Why is it wrong for me to be bitter towards women

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I'm 22, and I don't think women are good people at all, in fact I don't think highly of them or people in general. I've been cheated on by all 4 of the women I've dated, and I've been abused by them in elementary, middle, and high school. What's wrong with me being bitter every time I come into contact with a woman I'm not related she screws me over. Why should I respect women, when they don't respect me. If you insult me, you will be reported and blocked.

KryHeart · Accepted Answer

Because it's simply wrong and judgmental to use your past experiences to determine the way you view life. It's unfair to those who will come into your life (and most likely soon leave it if you act this way) and it's also unfair to yourself because you aren't letting in any positive light.

What's wrong with it is that as soon as you start being bitter, bad things are bound to happen to you. The world is full of rude, wrong, crazy people, you name it, and at such a young age, you probably haven't experienced the best as much as you have the worst. Many of us have been there. Those blessed with innate good looks or addicting personalities or great wealth don't suffer as much, but for some of us, relationships, and even simple social situations, are a huge struggle.

And what's great is that there are people out there who understand this, who you can meet and become friends or partners with. But no one good is ever going to want to stand by your side if you don't open up, give them a chance, and simply be kind.

I've been stepped on, walked over, bullied, used, paraded around, shoved aside, and ignored my entire life. But I don't see the point in looking at anyone or anything or any part of my life with a bitter attitude. It doesn't solve anything and all it does is make me unhappy. It keeps you from moving on and finding something that can really change your life.

I hope one day you might understand the value of "moving on" from the things that slow us down, trip us up, and leave us in the dust. All good things have a price, even if that price is as simple as looking up instead of down. The best of luck to you, my friend. I hope you find your happiness. <3

swiftsaver602 · Accepted Answer

Given your experiences with women, it's natural for you to feel the way you do, but please don't think all women are out to screw you over. How those women acted are indicative of them as human beings, not an entire gender. One woman shouldn't have cheated on you, let alone four. While their cheating is disgusting, you should blame them, not all women.

Let's say I was raped and abused by multiple men, and told you that I hated men because they are all rapists and a**holes. Would you agree and say "you're right I only rape and abuse women"? Of course not, because it's an unfair generalization based on one person's experiences.

You've had a lot of bad cards dealt your way, but that's no reason to think it won't ever change. Don't let the actions of a handful of bitches prevent you from developing solid friendships and relationships with kind, good-hearted women. It may be hard to fathom, but believe me good women exist.

courtney06 · Accepted Answer

I know how you feel. I've had mostly bad experiences with guys. You have to recognize what type of women you seem to go after and be aware of the signs that would potentially make them cheaters, abusers, etc. I think the guys I've dated were too carefree. At first it's attractive because I'm too serious. But once the relationship gets serious, they are still carefree...even about things they should care about. Then they are so carefree that they become verbally abusive. There was a guy I was somewhat attracted to at first not too long ago, and he was a little drunk and got into an argument with a store clerk. Almost got into a fist fight. It was a misunderstanding and he could have taken a better approach. So let's say I was talking to him and we had a misunderstanding. There's a chance he'd start screaming at me and maybe try to hurt me.

Belgie · Accepted Answer

No one is insulting you - but you do have a very thin skin.

To answer your question - there is nothing to be gained by being bitter towards women. It won't make you happier. It won't change the way they act. It won't change their dealings with you.

The only thing it will do, is allow you to find something in common with other guys who feel bitter towards women.

And you can tell from experience, (just look at them) that the longer you hang on to bitterness like that, the harder it will be to have a normal healthy relationship with a woman.

Now ultimately it's your choice. But if the day comes when you decide to let go of that bitterness, it might be difficult to find anyone who'll lend you a sympathetic ear.

kambo_trick3y · Accepted Answer

Yikes, flame shields to full power my man.

xandra_smiles · Answer

You simply cannot take your own experiences and apply them to any gender, race or population of people. In this respect being bitter is wrong. I do not think it is wrong to dislike or even hate these women that have cheated on you. If you disrespect all women, I can assure you, your not going to find a great girl. Personally, I have never cheated and never will. I hope you find a girl who respects you and you find a place in your heart for her. It's OK to feel angry and angst sometimes, but it won't get you where you want to be in the end.

BellaBella12 · Answer

You have just gotten close to the wrong women. You can't only respect people who respect you.

WickedEyedLeo · Answer

The moderators are a joke. You have nothing to gain from hating women at all.

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