I don't think this is too uncommon of an approach. Sometimes people will try to flaunt their wealth or create the illusion of wealth to draw attention and feel like they are worth more. Perhaps they have a low level of self confidence and think they can just trade these material things for affection or to prove there is a reason to be with him instead of the other guy. I think someone who goes crazy on a "10 dollar gift exchange" and buys a 100 dollar gift makes people feel awkward. They may have had to work extra and save to make that happen but when two people are into each other I don't think the ability to produce said shiny objects is all that important.
Sure as I said that, there are girls who are all about "what can he get me" "what does he make... what is he riding in"...blah blah... These people really drive me crazy. That is another story. You strike me as the polar opposite of a gold digger. You strike me as a humble young lady who works for what she has and probably came from a middle class family where you had what you needed but maybe not ALL you wanted. People who come from upper class families have a hard time grasping the fact that not everyone drives a vette when they are 16. Has a vacation in Europe every year... etc.
I think it's a good sign he let a hugger break through his germ barrier. Once you know him a little better you might see he struggles to pay for his daily expenses in order to wow you with nice things. I remember not eating in high school and rat holing my lunch money to buy jewellery for my girlfriend. I did not come from money... I just tried to figure out how to come up with a little something special.
If he is using Mom and Dads money to get the stuff... I don't think it really means as much. He didn't have to earn it and has no concept of what it took to get that cash to buy you things. (This I find to be a bother but that is just me)
I would try to let him know... "You know the things you buy are beautiful but really not necessary. I still want to hang out with you even if you never gave me any gifts" At the end of the day none of that matters if there is no bond between you. (if it doesn't work out you still have a jewellery box full of stuff though... ha)
I don't think the price tag on a gift is what matters. Some of the most precious gifts I have ever received are hand made by my sons. Yes, macaroni necklace instead of a white gold chain. Of all of the watches I have... (and there are a good many) One of the least expensive is the most treasured. It was bought by my sons with their money and given to me on fathers day.
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It could be his way of showing you your worth to him, it could be that he just wants something in return physically, or he might be that well off that he has no value on money, or he just wanted you to remember his gift more than most, but only you can make this judgement, so all though the gift was nice, this does not mean you owe something back, so show appreciation, but never feel as if you owe, or be told you owe because of it, and by doing this, you will get to know his intentions due to his reactions of the way you handle him and his ways, if he has an interior motive for the gifts, you will see them a mile off, because you will realize that although he might be generous with his money, he's not a very nice person, good luck,x
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Your sexless male friend you met in 4th grade is long gone. Believe me. You both are HS seniors, that boy is thinking about doing you every single day. But don't be flattered, male sexuality is non discriminatory so if he had the chance he'd do the most sexually available girl in class too. He buys you expensive gifts because that is what men are made to believe that will make women like us. Yes, he's trying to buy your affection. The question is: Did he need to buy it on the first place?
I don't think he's trying to buy your affection necessarily, he does have the money from his family after all, but you can just see if he continues to buy you things, then THAT's when it's obvious.
Maybe he is just trying to be nice because he likes you. If the gift makes you feel uncomfortable you can always talk to him about it.
That depends, how much does your affection cost?
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