wtf is going on with women/girls!?
Why are women/girls so naive, in your opinion?
wtf is going on with women/girls!?
Because we wrongly believe that people can change and the second guy is not the same as the first guy.
We don't have an original plan in life. Well, mine would be: graduate, while I'm at uni I'll meet the love of my life, he'll be crazy about me and be my Mr. Perfect, we'll get married after 4 years and have two adorable babies and the pregnancy wouldn't leave me with stretchmarks and my babies will be little angels who never cry and who puberty isn't a hell.
But we don't get what we plan, do we?
Guys try to rub it in that we feel that all men are the same.
We're leaded by emotions, by our heart more than men. If a guy knows a girl is no good for him, he'll have it "easier" to stay away, while we don't care what our brain says, we just wanna follow our heart and fall madly in love.
We watch so many romantic movies that our image of the perfect life is stuck, we get pressured from society to live the fairytale and if we're single long enough, our hopes and dreams will be "in danger" so we "must" find someone!
I don't really know what the answer here is, just that our heart doesn't care about being naive, just about being loved. Which is what all girls want. If we love someone, we're blind on how we are treated.
I don't agree that men just walk and women are all heart. I put my heart into my relationship/marriage and got stomped all over because she used all brain and no heart. Personally I would say that men are either all heart or all little brain if you get my drift. Aside from that men are monkeys just trying to do 3-5 simple things... not at once of course. What i do see is that many women do have "their plan" and just like a puzzle piece.. men need to fit in.. or they will never find themselves a place in that puzzle. As I post this is see a comment about women's instinctive nature to nurture.. blah blah blah. Men's instinctive nature is to provide, protect, and pee. When that gets interrupted men tend to go ape shit if you will... and with that instinctive nature men may lash out. Then they are in handcuffs accused of abuse and really that man just wanted some order in his domain. Both men and women have good qualities and crappy qualities. Learn to listen instead of stereotyping.
Well, lots of girls are going crazy because of other girls. We're all pressured into things, and it's not like how guys fight. First of all, guys are way better friends than girls. If 2 guys wore the same shirt, they'd think it's cool, but if 2 girls wore the same shirt, they'd be in a catfight. Other girls wear down your self esteem, so girls resort to a guy's love to reassure themselves, which is why they hate breakups.
This actually happened recently, with my friend. She got pressured into sex with a guy, and the condom broke and she's pregnant now. I and all my friends support her, but the problem was that the father is not her boyfriend. Luckily, her boyfriend forgave her and will treat her like he is the father anyway, but that's how much pressure has an effect on girls.
I don't do that kind of thing, and I've never dated, but I think about things a lot deeper than the average person. Last year, I had lots and lots of guy friends because I got sick of this girl crap, and that was an awesome year in school.
It's part of the feminine nature. We have this instinctive need to nurture and understand, and we always tend to look for the best in people, even if it means totally ignoring their bad qualities. We want to make others happy. Girls go for the bad boys because they think that underneath it all, those bad boys are really just sensitive and misunderstood. Naturally, we each want to be that one person who understands.
Sadly, some of us are so busy trying to nurture and understand that we forget our own needs and settle for less than we deserve. You have to understand that we really do mean well.
"Men like what they see. Women like what they hear. That's why men lie and women wear make-up.". That pretty much sums it up. Girls seem to think that they're that one girl that the player is making an exception for. Which, as we know, is NEVER the case.
"Repeating the same mistakes more than twice"
Whale sheeiit...looks like I am a naive woman then...
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You're obviously just witnessing this from a decent amount of ladies, but obviously there are going to be exceptions to the rule/outliers. The same thing could easily be asked about men...there are behavioral stereotypes for each gender.
Always falling for bad boys- women like to believe that they are the one female who can actually change that bad boy into a sweetheart. And, let's face it---some women just like the bad boy look and go for it. We all have types so to speak and for some that is just it.
Never sticking to their original plans in life- okay, who doesn't change their plans in life? Because that's just it...LIFE. Plans are meant to be changed and in the end, we usually reach what we were meant to (I like to think so anyways).
