i was just wondering what you think of women who have big bones. and by that, I don't mean girls who are just fat. I'm talking about girls who actually have big bones. do you think they're still attractive? some people say that big boned women are masculine and ugly. i don't think that's true. what do you think? an example of a big boned woman would be jordin sparks. big boned jordin sparksbig boned women
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to you people who are saying there's no such thing as big boned, you obviously don't know what you're talking about.
my wrist circumference is 6.5 inches. that's considered a 'large bone frame' for women. and I'm sure as hell not fat.
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i'm not saying I'm big boned as an excuse for being fat. I AM actually big boned.
i have broad shoulders, a big wrist circumference, my hands are pretty big I guess, my torso is wider than most girls,
if you're telling me that's not big boned, "no offense", but you're stupid. hahah.
everyone has a different body. YES, it's possible to have big bones. I don't give a sh*t what scientists say. you guys can have your opinions, but I'll stick to mine.
I know there's a difference between fat and big boned. My current girlfriend is kinda amazonian in size. She's got broad shoulders, and her arms are quite thick and strong for most women. I like it. She kinda reminds me of Power Girl. Heck, she's even got the tits for it too.
Personally I actually quite welcome it. I'm a big guy, who's big boned himself, and I have a extra weight on top of being big boned. Being big boned can be nice for a guy like me. I see girls like that as "sturdy" for lack of a better wording, and it's appealing to me. I find it sexy. I find my girlfriend sexy. I even find that girl in the picture sexy. Miracle Laurie is pretty sexy too, though I doubt many people here even know who that is.
Anyway, I find it appealing. I'm sure there are plenty of other guys who like it, just as there are guys who don't, and by this thread, apparently a bunch of people who think that "big boned" is just an excuse. Whatever. Look, whoever is big boned should just work on loving themselves for who they are. Someone's gonna love what they got. The rest of the people shouldn't matter. Not to them. They don't matter, actually.
Try not to let these people get to you. It's just a face. Some people are bigger. Sometimes it IS because of bone structure. You don't have a whole lot to worry about. You obviously have wider shoulders, and a somewhat bigger bone structure. So fine. It's all good. Their opinions don't matter anyway.
Yes, some women are just "bigger" than others, including bone structure. That doesn't keep them from being attractive, such as the girl in your links. Even bigger girls than her can be attractive as long as they're shapely. For the most part, an attractive shape means having a defined waist (smaller than chest or hips) and a *relatively* flat stomach (it doesn't have to be tight as a drum, or have "abs", but you don't want a big belly bump or fat rolls).
None of these girls are "skinny", and I'd bet they are all above 150 pounds, but they don't have any stomach or arm fat, no fat rolls, and they have waists. They also have hips and boobs; in other words, they are the definition of "curvy." The fact that they aren't tiny thin women doesn't make them any less attractive, except to a small percentage of guys who ONLY like stick-thin women. The vast majority of guys would find any of these girls to be attractive and sexy (they may be a little too old for most of the crowd here, which are HS/college-age, but still).
none of those women look particularly big boned, just normal and not skinny. you can be big boned and skinny. they just have bodies text are not fat or particularly tend.
I am larged framed for a women. My whole family is just big. When I was younger I was honestly a twig but was unhealthy. For me the large frame has to do with muscle but I also believe in the term big-boned. The above pics to me aren't of large framed women maybe medium framed. I have been told I'm attractive but have also been turned down by guys bc of my size and I also don't want to date smaller guys bc like many people said... I rather feel like the small one not the man in the relationship... lol! I always go back and forth and base my whole being on my size bc in the real world people can't seem to handle a good sized women. Dont let the haters get you down bc one day they will need you to get the box of the top shelf... lol!
The term "big boned" is misused by people who are not big boned, just simply fat.
The term big boned is not really accurate. A more accurate term is "big framed". Brooke Shields is a perfect example of someone who is big framed, but not fat. She is simply bigger. There are people who are very slight framed. They look slim no matter what they do.
Most people who are fat will say "Im just big boned" giving a sort of myth to something that does exist, but its often misused. Fat is fat, but having a larger torso and big shoulders is not fat.
She lost weight, but one can be fat and have a 'big frame' as well. And she was both. A big frame also implies bigger bones, hence the term 'big boned'.
