Would you strongly prefer to go out with someone of your own skin color / racial background?

[Konpachi]

Would you strongly prefer to go out with someone of your own skin color / racial background?

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+1 y

I really should have asked what ethnicity you all are, just to see the overall state of mind where race is concerned.

[Anonymous]

I said yes because I've done it before, but I'm kind of over it at the moment. I'm black, and I've been attracted to all types of guys -- Caucasian, Indian, Asian...but at this point, even though the guy I'm seriously crushing on is Asian, I'd prefer black. I've dated outside my race for a few years, and while I love experiencing the different perspectives, I miss the connection I would get from someone who has my background. For example: understanding my native tongue or knowing things about my culture. I'm not against it, and more power to you if you can, but there were times when it would getting annoying having to explain certain things.

[Stacyzee]

I am open minded to dating all races.

But from my experience it is easier to date your own.

When you date someone that isn't your race, you open up a whole door of ignorance (that will be brushed in).

-You get mean stares

-You get incredibly rude comments

If you have the backbone to deal with that, then you are more than equipped for it all.

Especially if the person from the opposite race is fine, you will have a lot of haters! (whether that person be you or the significant other).

I <3 the rainbow of all races, and give everyone a fair shot.

F*** what people think.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I strongly prefer he has a nice d*** and knows how to work it.

[EmpressMe]

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA!

[Maxen92]

Here's the deal, I think everyone appeal to one or several races (they are all equal to me, if anyone wonders). This might be one of the reasons why some guys or girls are attracted to.

For example, I'm Caucasian and so is my best friend, I have appealed more to girls with oriental background such as around the middle east/Mediterranean sea as well as Caucasian girls.

I have no idea why that is, I guess its my looks or personality perhaps.

While my best buddy always gets randomly hit by Asian girls who are barely half the length of him.

[ragazza91]

What does your personality have to do with attracting women of oriental background? That is stupid. Your trying to say that a personality attracts a certain race of women when women are women. We all want love and affection regardless of race

[Maxen92]

And men want love and affection as well. What is your point?

I was GUESSING that it MIGHT be my personality, but my safest bet would be my looks.

I wasn't taking anything for granted, but since you had your little selective perception on what you want to see out of my text, read my text again, please.

[Markezzo]

Nah, don't really care. I'm white, and while I do like my own race, I just can't help but love Hispanic and black women xD

I date girls for how attractive and awesome they are as persons, so while I may have my preferences I would not stick to only my own race.

[AndyWes]

I'd strongly prefer to only go out with someone of my own race. I'm mostly western European.

After all the school lessons, the movies, the news articles, badgering about how evil white people are for "having enslaved everyone" and such, why would I want to date a black girl or other? No thank you. To me, white girls are the most attractive by far, so why date someone who's been constantly taught white people are evil and enslaved everyone?

So, for me--I only ask out white girls. And I don't feel a need to say so anonymously. :)

[EmpressMe]

Not necessarily. I'm pretty open to all ethnic groups except for white people. I'd never be able to trust a white American guy and I'd feel like he can't relate to me as a minority.

[EmpressMe]

*it's answers like the one from Andy Wes that confrim my feelings towards white men* It's as if most white American men are either totally entitled and prejudice or they pretend racism doesn't exist because it makes them feel guilty and uncomfortable to be honest about what their bastard ancestors did to the world.

[iNeedYourAdvice]

I think I'd have to agree with you on that one and I'm a white guy. The majority of the causcasian male population tend to hide from racism and how things used to be. Personally I don't deny that it happened, I use it as an example for to strive away from. It was wrong and it still is wrong. I truly hope that no one hates on your answer.

[EmpressMe]

thanks iNeedYourAdvice :)

I honestly don't care if they do; it's the truth. I in no way, shape or form blame white people today for what their ancestors did. What your ancestors did is completely out of your control. It's humanly impossible to have any influence over someone you never even met who lived and died in a previous era. But it'sbullsh*t when white people act like racism is just some imaginary thing because they feel guilty by association *white skin* or because they can't relate

[CasaNorba]

NUBIANSTAR!? is that you?

[anonymousbastard]

Wow someones racists.

