How long would you chase a girl?

[Anonymous]

Guys if you were into a on of your female friends, but she didn't know how she felt how long would you pursue her?

[kholland65]

Depends on how much she reciprocates. If there is no reciprocation (no flirting, no texts or calls back, no offers to hang, or not acceptance of my offers). Then maybe a few weeks at best. If she's playing along and reciprocating, it might be a bit longer before I give up. Maybe 3 months or so tops.

I also think age and maturity plays a role. Many younger and inexperienced guys will have a bigger threshold for this. They don't' know any better so they'll hang on to you like a drooling dog even though all the signs are there that she isn't interested. They can spend as much as 6 months to a year chasing one girl. Older guys know the little games the girls play and they're better at reading signs of interest (or disinterest). It takes a lot shorter period of time for these guys to give up on you.

This is why I encourage guys to go in for the kill, right away. To ask her out as soon as possible without being too forward. If she says no, you move on. The key thing here, is there are no second chances. Smart guys don't "chase", meaning if you are moving away from us, we're not going to keep running after you. If you are moving towards us, even at a snails pace, we might not turn around a run away just yet.

[aMuse]

Chase as in what? I'll get to know a girl for several months max just to see who she is and figure out if she might be worth dating (if I see her regularly), but she'll hold no position with me during provisional period. I'll likely talk to/date other girls while I do that. If you mean some random girl I get a number from while out at a bar or in the grocery store or something, I'll talk to her on the phone for about a week or two to kind of flesh things out and see if I want to date her and arrange something. If she d***s around with me, I'll just delete her number without much thought. If you mean, I ask her out and she rejects me just to play hard to get, or she cancels dates or flakes on me to see what she can get away with, or I offer a relationship and she says she doesn't know about me blah blah blah, then not at all. I have zero tolerance for that sh*t.

[Asker]

no I mean a close friend not some random girl at starbucks or in the bar

[Drrk123]

I do not chase.

I see someone I like, I ask a question to subtly know if she is single, I ask her out if she is. If she says yes, good. If not, I leave her immediately and never look back. She is either not interested in me, does not know what she wants or wants to play hard to get. Either reason is enough for me to lose interest in turn.

Girls keep dreaming about that man who would fight the world, tolerate their "tests", jump hoops and chase them for eternity to win them over. It directly inflates their egos and make their friends envy them. When will they wake up and realize the simple truth?

Players chase. Men with self esteem who want serious relationships do NOT chase.

[Cenarius]

7½ years and counting. I'm very picky, so once I fall for someone, it really takes a lot to let go.

As stupid as it may sound, I plan never to pursue her because our backgrounds are so different that it would never work. Basically she's a very religious and traditional person and requires the same of her future husband. I can accept those features from her side, but I can never become that way.

So I'm just waiting and hoping that one day I'll be over her :)

[tonie189]

i would tell her how I feel about things. if she was confused or was not sure I would make it clear that I have an interest and if she was willing to move forward with it then do so, but if not, then you can't be hanging around forever waiting for her to make up her mind.

if someone else comes around that sparks your interest too then go for it. you gave the other person their shot

[Ryosanada]

Well it depends on how I feel about her. If after a while, I'll give up, but if I like her quite a bit, no time limit can be found.

Some girls are worth waiting for. I could wait forever to be with them, but then there are other ones that their atitudes make me think that any amount of time I spent chasing them was too much.

[Anonymous]

I always say this, and this is from my whole life of observation. The man that says he wants his women to be hard to get; has the lowest morals in life, and if a girl is confused about me, then I wouldn't be interested as I want my women to be interested in me.

[Anonymous]

Not for very long. Rejection sucks, even if the girl is just "confused". What's she confused about if I'm her friend? Doesn't she already know me? I'd do it for perhaps a few weeks, but if she didn't improve her outlook towards me, I'd start dating other girls. Girls that wait too long to make up their minds usually are playing games or aren't that into me in the first place. I have a low tolerance for being jerked along by a female friend and would expect better form her regarding that.

[titoloco]

One week max (7 days). Then I'd move on. No use in trying further too much risk of getting rejected ans also. I might lose too many opportunities with other girls that would surely believe that I'm making my move on one particular girl.

[Yeahhbro]

it depends how much she recipocrates and how she treats me too

[Moloch]

Depends how long it takes me to figure out whether or not she likes me.

[Anonymous]

idk maybe like a week, if it takes her longer than that you are getting played, end of story

[kimster07]

as long as it takes