Some girls just have wider frames than others, aside from the amount of fat they have. If a girl is in good shape and is still wide, some guys are going to be fine with that and some aren't. Personally, I prefer more petite girls. I'm very slender and fit myself, so it feels odd if a girl were to be about my same size or wider. It is easier to feel "manly" when the girl is smaller than you are, just like girls like to feel "protected" so you see out taller, more muscular men. That's why really short, skinny and overweight guys aren't exactly hitting homeruns in the dating department compared to talk and muscular.
My advice? Seek out the big burly men who are built like bears. You'll still feel relatively small compared to them and they'll feel fairly big still compared to you. If you flirt with shorter or really slender/skinny guys, I'm guessing there will be a lower chance of mutual attraction.
Sorry but you will dislike this answer. No, there's no such thing as being "big boned". Although there is a measurable difference with some bones with some people the measurable differences are minuscule. Celebrity Fit Club Dr. Ian proved it. He took a bone scan/x-ray of a "big boned" person, and the same thing with a skinny person and compared them. The bones were the same size. It's mainly the muscle mass and fat that makes for a "big boned" appearance. Just because you have an endomorphic body type does NOT mean you're big boned. There also have been other tests done by many doctors to prove this. There are different spatial qualities in areas with a skeleton and different types of muscle tissue.
I'm sorry, but actual science disagrees with you: link
Read the paper if you want a better explanation. Doing a bone scan on two people can't be considered science. This paper evaluated 121 skeletons. There are differences in bone size and that's sometimes related to how 'fat' a person is. When the skeleton senses it has to carry more muscle and fat, the bones will grow wider for better support. But in the end, being big boned is possible.
The chicken before the egg debate? Really? Actual science? Hows about thousands of skeletons being studied...is that enough? The debate was not if bones at a younger age grew in density to support more weight. That is a whole different discussion. And from this study you support my initial statements. " Researchers found that the heavier an individual was, the wider the shaft of that person’s femur. The researchers hypothesize that the femur of an overweight person is more robust because it
it bears more weight, but also because overweight individuals move and walk differently to compensate for their greater mass" So from your study you linked me that was not needed as a comment on my answer. Thanks for the down vote but a heavy person is not heavy because of their bones. The bones get bigger from being heavier. There are obviously many things that change in a person when they gain weight. In fact the bone structure may change. Ever see a person's gait change after they get fat?
I think big boned women appear healthier to me than skinnier girls. As long as the girl does take care of herself to some extent and doesn't just rely on the excuse "i'm big boned" as a reason to let herself go... I think big boned women are VERY sexy
Big boned women can be hot. It mostly depends on their appearance, most important perhaps how they dress (but I think that's true for no matter how your body looks).
I'm not attracted to Jordin, but she does have a good body.
Is that really you on your pictures? Because I would not really call you big boned just by seeing those pictures. I've been attracted to girls that seem 'bigger boned' than you. You seem to have a normal body type/shape for a girl. Perhaps if you keep comparing yourself to those very skinny models you are big boned, but they are not the average nor the standard if you ask me.
As far as the pictures show, you really don't seem big boned to me, but perhaps it just appears that way on the pictures. Anyway, your proportions seem to be great and usually that's what makes someone attractive, not how big or tiny they are.
Jordan Sparks = she's attractive in those photos. I would get to know her more if I could. However, her personality is the bigger part of whether I'll pursue a relationship or not with her.
Other girls who are big boned = may not have a chance in hell. I'm not a big guy, so if her big bones are too big for me, forget it. Sorry, but I want to be the masculine person in the relationship, not the feminine follower.
There was one girl who I worked with - she was about 6'2", big boned from her family, bigger than me in size, that chased me and talked rumors to others about us getting together. She never had a chance.
Infact, same girl found a boyfriend years later and she put on the pounds. Now I don't even want to talk to her.
Wrist circumference is 6.5 inches ... uhm ... ok? If your hands are smaller than mine, I'm cool with that.
Guys are not as shallow as we are sometimes made out to be. Women complain that the media makes them feel like they need to starve themselves to be sexy, but I don't think that the majority of men feel this way. I think women make other women feel judged by body weight. Afterall, who are editors of these fashion magazines? Usually not men...just sayin'
i thought you're asking about big boned. not fat vs thin. most of these answers are talking about petite vs big boned but its not clear to me, they get the question. big boned looking healthier usually means more flesh looks healthier.
you could be very skinny and bigboned. would that look healthier than small boned and fat.