[EmpressMe]

who tf is Nubian star?

anonymousbastard, I'm not racist; I just don't trust white men and I have good reason. I'm sure there are some good ones out there with genuine, innocent intentions but I'll never date one.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say strongly prefer, but I clicked yes.

The area I live in is strongly white. I'm used to seeing white people all the time, so I end up dating them! I'm not objected to colored people, just that I know very few of them. When I was younger, I met this black man and he was only trying to be nice but he really intimidated me. He was very tall with this huge beaming grin and to a little 9 year old who hadn't seen many colored people, I was a bit scared!

I'm not scared of them now, but that initial memory does cloud my first judgement I think. Happily speak and joke with them, they're just another person after all!

[Anonymous]

I was thinking about this the other day actually lol. I always told my friends and myself that I was only really attracted to guys of my own race, Hispanic. My first boyfriend was full Hispanic but it wasn't his race that attracted me to him, it was pretty much who he was. My second boyfriend was mainly Hispanic and Hawaiian, but again, it was the way he treated me that I liked. Then my most recent ex was half white and half Filipino. I never saw myself dating someone who was Asian, whether he was half or full. But again, it didn't matter to me.

Basically I used to be really close minded, but now I'm more open to different races when it comes to dating.

[1-3-2-4]

I would prefer not to because people always expect you to only date one race (more so in the black male community)

Since how I was brought up I'm like the total opposite of the typical black male and I don't have much to relate to black women, it just becomes a very awkward for me and I just start to feel very uneasy.

[jessicanorland]

in your words - what are black women like ?

[1-3-2-4]

Loud :-/ sorry I know not all are like that but I was over a friends house to hook something up to his TV after work very few I've met that were like me that were not overly loud, plus I have other reasons as well.. and I seen something that happened to a friend not long ago and something like this goes on a lot in the black community which kinda the final nail in me wanting to dace my own race.

[EmpressMe]

lol, it's obvious you don't surround yourself with many black women. I've met many of black women who are far from loud. It's not smart at all to look at a few black women and assume that every other black female shares their personality.

[1-3-2-4]

You are right I don't spend much time around black women one thing that bothers me big time, and I have a friend who is dating a black girl and he is black but.. He only wanted to date her because she was light skin.. anyways long story short 2nd time she is preg by him and now they are no longer speaking.. How can you do all that just over skin color? I've had black women do the same to me, don't like me only because I'm 5 shades lighter... Anyways I love European women not going to deny that..

[EmpressMe]

See, that's sad. I bet if your black ancestors could see the type of black men you and your friend are, in regards to dating, they'd be disappointed that they fought and died so black men could belittle their own women yet glorify the same white culture that oppressed them. Sad, no other race of people is that way with each other.

[1-3-2-4]

You have other races that do that but it's not as well known, India and Thailand are one of those two places were women will spend all this money to lighten their skin, anyways I enjoy learning about my mixed heritage. I never understood why black women get so bitter of this in the end I can pick who I choose to date and blowing up is just you to stick you back with the label of how a typical black women acts.

[EmpressMe]

That's different though. Indians and Taiwainese people in America didn't have their ancestors get lynched and dehumanized for centuries. It's a huge slap in the face to your people who died and spent their lives fighting so that you could be freei and a way they never felt then you more or less degrade blackness. And no offense, but I'm far from bitter; I'm not even attracted to you. Just making a point.

[jessicanorland]

i'm going to be honest here . it's fine you like European women . - they are nice and very pretty . its just that you should not automatically assume that black women are all the same . - you make it seem like they are a bad, or something ? some are loud , yes . some aren't . majority of your points sound like stereotypes .

you have your own opinions and I respect that , but your reasonings are stupid.

[bunnyfrancis]

I understand what your saying to an extent, most black guys that have tried to talk to me have fit into either two stereotypes "hood rich" or "black nerd" obviously not all blk guys are like that those are just the ones that have tried to talk to me. And I am not attracted to 'ghetto' types or 'nerds' so I have never dated a blk guy. At the same time I don't write them all off as a big group I would never date cause 'they all' at a certain way. It's offensive. . .

[1-3-2-4]

Express the way you word it is just like every other bitter black women who sees a black man with a white women or anyone else who is not black they start bringing that up for I don't know what.. maybe to make the guy try to change his mind? In the end it just gets pushed back on the pile of stereotypes of black women.

