My girlfriend left me for stupid reasons please read

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she left me claming I'm not good in bed and I don't know how to kiss and I stink! I'm so hurt :( when we were together she used to say the sex was good she can't keep up with me and I'm really clean I shower all the time when I'm with her in the room I always take care of myself to keep clean like taking a bath brushing teeth etc.. I don't even smoke but she smokes...she left me for another guy:( did she make all these excuses to breakup and go with a new guy? give me some opinions please girls and guys thanku.

leslie1980 · Accepted Answer

OMG why would you possibly want that back. Amazing that people can be so mean.

Read this only if you want the truth...

Ok, to be honest if you were really good in bed she would not have said that ...or left. Us women put up with a lot if a guy knows what he is doing. Most mean think they are good in bed...but they are not. It is almost comical, 90 percent of the guys I have been with claimed to be good ...however, they were horrendous,...such wastes of time.

Did you commit one of the following Fau Pas (each of the following will not only ensure that she will dump you, but she will be mean about it) 1. Finish before her and then assume the game is over. 2. Not warm up the car before you drove it (ie foreplay) 3. Treat her cookie like a catchers mit instead of a delicate flower 4. Try to find her bellybutton, with your tongue, through her mouth 5. throw technique out the window and assume that it comes naturally ...like riding a bike 6. Pretend you were in a race and wanted to win first place (if it does not last 20 min..YOU ARE WRONG-some women might say an hour)

Most men really need to read books on the subject..haha but most are like.."no,no I got this... " uh ..no ya don't!

Any of the above could have driven her to say those harsh things. I don't think she would say what she did if she were cheating. Generally when girls cheat they feel bad. So they try to end it gently. Or they just leave. You must have done something to upset her or make her mad..maybe you did one, or all, of the six things above.

OR

She could be bi-polar...phew you just dodged a bullet.. might wanna thank the big guy for that one..talk about a close call. There is one thing that no man or woman should ever put up with and that is "crazy".

Now THAT is the God's honest truth!

Sue09 · Accepted Answer

Honestly hun it sounds like she was intentionally trying to hurt you. She said all the things that everyone knows guys freak out about. I seriously doubt any of that is true as most women wouldn't say it even if it was. Also, if we really liked a guy, it wouldn't be a deal breaker for most of us. Most woman will try to work on problems and are very patient about it. If we love a guy we can overlook a lot! Also, I have broken up with some men who did not treat me very well in the past and still never said anything like that!

I doubt it's because of the other guy either. He may well be the reason she has broken up with you but I doubt he has anything to do with the way she did it.

I don't know your history but it sounds like one of two things, either she is extremely hurt or angry about something within your relationship and is angrily trying to hurt you like you hurt her, or else she is a cruel b****.

Either way, don't freak out and don't carry it into your next relationship. It would probably be more productive to learn from what really went wrong in the relationship than to obsess over something that likely had no basis and was just said in anger or spite!

sajajo · Accepted Answer

It's not only girls who do this guys do to. However, it IS a sign of immaturity.

As for the question, yes I think she made it up to find and excuse to break up and see another guy. Only someone very immature would handle a break up like that. If the relationship isn't right or they are ready to move on you do not have to make excuses to break up. BUT, a mature person will use a little tact and come clean without trying to drive a bulldozer over the other persons self esteem. If it helps you, then look at what leslie1980 said and use this as a way to improve your technique. But do that for yourself and for the next girl who comes along (I don't know how you are in bed but there's always room for improvement ;) and why not it makes it more fun for you too). Hopefully, you've learned a little something about the type of girl to not get involved with in the future. She sounds like a crazy a** vicious b***h and you're better off for having found this out now and above all do not let her back into your life for any reason. Call your boys and go do something testosterone driven to help you get rid of some of your hurt and anger. lol

asdaven · Accepted Answer

Wow. That is dumb. First off, forget her. I think she's trying to provoke a reaction out of you and make you pissed off at her. Its a indirect breakup tactic women use to make her from being bad person to making you the bad person. With guys, hurt usually comes out as anger. One, she is trying to piss you off so that you ll go away. Second, she is trying to put herself in the right and you in the wrong. She ll provoke you to be mad at her and then next thing you know her reasons for leaving you aren't for the reasons she initially said. It ll change from that to "see this why I left you, you're a f***ing a**hole and treat me like sh*t" taking her provoking you as that when you treated her very well in the relationship. This is a bitch move and also very immature. Trying to manipulate the situation to make her come out as the victim. She ll provoke you to send her pissed of text messages then she ll show all her friends those messages and be like see this is how he treated me and they ll believe her and hate you too, when the truth is nobody has anything to be pissed off with you about. Best advice, bail ship immediately,  run...because she's trying to drag this breakup out and make it hurt as much as she can, which is f***ed up and cruel.  Some women will do some really cruel and f***ed up things to men who they only loose interest in and have no reason to hate. I don't know why and I don't get it. But, know a few women like that and now I have more experience to avoid them coming into my life and I'm only into smart,kind, and mature acting women now.  You should do the same.

crazybastard · Accepted Answer

i don't know man. it could be both. she could have ran out of ideas to break up with you so she chose the stupid one.

or maybe its true. my little brother can't smell anything and he always smells like sh*t even tho he takes showers. I don't know how his girlfriends spends time with him because I can't be next to him for more than 5 minutes. maybe that's the case with you.

Darkfairie17 · Answer

She's probably making it up. Honestly this girl you were dating sounds pretty immature. If she really didn't like you or didn't have feelings for you anymore she should have told you. Making up lies is just ridiculous.