As long as she keeps her body fat percentage in check she's fine. Venus Williams is 6'2", so is Maria Sharapova. Both look slender even though they are in the 150-165 pound range. Its all about proportionate height. Jordan Sparks' father was a football player. So's probably like what? 5'8" to 5'10"? She lost some thickness because she dropped some body fat. As long as you have low body fat, you're still gonna look good no matter how tall.
shes not asking about height. she's asking about bone width. not body fat width. or body height. the width of the bone structure itself. the size without any flesh on it.
I agree, big bones girls can be hott. It all depends on proportion. I am attracted to all types. Well, actually, almost all types. Even chubby girls at times.
From the looks of your pictures on your profile. NO, you are certainly not fat. Very beautiful actually, and don't listen if they told you to the contrary. You have nothing to be concerned about, for there is a guy that will appreciate you for who you are. :-).
I sure know what a big boned woman is :) cause I think that's awesomely sexy. A lot of Russian etc women are generally big boned and I think that's hot as hell! :D
I also like the larger frame to petite frames. Just prefer it to be a toned body that generally I think big boned women have naturally for various reasons OR I've seen more of them who have toned bodies :D
Cute. Bone sizes don't vary enough (aside from genetic defect) for one to really be able to claim that someone is big boned. If variance was more significant, then maybe, dude. But it's just got to do with what surrounds the bones, you know? Not that figures don't vary, my friend, the reason behind it just isn't bone size. Regardless, my comment was pointless. Sorry.
Only problem is that the size of the bones corresponded with the weight of the person, so I'm right and wrong. However, this study would imply that people of the same weight have more or less the same bone size. So, if the question asker is not overweight, the. Her bones would not be big either. Rather her bone structure would make it seem so.
I read the same thing and the actual paper. It clearly states that one can be big boned and that it has to do with weight, though not current weight. Bones can grow bigger and stuff, but so will the muscles that are supposed to support the skeleton. So even if the person then loses the weight, the bones remain large and the muscle will also remain. Stuff like this also messes up the BMI in certain scenarios: www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2190903/Fat-No-heres-proof-youre-just-big-boned.html
Alright, thanks Scoopie. Yeah, it wouldn't make any sense at all if the bones shrunk or something like that. I now have some better insight on this topic, so thanks, dude!
So in conclusion, to be "big boned" you have to be overweight, or have to have been overweight?
This particular research seems to only say something about when one has been overweight for quite some time, or still is. And it's only males. They will also do research on females, and the most interesting part would be to see if one can be born big boned. I think there you have most of the fuss about, that people say there's no such thing as big boned: they mean born as big boned.
I read that it's also genetics, so one could be born big boned, but can't seem to find the science on it.
The interesting study by Na Kyung Lee et al. ( link ) suggests that the skeletal system has a direct role in regulating energy metabolism and can therefor have an impact on your weight.
Many websites say there are 3 types of frames: small, medium, and large. But I can't find the science behind it, and most important: could genetics play a role?
It's kind of the same question. We can't tell yet. I've read a fair amount of articles in which doctors say genetics plays a role, but unfortunately the articles never provide any science and that's what I'm interested in. It could very well be the case as the skeleton is not static, but adapts to the body and can influence the rest of the body. It's more 'living' than we assumed a long time ago. And as genes influence everything in the body, they probably also help define our bones.
Exactly. And the truth is, it's only a matter of time before we know if genetics nfluence it. At this very moment there are scientists working on "decoding" the human genome. It's fantastic, actually.
I agree, they are doing so much research right now. The study by Ross only included men, next are the females. The thing with human genomes is that it takes such a long time to find out what gene causes what and you need to test a lot of people and then there's different genomes that could work together in order to cause result A, while a different state of those genomes will give result B. But eventually we'll get there. Imagine how many diseases and conditions could be treated with this.
"Large-frame" or "big-boned" women are just as attractive as petite women. "Big-boned" does NOT mean overweight! Anybody who says that women who are large-framed or big-boned are masculine or ugly are stupid.
well no. it does not mean fat unless he person with big bones is also fat.
larger frames require greater weights to maintain the same level of body fat. a person with a small frame reaches the same level of body fat, that a larger framed person would have to be heavier to reach. assuming muscle percentage is equal.
Jordin Sparks is not an example of a woman who is big boned lol She's skinny, you didn't give a true example picture.
