I was with her but not really entirely as her boyfriend and she loved me but we were distant physically and she started dating other guys and felt bad about feeling guilty over it and never returned to me again. She never gave me real explanations of why she left. If she only says "i changed" what does that mean ? I tried to ask her what is it that changed that made her not love me that way and she would not tell me. I know she has fears of commitment so she might not like how I love her and how she could hurt me but I keep wondering if there is more to it than that. I would like to figure this out so I can fix in myself what might have been wrong because me and her do have good chemistry I swear we do and we both accept each other entirely and she finds me attractive so I don't understand.
2) Your true colors are finally showing. They might not be bad, and they probably aren't, but maybe she just doesn't like them.
3) She feels like she's too mature for you.
4) She is immature herself or needs time to get used to commitment.
5) She wants to see other people for the sake of seeing people before settling down with one person because she feels like she's depriving herself or settling for one relationship when she could find a "better" one or even just a new experience.
6) Sometimes, people can get sick of each other after spending too much time together. Maybe she'll miss you, maybe she won't.
7) Maybe you're either a) a doormat or b) too cold to her.
8) If you like Nickelback, that can also be a deal breaker.
People grow, and when that happens, what they want out of life, what they want in a partner, and the sort of relationship they're looking for, also changes.
What she's looking for is no longer you. That's not an insult, it's just picking up two puzzle pieces that don't fit anymore.
Break-up's hurt, but if she feels you're not what she needs anymore, then breaking-up is the only option she had. I'm sorry for you hurt, but it's time to realize this girl wasn't for you and start healing.
similar situation with me and my ex, we met in high school and I was so young then and a completely different person, a big part of that change was I started thinking about what kind of life I wanted, do I want a family? What kind of example would I be for my kid? I also never knew what my interests were during high school, besides weed and music. lol,I started becoming really passionate about other things and finding my calling in life... I also dove deep into religion, spirituality, meditation... I was evolving so much, and I wasn't seeing him doing the same, or embarrassing my new self. It could have also been in my head...Like I changed my hair style and I thought he didn't like it because when he fell for me I looked a certain way, but I think that just means the relationship wasn't solid to begin with.
The main problem is not being close physically. If you have a great distance between each other, the attraction wanes and interest is diminished that's why she went to a guy who's closer to her, even though she's more attracted to you before.