His personality! Is he shy and awkward? or is he obviously comfortable in his own skin and not mind telling a corny joke? For me that's the biggest thing. I really love a guy that can make me laugh
But still, don't go too overboard. Guys that are super full of themselves (or seemingly are) bug me like crazy. I may instantly dislike you if you act too cool or like you're better then other quieter guys...
Still I am in not way saying I don't fall for shyer quieter guys. A lot of guys are very shy around me and I honestly find it kinda cute...So if you're a shy guy or at least shy around me and I realize that, just you getting the guts to come up and talk to me is pretty attractive. I especially love when you take the time to ask how I am, because I feel like these days, at least as far as my life goes, a lot of my friends especially guys don't even think about asking that..I don't know I just find it cute.
Then after this, I may start to notice other things like “oh he has really blue eyes” or “a great smile” ….Haha physical attraction in secondary to me, but I still notice! So do, be well groomed and look nice. Maybe play up you best feature...Have great eyes? Make sure your hair is out of your eyes so I can clearly see those great eyes while I'm talking to you :)
Hope this helps good luck!
his beautiful or ugly smile, if he looks confident or arrogant or just nervous, if he has a cute nose (that just makes it or breakes it for me, personally** XD ) , if his voice is seductive, if he knows what he's talking about...
Usually, a guy has to start a simple conversation with me and if he's normal, and not "forcing himself to be something he's not", then that does it for me :) .
Later on, though, if he's annoying as sh!t, that cuts the deal XD . If my first impression was wrong and he is nothing like he appeared to be the first time we talked, that cuts it too. If he, with time, turns arrogant just because he's won my attention, that cuts it too.
I guess that more specific things change from girl to girl... but I hope I was helpful in some way!
If you want to get a girl interested, don't try to impress her: just act like you normally do with girls you already know :D , and that'll do it: she'll be impressed! .. Unless, of course, you're annoying XD ...!
**but most people aren't, so I bet you're safe too ;) ***
I never really thought about it.. I think their personality mostly, maybe a bit of how he dresses how hygenic he is, and how confident he is (if he's overconfident I don't wanna know, if he's too shy ill give him a boost in confidence like a compliment, if he's just right that's great), the conversation is small talk so I don't pay much attention, this is all at first glance, then I pay attention to if he's interesting, easy to talk to and how well he takes care of his body(normal and slightly muscly is nice but ultraskinny and overweight is a bit of a turn off but it won't scare me off, a really overly muscly steroid freak will though, crazy 80s muscle-heads), the height also maybe but it doesn't bother me much as long as he's not shorter than me and not tall like a basketball player (7ft omg o_o)
but I'm taken and I can't keep my eyes, heart and mind off him so I don't really ever think about it xD
The level and style of humor and with vary from girl to girl...but just about EVERY girl wants a level of CONFIDENCE in a guy that talks to her.
Confidence in the simplest form of self-comfort of who you are, is damn near a requirement to talk to girls with ANY level of success. He don't have to be too flashy or clever, but comfortable with him.
Or else, how the hell is SHE going to be comfortable with him if he's not comfortable with himself, right? :-P
Like OMG, I like a guy with confidence and humor and a cute smile and did I mention confidence?
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I love it when guys notice something about me (based on what I'm doing at the moment, what it seems I like etc- it implies that you're observant a detail oriented) and just strike up conversation in a non-flirty way. The thing is (in my case at least), I hate it when guys just come up to me and hit on me without me expecting it. It leaves me in a tight spot and fyi, it happenes to a lot of girls. In fact, if you go up to a girl and say she likes you back, you're going to want to leave her wanting interest in her from your end bthen end of the conversation. Personally, I think men kill it when they come up to me (without knowing) me just saying stuff that probably won't make me identify at all with him,
A guy who doesn't try to change me to his sick little fantasy world, who is patient, sensible, doesn't compare himself to others or tries to compete against other people and can actually just BE HIMSELF! without caring what others say or want him to do, he just does what makes him happy and can see past all the crap of this world. Most importantly he isn't selfish, a selfish guy is like the ultimate turn off, for me even in friendship selfishness is the ultimate no for me straight away too, I just want a guy I can be myself with without any worry that things are expected of me, things are cool, we can just sit down and watch a movie, eat some popcorn, laugh at all the funny moments and just get on you know... no stress or pressure.
Basic question first to get things going. Then a conversation that initiates both of us (I.e not an interrogation and not a conversation revolving around him, but has us both talking). But how to even get to this step with ease is to have well-tuned body language. Body language is very important! It's obviously going to vary per person, but what I tend to like is someone who has a sexy smile accompanied by ever so slightly squinted eyes (not retarded like they're looking quizzically at me or like I did something wrong but like I'm the most interesting, beautiful, and amusing jewel in the room). Having your body at an angle to someone is actually fairly important, apparently it's a turn off to stand square to them (<idk). Also, apparently staring occasionally at a girls lips is a "turn on" (hints that you want to kiss them). Want some scientifically correct tips? Read up on social psychology.
A guy who listens and in some way gets me.
People like to feel like someone is understanding where they come from.
I have yet to meet a person that does this one thing that I really crave...and that's taking one little word or phrase and from that sparking a whole conversation...a deep conversation.
I think a guy that makes a girl think has a lot of potential with her and of course making her laugh is good too.
I think if you find someone you relate to that spark might just come instantaneously.