No offense, but I'm pretty sure it's not scientifically possible to be big boned. I think that's just an excuse for thicker, bigger people who don't want to admit that they're fat. Not trying to be rude, I'm just being honest. I think this because I used to work at a gym and I have seen very large people slim down. If they were big boned, it would be impossible for them to become as slim as they did. Even with Jordin Sparks, she used to be a thicker girl, but she lost weight and now she looks skinny, for example the pictures you showed. I think some people convince themselves that they have big bones so that they don't have to take accountability for letting their bodies go and gaining more body fat than they would like; they can just blame it on something that happened in the womb.
Sorry, but you don't have a clue what science is about and how it works. Where's your reference to what you claim that it's 'not scientifically possible to be big boned'?
The following is a reference to an actual journal paper, which is considered real science.
Gina M. Agostini, Ann H. Ross. The Effect of Weight on the Femur: A Cross-Sectional Analysis*. Journal of Forensic Sciences, 2011; 56 (2): 339 DOI: 10.1111/j.1556-4029.2010.01648.x
@ question update, so you can have your opinions and we can have ours but if ours don't tell you that yes you are big boned, we're stupid? That doesn't sound hypocritical at all. You're clearly a bigger girl who wants to use genetics as your excuse for being big.
Scoopie, you don't have a clue what I have a clue about. When people have big bones, it's in relation to HEIGHT not body weight. Having a bones that are slightly thicker than someone elses', such as in the picture you showed, isn't an excuse for excessive body fat. Those bones practically look the same. I don't really believe in "big bones" because I have worked in a gym for a long time and seen people lose weight drastically. I've have seen huge transformations that would not be possible
if your theory of "Big bones make you fat and you can't help it" was true. People use that saying because they don't want to be accountable for their size.
Just shut up already? No bitch, I stop talking when I want to. You want to come here and run your mouth and speak your mind but when people let you know that you are FAT, not big boned and you need to get off your ass and run a treadmill instead of running your mouth and making excuses for yourself, they need to shut up? No, you need to shut up and get a gym membership.
I'm not a stuck up bitch; I just don't appreciate your nasty fckn attitude. Sweetie, I couldn't be more sincere when I say there is nothing about you to hate on.
Maybe I got a bit out of line, but don't act like you didn't throw an insult calling me stupid for not cosigning you being "big boned". I'm not the one with self issues here when you are the one getting pissy because someone told you they don't believe in "big bones" lol
She's definitely not big boned. I believe that "big boned' is just a term to substitute for like chubby or big so it doesn't sound as bad. I don't know if you're speaking hypothetically but if your body is similar to Jordin Spark's then you're surely not big boned haha.
QA, Jordin Sparks is not big boned. If she were big boned, then it would be impossible for her to be as slim as she is in those pictures you showed, her bones would be in the way of it, right?
Jordin has good proportions of her body, so that's why she can appear to be slim. Add some good lightning, photoshop, and voila: she's suddenly very slim.
When I describe someone as "big boned", I mean someone with a heavy looking body frame. Like... dense looking. Not fat. Just heavy looking. I can't really explain it. Khloe Kardashian is big boned.
Scoopie, you don't know that. You haven't seen Jordin naked privately in order to say whether she's been photoshopped or not. Not every girl who actually looks slim has been photoshopped. It's not impossible for a girl to look as great as Jordin does in those pictures without the help of photoshop.
You're right Empress, I don't know that for sure. I do know some girls I've first seen in pictures without photoshop and they looked stunning and really slim. Then I met them and they were kind of big and some even fat. As long as the proportions are good, the big body will not be noticeable that much on a picture.
But they use those techniques on pretty much anyone, so why not on her? Especially considering the fact she was kind of fat or chubby before.
I am frustated of being big boned... large torso and all... continously told you can be slim but it is not easy to make them understand that it is not possible to shrink bones... Girls with more fat percentage than me looks smaller and considered attractive.. On top of that I am 5'2... thats why I look wider
Do you mean if it's a trait I find attractive? Well, I wouldn't say that I find it UNATTRACTIVE, but I tend to be a lot more drawn to women with petite shoulders while her lower body doesn't matter as much to me. Do you mean if a big-boned woman can be attractive? Of course. Even if it's a trait you might find completely unattractive, she can still have other features you're drawn to. A high-pitched voice, beautiful long hair, or whatever. I don't think anyone is 100 % unappealing.
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