Always repeating the same mistakes more than twice- women are human, after all. It is likely that most people learn from their mistakes, but sometimes situations occur where we just naturally make a mistake again that we may have already done.
everything you said makes perfect sense, I must say. but I like to point out that some chicks also go after bad boys just because they wanna be part of the attention and reputation that bad boy is getting. which that is so damn stupid. and obviously I seen guys do this also. they go after the baddest chick in the block to give that illusion that he's a player and he's f***ing a chick that all other guys have trouble getting with! and don't I wish I could kick them in the nutsack and ddt them after
Yeah, I agree
I don't think its the same for all. But some like to dream, we make things perfect in our heads even when its not then learn the hard way. I learn from my mistakes. Doesn't stop me dreaming.
Sometimes you fall for a 'nice guy' before you realize its a 'bad boy'
Men don't live their plans in life just as much as women, so that definitely is generalized.
You have leanred already that women have delicate little fluffy brains. That's good! So, Well done.. Now use that information so as never to give women flase hope and unrealistic dreams.
Actually, I haven't dated in my life, ever. I do not drink alcohol, beer, coffee, soda (other than it being a Slurpee flavor), or tea. I do not smoke. I am pure snow, I have done nothing. I learn from OTHER peoples mistakes.
I have been a keen observer of people and their behaviors ever since I was a child and I still am.
I can and do have fun without all of those things. There is such a thing as having fun without doing drugs and getting wasted. Sadly, now in days people have forgotten how to have actual fun without those things.
I don't think of myself as naive - quite the opposite, I expect the worst.
I think both men AND women have trouble learning from their mistakes because emotion clogs the logical mind. You like who you like, and you can't really help yourself.
We ALL repeat the same mistakes over and over again, just look at history :-P
I don't know about most women but I tend to see the good in everyone which is my downfall when it comes to men I can see how amazing they are even if they can't see it themselves love is blind it's also f***ing crazy but we can't help who fall for men do it too you next time your out remember what you just posted and see what type of girl you pick up next your not attracted to someone personality at first sight
Tell me about it then those women get mad at guys like us, for asking these types of questions. In a women's mind they believe/think their never wrong even if they screw up and its some how's the guys fault. A women can be in NYC get mugged and blame some innocent guy for not doing anything. When its really her fault for not holding her purse tight enough.
well, we never blame you in large things like war and slavery or any other big destruction/disaster caused by your behavior and creation. men let women's egos win only in small things. when it comes to large things, women let men's egos win. that is why no matter how big men's faults are, we still call them humans' faults.
Those are little girls no matter what age... they will only mature when they're ready
yea. after being spiritually crippled
really? you think that? because most of the guys on this site spend their life bitching that we're way too stuck up and never give anyone a chance.
yet they live up to those words unlike women/girls who say the same yet they still end up repeating history
Big difference when guys on here like you say bitch and complain they are actually telling the truth and are not hiding anything. Women on the other end will make up some BS excuse on why she's complaining. And don't sit there and say you wouldn't choice Mr. a-hole over mr. nice guy because I for one ain't buying it.
definitely THIS is the best answer. Guys here are so pathetic its amazing
Mr. a**hole does anything to brainwash women. Mr. Nice Guy only does good ways. its not good women prefer bad guys. its bad guys who prefer good women.
and besides.. who the hell started making bad things look so good ? did women create these all? no! women didn't create any bad cultures!
@drumnb4ssdubst3p... you should really go to the doctor and have that white knight syndrome of yours get checked out
@lostfriend... yea! since the bad boys always point and hold the so called "good women" at gun point to force them to date them. are you guys really that naive? do you women really not have any type of logic or instinct within the?
Like men don't repeat mistakes as well? Most people are prone to repeating past errors.
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U must know a lot of girls who date bad guys lol, I don't :P not all women are like that. Also who are you :P
forgot to say the reason I ask who you are is because I know another guy who sometimes likes to go anonymous, I'd like to know if your him ;) lol
if you live in a glass house... don't throw rocks at the neighbors
ok :P lol
It's the chemistry in your brain, once you fall for somebody, you can't really help it.
thats funny.. cause from their perspectives they say "why are nice guys such idiots?" and then you wonder why they don't like you HAHA
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Moron.
ooook?
Guys are almost as bad. Users are users and suckers are suckers.
Not sure, I have seen this in both sexes
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