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If a guy wants to "hook up" with you, does that mean he finds you attractive?

I've been really good friends with this guy for 5 years...and back in the day I used to have a huge crush on him lol. But then I moved away so nothing happened (later on he told me he also liked me at some point). He's not really the girlfriend type at all but he's not a super manwhore either to put it bluntly. Anyway, we still talk/text a lot and the other day I jokinly asked how was it going with the ladies. And then his awkward response was something like hey so, would you ever consider hooking up with me? O.O Now, we talked about it for a while and I made it very clear that all I would do would be kiss because well, I am not giving up my virginity this young. Though I've always wondered what it would be like to kiss him so...I think he respects me enough to respect this and stuff. I was going to go this spring break to visit him (and my other friends) but in the end it didn't work out so I won't go until the summer. However, he also confessed that he would've made it very obvious (quote: I would've made sure you knew) that he wanted to get together or whatever...so does he mean make a move or something? Lol I'm so oblivious to these things. ANYWAYS SORRY FOR THE LONG MESSAGE, point is, does he find me attractive? Part of me is scared that he's just ultimately using me or something...since guys these days seem to hook up with anyone that has a pair of boobs and an ass.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Well, the term "hook up" can mean two things. Buds "hook up" with one another to hang out. And there is nothing going on with Buds, rest assured.

    But there is a suck thing as a "hook up" when it comes to a guy and a girl. This usually involves sex. I would never "hook up" with a girl who I knew only wanted to kiss. This is stupid. I am going to get turned on, and can't do nothing about it. Lol.

    But hook up to him may mean something totally different. To him unless he knows that after the hook up you want to remain a virgin.

    Just so you two are on the same page, hook up means two different things, either "hook up as friends" or "hook up to have sexual fun". This is why I hate talking in code. Say what you mean, because code talk can mean something different to either people.

    And if he doesn't think you are attractive, he has no taste in women. You are more than "just attractive" ;-)

    • Thank you :)

    • Don't thank me, thank the Lord for having good taste and giving you a very attractive appearance. Lol, He just gave me the mouth and the good taste and the ability of telling the truth about what I saw. But it's all the Lord, not me.

  • Yes, but your last point is also true.

    Most guys find most non overweight youngish women with boobs and an ass attractive enough to want to hook up with. It's not all that high a bar.

    Guys who do the 'boyfriend girlfriend' thing actually have a higher attraction requirement for a girlfriend then someone they hook up with, though some don't act on that.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Not necessarily. He could just be horny. In any case it does mean he doesn't respect you so why even think about it?

    • Also make sure he understands what you want. And make sure you don't let some kid pressure you into doing something you didn't intend to do. Be smart good luck

    • I'm pretty sure he does, but thanks.

    • Good luck you seem like a sweet girl

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  • Yes, he really does find you attractive.

    I also find you attractive as well. Guys think alike.

    • Thank you! :)

  • When someone says hey want to "hook up" you can be sure he will take it as far as you will allow him to. He does find you attractive but ultimately he is only in for for sex. If you are okay with that then go for it. If not just ignore his advances.

  • lol of course, no guy wants to hook up with someone he legitemately finds annoying.

  • To answer the title question, for me it's a yes. But I guess it's different depending on what kind of a person you are.

  • Yep. He thinks you're attractive or he wouldn't have asked. That said, your first time should be waaay more than just a hookup.

    • I don't want to have sex with him though! Just make out! (I've already had my first kiss) If we do "hook up", I'll make it quite clear that all I want is to kiss...if he can't accept that, then no hook up.

    • Cool. Just remember hooking up includes sex in a lot of folks' minds. As long as you're both OK with making out, no worries. Just watch out he doesn't try to pressure you once he gets horny. Make sure you have a way to make him stop if you need to.

    • This is so insightful to the female perspective. There's no burning desire for sex at an opportunity. It's odd.

  • Yes he most probably find you attractive.

    I think the actual question is does he like me? I dunno. Could be.

  • He finds you attractive enough to hook up with, but don't expect anything long term from a guy asking you straight up to hook up with him.

    • I'm not, as I mentioned I'm only curious to kiss him not to have sex or a relationship with him.

  • He wouldn't want to hook up with you if you were ugly? So I'm going to say yes, he finds you attractive in some way or another.

  • yes he does but not fully enough to date. but he does want to f*** you I would go for it hookin up is great =D

  • In short, the guy will find you physically attractive enough to f*ck. However there are some guys who have lower standards for girls they have sex with, versus girls they actually date.

  • NO! guys are desperate and will hook up with any one!

    lmao, just kidding! anyways of course. he wants to who up with you for a reason

  • trust me I'm a guy and I tell the truth if he didn't find you attractive he wouldn't now ask you out. and by the way attractive for men means the idea that he is going to enjoy the girl in bed.

  • You are attractive, he wants to bang you.

  • yes

  • False, guysdo have decent standards, at least I do, for woman that they want to date or hook up with. So get that thought ou t of your head and yes he is attracted to you. Would you tell a person you did not feel attracted to you would hook up with him? People do not realize it but males and females are very similar in terms of dating.

  • there are no dumb quesions just dumb people lawl

  • Ok, I'm going to keep it real with you. As a man we don't have to be attracted to you to fcuk you.

    We will damn near fcuk any woman just to get off. It's a plus when we're attracted to you but, in the end we just want to fcuk.

  • Yes. You really are not so good with guys eh

  • He finds you attractive enough to sleep with, yes.

    • Or make out with, whatever. Get physical with.

    • Lol I guess that's not really good then...

    • Well, if he wanted more than just physical stuff, he probably would've said something other than "hook up", you know?

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  • Basically.

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