[EmpressMe]

lol, first of all it's EMPRESS not E-X-P-R-E-S-S. Second of all, stop automatically categorizing me as some bitter black woman just because I disagree with your attitude and think that your attitude is a disgrace to your African American ancestors. I'm far from bitter and due to the fact that I genuinely am not attracted to your face at all, I sincerely have no reason to be bitter about you not dating black females. It's not like I want you lol no offense, just being honest

[EmpressMe]

Maybe for YOU it just gets "pushed back on the pile of stereotypes of black women" but that is because YOU, as an individual have issues lol You have a pile of stereotypes of black women. Why? Maybe you have been around too many white folk in your life and you glorify whiteness and reject black females because they make you remember that you are black I don't know why you have a pile of stereotypes. But what you say here is a blantant display that you are just a messed up black guy who stereotypes

[EmpressMe]

black woman and looks for any possible reason you can to clump us all together. Disgraceful. I'd be ashamed if I was the black woman who gave you life.

[1-3-2-4]

If you don't care then why do I need you to talking about how it's a shame to my African American ancestors? That's all you keep saying.. and what's with you keep saying you are not attracted to my face? I really could care less if don't that's one less person I don't have to deal with.. So in the end you go about your own life and I will go about mine :-)

[EmpressMe]

just because I'm voicing my opinion doesn't mean that I care about you oh so much lol Please get over yourself and stop telling yourself that because I like to speak my mind means that I care deeply for this unattractive, self-hating mentality negro. Me telling you that I find you unattractive is my response to you calling me bitter. I have no reason to be bitter because it's not like I personally want you.

[EmpressMe]

You opened up dialogue when you made certain comments yet when that dialogue comes, you say "Let me live my life!" it's okay for you to express your thoughts on this, but no one else can share theirs?

[EmpressMe]

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[Yaoi-Anime-Fangirl1]

I actually prefer guys of African American decent, then after that its my own racial background that I would go for (White guys) But to me the color of someones skin doesn't limit who I could end up loving.

[FaithInTruth]

I prefer light-skinned people. I'm a generously tan Latino guy, so I generally prefer that. If I could be with a nice white girl, though, I'd love it. So, white and a light-skinned Latino girls for me. Some Middle Eastern girls are fairly light-skinned, too, so maybe that.

[jerzeygurl100]

Color doesn't matter to me I'm a mutt half german half black and I love all kinds of guys Asians are hot but my boyfriend is Spanish xD I dated dominicans and crushed hard on cambodians it doesn't matter. Skin doesn't matter and culture is beautiful I say the more variety the better I don't discriminate buttttt I do have to admit I love the sense of familiarity I get from being with my own kind so it don't matter its all about the inside and how well we click

[jeshika]

I can't say I really have a preference, however I tend to just naturally find white or near white men more attractive, but I don't' think of it as a race thing but more like how some people find blonds more attractive than brunettes or vice versa or any similar style of preference. but if I found a man of a different background and found them attractive then I'de go for it.

[AndyWes]

Actually, about 60% of guys prefer brown or black hair on women, and about 30% prefer blonds.

[jeshika]

I used it as an example, hence "some people"not all or most, not even many (and not only men), and it was followed with "vise versa", as individuals who prefer brunette over blond, I didn't mention.

[EngineeringStudent]

Not really. I'm Black, but I don't really care about race. If I find a girl attractive, and we get along well, I would be willing to date her. This extends to all races. That being said, the probability of dating within my race again seems low. I have nothing against Black women, and do find them attractive. There just seems to be some issues with compatibility.

[bunnyfrancis]

Ehh I don't particularly like to see the world though that filter. I don't necessarily prefer one race over the other but the majority of the guys I've dated have been white or asian. I don't feel like I have that much in common with blk guys it if I met a blk guy I liked I'd give him a shot.

[nuuuu]

As much as I want to say yes, I said no becuse I more attracted to my own race. Mainly because I have always been around my own race and we seem to always have somethings in common. However, I am open to other races I just won't be attracted as much in the begining.

