It'd be a big shock to whom? It doesn't ever matter what others will think... When I think of not suppose to be with someone it's because they make my life harder. They lie, bring drama around, and do things to disappoint or hurt me. Do I find some girls from the past hot still? Of course, I dated some sexy girls. Do I have feelings for them? Well we have history... I know the good side of them that I loved at one point, though I don't feel for them like that. It's more of a feeling of disappointment, like well that was nice but too bad she's the way she is... I see them around, they try to get my attention again, I ignore them because I'm repulsed by parts of their personality that I can't accept or things they've don't that I won't forgive.
I don't fight the feelings ever nor do I do what my heart says (which is why I couldn't cast my vote).
I use my head and logic.
Often noticed that when you fight feelings one finally ends up using the heart, being emotional etc and winds up hurting self or the other person in someway or the other.
Making peace with certain things using one's head is a better solution. Yes we are human and it's bound to hurt at times but we can always get over it. This is not pressing your feelings down into caverns but truly understanding it and diverting your energies elsewhere to make things more productive, cause if you stiffle them i.e. fight them at some point of time it's gonna pressurize and blow up
I thought I should fight my feelings for the relationship would be unconventional and perhaps, frowned upon by many. But then I figured everything's coming to an end and even if my intuition were wrong and he rejected me, I could still move on. He made signs and gestures of interest/attraction and thus, I asked. He COULD NEVR EVER ask me as that's kinda beyond the realms of possibility. When I was certain he has a soft spot for me, I confessed.
The worst feeling is when he likes you but can't be with you for too much is at stake plus the timing really sucked. How I wished that we'd never met under those circumstances.
I should have fought those feelings for it's that much harder to move on.
I've been in a situation where the guy was in a different school than me and the school had a reputation for having students who drank and smoked a lot. I didn't have much of a problem with it, but obviously my parents and friends did. I never told them about it and just distanced myself from the guy. Eventually we stopped hanging and I forced myself to stop liking him.
But for some people it's easier to just follow the heart. Which is good. I'm just more of a head over heart kind of girl. But it depends on the person you are.
If it's just a reputation thing, or it would just seem like a shock, then I'd say it's not that bad and that you should go for it.
The heart wants what the heart wants... if both want to be together the others would have to accept it...
like my mom once said to me ''why are you asking if I like your boyfriend? I'm not gonna marry him and sleep in the same bed as him for the rest of my life... you are! so, choose you you think it's the best for you and I'll trust your judgement.''
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i was with a friend for a long time . everyone told me not to be with him. and then we stopped talking(dating)... but this was 5 years ago and now we are back together in a long term relationship. after a while coming out of high school, people just don't care anymore
if we are not compatible from the beginning the chance are its not even gonna work. I mean what does a nerd and a cheerleader have in common? nothing at all. so I guess you are talking about physical attraction here because if you understand how relationships work you would not ask someone from a different group no matter how hot they are.
I tend to fight the feelings but I usually only get those feelings sexually and not so much romantically. If you are feeling those feelings romantically I say go for it but if it's just your sexual parts talking (like it is in my case now. I'm attracted to a sexy football player BUT he's a whore) don't do it.
I'm there right now. This girl I know likes me a ton and I've slowly started to get some feelings for her. But I'm not attracted and our values (religion and politics) are much different... so it shouldn't work. It's too bad because we get along great. Just wish the attraction was there, and I might let the feelings take hold. But without attraction, I'll keep on fighting those feelings.
i fight my feelings a lot because I usually tend to like or become attracted to the "bad guys" and they do drugs and all kinds of bad things so I try my hardest to stay away from them.
fight the feelings! I still regret it! When I was in high school I was the captain of the cheering team and there was a guy who was super quiet, and didn't play any sports and I let him slip away for fear of what my teammates and friends would think. It's quite stupid looking back, but at the time it wasn't.
All the time with this one girl. She's not the right one no matter how much I have wanted and still want her.
Always, but I like now know getting to know person and I try not to let my heart or my head have any say except what he has to say.
Well, I do, but I guess not in that sense. It more just that I'm "NOT SUPPOSED TO LIKE HER" because she's my mates ex and I can't do anything about getting with her. So I kind of just tell myself that friends is enough.
I had a small crush on my manager. But he was way older than me, like late 30s and you're never supposed to date people you work with so I ignored those feelings
I'm currently fighting attraction and desire for one of my neighbours...
u Yes, but not because it would shock people that we got together.
I fight the feelings . .! :/
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