I would move on, try to keep busy and try to forget about her. You will find someone who appreciates you much more than what she did. My boyfriend had gf's like that before he met me. The girls would dump him for stupid reasons. One girlfriend dumped him because he accidently put a red shirt in his laundry, once! This is when he was in high school. She just stopped talking to him over that :S Seems kinda silly to me.

LittleMissy93 · Answer

She could have been lying while she was with you, however, she most likely made up these reasons so that she could be with the other guy. Here are some things you need to know:

A. Don't get back together with her-she obviously has no problem hurting you.

B. Those reasons are overused, cliche and lame-she wasn't even trying to be convincing.

C. Thank you** is the correct spelling sweetheart

People settle for the love they believe that they deserve-you deserve love and a good person. Everyone does don't underestimate your own value or others will as well.

EmpressMe · Answer

I'm sorry, I know you're feeilng terribly :( this has got to be really hard

Just know that she was a bad girlfriend. A girlfriend who was loyal and genuine would have bought you some Dove soap, would have gotten in the shower with you and doused you in Axe <3 She would have taught you how to kiss and watched p*rn together so you guys could pick up on bedroom moves. She would have delivered the message gently then helped you work on it, instead of just up and leaving like a b*tch. I'm so sorry. I know you're hurting, keep your head up and remember you have worth :)

I think you should try to fix the issues she mentioned so that you don't have to worry about a girl leaving you for the same thing in the future

Stacyzee · Answer

Sounds like she made up an excuse just so she could get out of the relationship. If you ask me, she sounds like a bitch. Stop thinking about the person you thought you knew...and think about the witch she became. That should be enough to want to b single for a while and pursue someone better. So sorry, that this happened. I know it hurts. In due time you will get over her.

Just do not blame yourself for this happening.

Sounds like she strung you along...and played mind games with you.

This is something that could not have been prevented no matter how great you treated her.

Keep your head up, there are better girls out there.

TangerineFire1 · Answer

Wow, whata bitch.  Sometimes I just hate my gender.  If she was a guy, I would say she is being a d***.  Besides she smokes how does she know what stinks, she stinks herself.  Forget the witch, find someone who deserves you.  I wouldn't give this loser another thought.   Time to MOVE on.  Good luck, anonymous dude.

LoviaLovelyLover123 · Answer

oh shiet I thin she did do it 4 another guy if she said she can't keep up with you then why would she say that your not good listen that means she's a bitch cause 4 another guy try to forget bout her hang with your friends ull find someone way better than her someday that would love you 4 who you are <3

ErroWorld · Answer

I don't think she explained it to you right...I think she just lost her attraction to you and is lashing out unfairly.  The way she told you you suck is hurtful, but I don't think she meant it...what she really means is that you just aren't for her.  I wouldn't take it personally.  As Dita von Tease says, "You could be the juiciest peach in the room, but there will always be someone who doesn't like peaches."

Tamikaze · Answer

Who really needs a reason. Reasons are just the soft-sell BS we all use to say "I don't want to be with you anymore". So, that is the only reason people leave, bottom line. They just don't want to be with us anymore.

I get that you are hurt and I wish you a speedy recovery so you can move on, get your self-esteem back and find someone who will want to stay with you. Good luck!

samhradh_leannan · Answer

It sounds like she was just making excuses to leave you so she could be with the other guy. That's rough, but clearly she just isn't the girl for you. My suggestion is to take some time to heal, and then move on and find someone who will be right for you.

RedSmartie · Answer

A girl isn't going to tell you you're bad in bed or a bad kisser when you're together, but she might tell you the truth after you've broken up. It's possible that both are true, she left you to be with a new guy because she wanted a better kisser and lover.

Sorry, that was pretty harsh. But don't worry, with experience you will get better.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's leaving you for another guy, then THAT'S the reason.

She probably just said that other stuff to make you feel like it was YOUR fault. People don't like to take responsibility for anything these days.

I'm really sorry though - she sounds like a disaster.

Now you can find someone better :-) Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

Just gonna be honest I wanted to marry a man that was tiny, bad in bed, and couldn't kiss (it was like trying to kiss a fish). However I loved him deeply and he was my best friend. However when he broke up with me I did tell him the truth. But when I was with him no man was as good as he was.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, it reminded me of an episode in Misfits when a guy told his girlfriend various nasty things to make her angry and break up with her completely. I don't think it works, but probably that's what she intended to do - to say something that would prevent you from ever getting back together.

Anyway, whatever you feel now, the pain will ease as time goes by.

jemmlove12 · Answer

She sounds extremely immature.

Or maybe I'm just too nice..

If your positive you don't "stink" then I'm sorry but sounds like she's just chatted sh*t to leave you and get with this new guy. Sorry love. Plenty more fish in the sea.

haileymonster99 · Answer

she was making excuses.  If she went with another guy then she didn't have a reason to break up with you. So she made one.  Sorry that this happened.  :'( hope it helps.  :P

EverythingReal · Answer

She left you for another guy. You said it yourself, nothing else is really relevant, she was just building a case.

Anonymous · Answer

Consider yourself lucky she left - long term she doesn't sound lke the one for you. She is making excuses to make you feel bad and make herself look good. ignore her and move on - easy to say, hard to do, but it will be all for the best for you.

luna33 · Answer

Yes she did,so she doesn't want to feel guilty of leaving you for another one. She wants to make you feel guilty of her decision.

Canadiana · Answer

she was definitely making excuses so she could break up with you and see other people

bettyboopdog · Answer

she sounds trashy and messed up... let her go your better off

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