[jpinka]

i said yes becasue even though I dnt mind other races I prefer black men. just a preference. I have thought about other races and realized I'm only open to dating a white guy based on personal experiences, but I'm not racist at all

i dnt like how pple say it easier to date your own, I dnt c how love can be "easy" you live life and you fall in love with another human who ever it may be and hopefully you can live life together.

[jpinka]

@ update...shouldve. I'm black btw

[normalice]

clever avatar/name combo!

to answer your question: no. I don't even know that I could say I "slightly prefer" it. Don't get me wrong, I have prejudices, but prejudices are impossible for any reasonable person to maintain on an individual level. So, unless it is a question of dating ~20 girls or so at once, all from the same race, my prejudices can not present a factor in a relationship.

[normalice]

to your update: I'm white

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I was raised to try to stick to my own racial background, because supposedly "People who are bi-racial or multi-racial have it rough." It used to be that way, but I don't see much of that anymore. My family doesn't really care anymore either. But as for my preferences, I like anything light to tan.

[Light_Yagami]

I'm black and I love my white chicks, blacks girls don't do it for me.

However race is the most insignificant thing to me, but I seem to be mainly attracted to white girls.

Damm Katie Perry abd Zooey Deschannel!

[EmpressMe]

lol, typical

[MakeLoveNotWar]

I assumed you were Japanese lol

[1-3-2-4]

Same here I was raised in a very suburb area and I mean it's just how things are

[Light_Yagami]

Ye pretty much the same. I see I've upset a few people

Excellent

[EmpressMe]

if I'm one of the few people you tell yourself you've upset, lol you need to humble yourself.

Me being open and honest about how disrespectful and belittling black men are to their women doesn't mean I'm upset. It makes black men look bad and confirms any negative stereotypes perpetuated onto black men. Black men already have all of these negative steroetypes viewed by so many different ethnic groups now to add onto it they are the only group of men who consistantly degrade and reject the

[EmpressMe]

females of their race. You don't see Asian men, white men, Hispanic men, Arab men or any other group of men speaking about their women the way black men do and there's a reason for that.

Don't ASSume that there is reason for anyone to be upset because honestly, I can't even see your face lol and you have shown nothing attractive via personality so what reason would I have to be upset?

[Light_Yagami]

I can only respect your opinion, even though I didn't ask, want or need to hear it as I gathered what it would be from the get go. To be honest the only thing more sad than stereotypes are the people that allow themselves to be dictated by them. I'm a free man, our ancestors fought for me so I could be free and have my own will... not held back but the shackles of social stigma.

[EmpressMe]

It doesn't matter whether you asked or wanted it or not. GAG.com is all about exchanging thoughts and opinions. If you're not interested in that then why come here and put yourself in a position where someone is going to give you their opinion?

People allowing themselves to follow stereotypes? lol okay, that doesn't apply to me. Go announce that to people who need to hear it. You may be a free man, but your actions and the nasty things you say are a disgrace to all the men who weren't free

[EmpressMe]

and died so that you could make choices like this without being lynched

[Light_Yagami]

The thing about what I said is that you really don't know my reasons behind my choices, so you're jumping to conclusions without knowing the details. All you've saw is me say I am attracted to white women and your mind has started doing calculations which has brought you to an answer made of assumptions. It may not apply to you (stereotypes) but in that case why are you mentioning them ? And what exactly nasty things have I said exactly. I haven't said or mentioned any derogatory towards black

[Light_Yagami]

Women. I haven't said their ugly or that they have attitude problems. I said that I'm just NOT attracted to them. It's no different to me looking at two cars and preferring one over the other. There's alof things I don't like that others do, and why should I feel the need to feel anything over my choices. I am not jerome who took Cindy to the prom over you, so let me live my life

[MakeLoveNotWar]

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[EmpressMe]

I don't have to know the reasons behind your choices. What you said doesn't make any sense. "Black girls don't do it for me" There are over 5,000 black females on this planet with different features and wide range of personality traits. By definition you are being racist. To be racist is defined as believing one race is superior over another. You're saying you think white girls are superior over black girls and it's disgusting. It makes you look even worse as a black man seeing as black men

[EmpressMe]

already get stereotyped liked dogs. Now people can look at them and add that they tend to be the most colorstruck group of men and among the easiest to brainwash. It's sad and guys like you are an embarassment to black people and the black community. You contribute to the notion that the black community can't get their sh*t together.