Dear if you want to dazzle a girl first you got to observe her is she an introvert or a extrovert, is she outgoing or opinionated just look at her and mold yourself in her exact mood and go straight to her with force and empathy always raise that particular vibration by making her an offer/request with a cocky catch something like "I would tell you you're beautiful but I haven't seen your smile so far, I guess it must be behind me looking at my great butt cheeks", " I don't usually drink with strangers but since I've been looking at you for the past hour I feel like I already know you", "Can you help me?It seems I've lost track of time being around you. and I think I should do it more often." Compliment one of her average assets and let them out shine her top qualities.
Well honestly the things that get me are sweetness, kindness, being a gentleman.. GENUINELY listening :) and I don't mind a cute blond guy coming my way lol or whatever hair color he has as long as he's cute and my type :)
But honestly what attracts me and makes me want a guy is.. knowing that he is listening to me.. knowing that he will be there for me.. I like having a sense of security and a feeling that he loves/likes/cares or is willing to listen to me and that's what I appreciate in men when they seem to care about you lol
So I think if you want the girl of your dreams you would have to be a gentleman, treat her right, get a bit spiffy and make some moves lol
First and foremost, the guy has to look like my type. I can't explain this but there are just some guys that I am not physically attracted to and that is not because they are uglier than someone else. They are just not my type. So if you are physically not attractive to a girl, then sorry. She will never be interested.
Second, girls can smell desperation from miles away. Don't act desperate. Don't over compliment. Don't be wishy washy. And most importantly, DO NOT try to act cool or try to be someone you are NOT because girls are smart and we pick up on those types of behaviors VERY easily. And to be frank, it's really lame.
But in the end, it's just the chemistry. You can think of it this way. How come you are friends with certain people and not with others? Same thing. Same issue.
It's never some specific thing he says or a certain quality. It's just him overall as a person. The older I get, the more I realize how undefinable attraction is. The more I like a guy, the more things I'll like about him. It's not the things that make me like him, it's him that makes me like his traits if that makes sense.
However, I do tend to like smart guys, usually the more intelligent, the better. But that includes various types of intelligence like emotional intelligence, too. If a guy is a nuclear physicist, but a douche then I won't like him.
When talking to a girl, you should compliment her, find out what she's interested in and talk to her about it, look interested in what she says and actually listen to her, look directly in her eyes and flirt. Try as hard as you can to show her that you are interested in her and be a gentleman while talking to her but don't act like your going to die if you didn't get her and don't be childish or superficial
The rule of "you want what you can't have" applies to most girls. When it's completely obvious and apparent you like her, she won't think twice about giving you a chance, especially if she's hot. Most girls want something different as well. Also, ask her lots of questions about herself. nothing pisses a girl off more on a first impression than a guy who only talks about his life (boring stories at that) and doesn't show an interest about her life. Besides, what girl doesn't love talking about themselves?
Confidence. that confident, flirty half smile, and when they say stuff that I'm interested in like if they say something about something that's important to me, like sports, my favorite team, my favorite singer, etc. Oh and his smell. Also, dressing well and good looks and an athletic body help. basically smell, smile, and similarities. The three S's :)
If you approach me after evaluating me on face value then I will do the same for you. Immediate attraction grabs my interest, but it's his personality that'll keep me interested for more that a few moments. I try to make myself pretty easy to talk to, forgive the stumbling of words or blandness of conversation. If the guy can make me smile or laugh that's always a good thing even if I'm not immedietly interested.
He has to be interested in what I say. Often I act just like the person who approaches me (to try and feel them out a bit). So if you approach me stressed or bored, I'll react the same way. If you act enthusiastic and very interested, I'm more likely to take an interest in you too.
Looks do matter though, and if you think you're not as good looking as the guy who did get the girl interested.. then maybe she wasn't attracted to your looks.
I like a guy's humor and his attention to detail. Talking about interests is a good way to engage me in a conversation, but I guess I can't say the same for others. Try talking about something you think you can both identify with.
I like a guy who is real and is comfortable with being himself. That's what normally catches my attention. I'm really good at figuring out if someone is acting like someone they're not, and I usually don't bother with those kinds of people. Just be yourself and everything will work out fine :)
it has everything to do with his personality. if you have nothing in common then its hard to havea conversation. Recently this guy started talking to me but it's really awkward cause all he wants to do is try to impress me with all of the cool parties he's been to. This does nothing for me. You need to know how to have a CONVERSATION, its give and take, not just one sided
confident, respectful, intelligent, and I have to at least be a attracted to the guy. Physical appearance nice eyes, smile, and nicely dress (don't have to be in the most expensive clothes but clean up well a nice basic t-shirt with jeans/sweat to a nice suit) and fit)
someone I can relate to and makes me feel like a girlie girl while he's a gentleman, him just being himself open and honest...someone who makes me feel protected and secure about myself...
i don't like guys who pose a challenge or play games or jump right into flirting and act like players...i wanna be with a real man who appreciates women
The "naturalness" of the conversation matters a lot, meaning it doesn't seem like he's trying too hard, that we're just having a casual chat. If your idea of finding common interests is asking her, "What's your favorite ____, what do you do, what's your major," then it usually comes off as really unnatural.
The other big thing is humor, because talking to strangers is usually pretty boring if it's not amusing (small talk sucks, to me personally).
I like when a guy says something original. It can be simple, It can be silly. If a guy approaches me with lines I have heard before- Lines that some jerk previously said to me, It makes me think he is no different.
So what a guy can say to get my attention: Say something different. Be Yourself
Witty banter. That's what it takes. If you can engage in witty banter, you'll spark my interest without me knowing your name or hobbies. In fact, I won't care about your name and hobbies unless and until you've sparked my interest
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