but I do not go out saying I'm only going to date white people. I date people because I'm attracted to them and I start liking their personalities.

give up her just because of her skin color even if she had the most amazing personalty and she is gorgeous link

but they would choose her because she is white. even if she was a big ole mean nasty bitch and a fat slob link

karlthomas · Answer

Oh, and one more element of a potential relationship with a black female... her past black boyfriends and their potential reaction to her dating a white dude.

For that matter, the reaction of any black male in her life, be it brother, father, or uncle. For many on both sides of the race discussion, the subject is taboo. I sure wouldn't enjoy talking my way out of a conversation with an angry black father who believes some punk white boy is messing around with his daughter.

Angry white men fathers and brothers can be dealt with...

I'm pretty certain I would live in fear of pissing of a black female's father or brother.

EngineeringStudent · Answer

They don't think as a single unit. Some do, some don't. Some just simply don't care about race, or actually prefer Black women. Others may not be attracted at all. The ones that don't usually don't for a variety of reasons:

1. They simply don't find their features to be attractive.

2. They don't find their features physically unattractive, but are turned off by stereotypes and generalizations.

3. A combination of one and 2.

Habakkuk · Answer

Not that I don't like them, I like them fine, I'm just honestly not attracted to their appearance in general, as much as a white girl or Hispanic girl or something. Not that I hold anything against them, just how I naturally see them. I don't decide what I find attractive and what I don't. Instinct did it for me

24Hopelessvirgin · Answer

As long as they aren't ghetto and there friends won't beat me up or shoot me. And they don't expect me to have a 10 inch donkey penis. Sorry if that sounds racist at all. But as long as they aren't like that. Then no some are very attractive and have a great sense of humor.

davematthewsband589 · Answer

We can't control who were attracted to.. if a white guy isn't attracted to a black woman it doesn't mean its because of her race.. it's simply because he's not attracted to her.. the same thing can happen with a white man not being attracted to a white woman

Konnour · Answer

You're right - we don't. Or at least I don't.

Why? I just don't find black chicks attractive! Wide, flat noses, too huge lips, too curly hair, black skin, black eyes, ugh..

White chicks are so much more attractive!

And the girl actually made a point. If you're black, why don't you stick with your own race?

I stick with my race.

Anonymous · Answer

most of them don't. this is why I don't get why the black girls on this site are so pressed over white guys. half of them think your lower than them because of your race. trust me I grew up around white people (often was one of the very few blacks around) and many of them have preconceived stereotypical notions about AAs and are ignorant. why yall want to date these white boys I have no idea. stick with black men

WeaponZero · Answer

I like black women who don't act like ghetto trash.  Unfortunately where I live that's the majority of them. =( I see a lot on here though who are awesome.

glamphotog · Answer

Have you never seen a white guy with a black girl? I have. Don't believe everything you read. On the other hand, everyone is attracted to different things.

yopyopyop · Answer

I'm white, and I find skin colors indifferent. If the girl is cool, I'll want to date her. I find racism is the most extreme expression of imbecility.

Anonymous · Answer

When in comes to white men and black women, opposite does not attract. If you want to dating a white guy, you will have to act white i.e. don't speak ebonic, dress like white girls, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on the guy and it depends on the girl. I have preferences of course, but if I see an attractive black woman and she seems compatible with me, I'll date her.

beer3 · Answer

Simply I find all black girls not attractive, don't know why but your looks are gross and its not my style. But white girls are very attractive and I stick do dating my race only.

Anonymous · Answer

"I've always lived by the motto that race didn't matter, so I never factored it into anything-- especially when it came to dating. "

Yet you're most concerned about White men not liking you not black men, brown men etc

ColtsFanForever · Answer

you know there are some very attractive black girls.

Anonymous · Answer

@update: Possibly the best statement I've heard on this site. I'm also gone

johari · Answer

That's the American experience.

jwaboutlife · Answer

color shouldn't matter its all about personality

Anonymous · Answer

Just ask one in real life

Anonymous · Answer

Lol what is reddit I think I'll check it out

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