Guys, how do you treat a girl who is just a fling to you?

[Anonymous]

It's too early to give a name to this relationship and you are not yet official. Do you only contact her for sex and nothing more if she is just a fling? Or you would still wine and dine her and take her out for stuff if it's just a fling?

[prophecy]

well, depends.

overall I always treat them right. but after a few dates I can see what's up and then I classify chicks in 3 groups;

1. biological garbage - meaning chicks I can't stand being around

2. cumdumpters - meaning that I see there's absolutely no future but they are still good for banging. in this case I still treat them very well - in bed, but I don't waste too much of my time on them. and I'm always straight with them what time it is so there aren't any sudden surprises. here I'm only interested in banging, *maybe* some chit chatting, since you chicks like to jap a lot, but mainly it's just banging.

3. potential relationship material - meaning that I like them, I'm interested in them and I'm gonna call them to spend good time with them and get to know them better. in this case I treat them very well and sex isn't the priority.

[Asker]

I know that guys are more physical and they open up emotionally after sex and women open up by talking. If you put a chick in group 3 potential relationship material, it would be like proper date and than sex to bond and then take her out again next week?

[Asker]

for group 2, you said no suddent surprises, it means you set up say sat night for her only? or you contact them during the week to set a time? you also said you treat them very well in bed. meaning you would avoid things like dinner and movie? cos these things take up too much time?

[Anonymous]

I always treat a just-a-fling girl well, because after the sex is over and you move on to someone else, you don't want to burn your bridges with the girl.

Six months from now, you could be going through a dry spell, and decide to give her a call. You're more likely to get her out dancing and into bed if she remembers that she had a good time with you, that you were fun and treated her well.

[Asker]

By treating her well, I assume you mean paying for everything on a date, and also cuddle and talk after sex?

Will you ask her out again regularly or only when you are going through a dry spell after awhile?

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily paying for everything, no. She's not a hooker.

If I pay for everything on the assumption that it will lead to sex, that's rather mercenary.

Sometimes I'll pay for somethings. Sometimes she'll pay her own way.

But yeah, cuddle/talk after sex rather than just call a taxi and get the hell out.

Would I ask her out again? It really depends. I'm not usually in the mood for anything repetitive, so I tend to avoid relationships. But if she was really exceptional, maybe.

[Asker]

"But yeah, cuddle/talk after sex rather than just call a taxi and get the hell out."

Does it mean you don't stay over night or let her stay over night at yours?

[Opinion Owner]

For one night stands, never. For a fling, it's cuddle/talk/stay over.

[martyfellow]

Generally you have to wine and dine her before she'll have sex with you, even if it's understood that it's just a fling, right?

[Asker]

Yes but I mean after you already have sex, will you take her out to real date again if she is just a fling

[martyfellow]

Yes, it's the tradition, after all.

[Asker]

Didn't know it's a tradition, how many more dates would you take a fling out after you have sex?

[NMMan]

I'm not the "fling" type, but I treat the women in my company very well.

[Asker]

women in your company meaning FWB?

[NMMan]

No, not FWB - I mean the women I'm dating. I'm not about flings and FWB at all.

[Asker]

You sound like a nice guy, how do you deal with it before you decide if she is your official GF? Or before you decide there's no future? you just keep taking her out on dates?

[NMMan]

I spend time with her and really get to know her...several dates, if possible. If she's someone that I feel attracted to (in all aspects) and want to explore a relationship with, I'll definitely know fairly early on. Chemistry is something you just feel, and I go with my instinct.

[Asker]

What you just said is reassuring, it sounds like what he does except he talks really vulgar and it makes me second guess his intention