[EmpressMe]

Like I said, don't try to make this some situation where I'm jealous and bitter because I don't even know wtf you look like. I've been given no reason to be even slightly attracted or engaged by your personality and I doubt you're even all that cute. So it's not that I'm mad because you Jerome took Cindy instead of me. I'm just annoyed with black men who disgrace their ancestors by glorifying white people and give other ethnic groups a reason to talk/think about them negatively.

[EmpressMe]

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[Light_Yagami]

The more you write the more stupid I think I am for replying. You realize that I haven’t said any race of women is better than the other, I just said what works for me. Everyone works in different ways, has different ways of working, are any of those wrong as long as you achieve personal happiness ? F***what people think and be happy, that’s my advice to anyone. There are a million people like you in this world, regardless of race. They are people who will try and make you feel at odds about

[Light_Yagami]

the choice you make. There is one of you around every corner in life, the person who tells you what you can’t do, what you should do, what’s right, what’s wrong, who believes they have some divine right to pass judgement, who thinks their opinion borders fact (or so they would have you believe). I’ve walked past people like you my whole life with not a single f*** to give. I won’t make assumptions about you because I know little about you, but you clearly carry a grudge of some sort with you.

[Light_Yagami]

. Thing about grudges is that eventually in time, it grows and eventually it will crush you. I’m all for being pro black but how can you be pro black but then basically black men who don’t follow a certain path traitors? Strikes me as no different when I see a successful black person and they call him bounty (Black on the outside, white on the inside). For me black is black, no matter what you’re choices are you’re still my brother or my sister. how you live life doesn't change that fact.

[Light_Yagami]

We've came through the same struggles so why is something so trivial going to make me look at you in a bad light. I know black girls who go for white guys only, some say because black men mess them about, other just say it's what they prefer. Do I care, no, they haven't insulted me, infact they didn't take what anyone thinks into consideration, because they're just doing what makes them happy...

[EmpressMe]

Lol, save your Dr. Phill wanna-be talk. I don't have a grudge; I just appreciate a good debate :)

I love how you avoid the actual content of what I have to say and direct the conversation to something else.

[Light_Yagami]

PMSL I'm doneeeeeee, you're clearly trolling or just retarded..anyway I should get going I've got black women to disrespect and white women to attend to

Ciao

[EmpressMe]

Lol, no I'm not trolling or retarted. Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean I must either be trolling or be retarted. Grow up

[Light_Yagami]

Cool story bro

[jacquesvol]

I don't care about skin color or so-called 'race'.

Cultural background and personality will be more important than social background: I'd date a girl with an intellectual good hearted mind with ANY skin color and lower class background but with cultural interests but NEVER one with a trashy mean mind having my skin color and lots of $$, even if she is or looks like Miss World.

[TedStar]

Strongly prefer? Absolutely Not. Let me rather say that if five otherwise equal girls were of different races I'd most likely choose the one my racial background. I love my chocolate...:)

[Anonymous]

No, I don't have a "strong" preference for my own race. I'm an African-American woman, but I don't have much in common with the average black man besides race. We don't tend to have the same sense of humor, taste in music, goals in life, or political leaning. Therefore, I have never dated black men because I haven't met one I felt compatible with. I find men of all races attractive but I have only dated Caucasian and Latino men so far.

[Anonymous]

I have a mixed racial background lol so I imagine that would be pretty rare for me seeing that Its rare. I don't like women who say I only date ____ type of guy just because his skin color that is discrimination. I don't think wimen and men should date someone solely because they are different from them. They should actually love the person

[Opinion Owner]

*I don't think that women and men should solely date someone just because they look different from them. By the way when you discriminate on race you get what you give back

[Maxen92]

It is not discrmination just because you are attracted to one or several other races, I mean, that's like saying I only like apples therefore I discriminate all the other fruits.

Its not discrimination as long as you accept the existence of other races.

[Opinion Owner]

What I meant by discrimination is if you are going turn down someone treat them with respect just as respectful as the person you like. Because if you merely treat someone wrong just because they look different that is just wrong. Why can't people just say no thank you without calling them names. And I don't care if you disagree. Its the internet get over it