Do you prefer an in-shape or out of shape partner?

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I know, 2 extremes I suppose, but mind you I'm not talking about a 500 lbs woman who can't get out of her bed nor am I talking about some buffed up body building check or someone with the strength of a 2 year old or the strength of the hulk.

Skinny-fat is generally considered ideal by most in everyday lives(not by magazine standards) and skinny-fat chicks are out of shape typically or they're the girls in the gym with the full face of makeup on doing a half assed workout on the treadmill.

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So I guess you could consider in shape being in top physical shape or looking as though you work out, like this chick link (I guess anywhere from 1:45-2:20)

which do you prefer?

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Or do you simply not care?

Again, I'm not thinking of extremes here lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have a lot of friends who actually work out, eat healthy, and yet aren't super-toned. They don't go "half ass" on the treadmill, yet they're still not in top physical shape. And you know, I think they look absolutely fine. Asides from the 3rd link, I thought all the girls looked great. Maybe they weren't the absolute fittest people in the world with toned this and toned that and female "abs", but so what.

And I think when the terms "in shape" and "out of shape" starts referring to people - like many of the ones in the link - who are just normal, attractive, *real* people that most likely have little no health problems, then there's a problem. Of course people are going to prefer an in-shape partner, but to the extent of picking someone who's in the top 5% of "in shape" people... I think that doesn't really matter as there's a lot more to people than just the extent of their fitness level and, as I said, when it gets to this point of picking this or the "creme de la creme" of the crop... that's just pickiness and high standards.

Snow123 · Accepted Answer

I'm going to have to agree with iwish46, I don't really care as long as the guy is healthy enough to exercise with me. I run a lot of marathons, etc. and while I don't expect him to be able to run one of those no problem, it would be nice if he can at least go hiking or do a mild jog with me.

As a side-note though, calling people "bonafide retards", and saying whomever is/are "out of shape" when you don't even know what they actually look like, is pretty disrespectful.

goflipaburger · Accepted Answer

I guess my boyfriend is out of shape, he's pretty chubby. But you know I love the chub :)

I generally don't care, my ex was REALLY fit. The kind that made P90x look like patty-cake.

Although I do prefer guys who are chubby and technically out of shape, I'm pretty indifferent about their bodies initially. In the long run, I find myself happiest with some chub, but I am in no way unhappy without it :p So I actually don't care.

kheserthorpe · Accepted Answer

Actually don't care much ... first two links I found attractive, the thick girl is attractive, the 'skinny fat butt' was sorely disappointing.

I guess of those I'd maybe pick your 'in shape' one. But I'd probably go skinny fat over rap-video-thick if you know what I mean?

iwish46 · Accepted Answer

Personally, it doesn't matter to me as long as she likes to exercise. I would prefer someone who I could exercise with.

Livestrong58 · Answer

A girl doesn't have to be in perfect shape to be attractive. I typically am around athletic girls because that's my job and so its something we have in common. As long as she likes to be active so we can do things together, I'm happy. As for your links, the first link was the most attractive

Anonymous · Answer

I think I would feel more comfortable with my body with a guy a bit out of shape, as I am like the one in the middle in your second link I had fitted guys hiting on me but o couldn't stand the idea of getting naked Next to someone so fit so I don't date them...

Anonymous · Answer

That ass in the 3rd link is just repulsive. In what world is that considered ideal?

In-shape or out-of-shape. . . hhhmmmmm. . . let's see. . . GEE that's tough!

You can't possibly be serious, can you?

TheBlaxican · Answer

Muscular legs and ass over skinny fat every day of the week

Moloch · Answer

Definitely the girl in shape. She has nice legs.

Konnour · Answer

Since when 'skinny-fat' is ideal?

imperatriz · Answer

In shape, of course.

ManaX · Answer

In-shape hands down.

blablah · Answer

i prefer in-shape

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