HE IS YOUR BOYFRIEND !
wake up Hun. You have him NOW, do NOT let insecurity's get in the way of something you have right now. Live in the moment. He is with you for a reason you already have him. That is the tough part sweetie.
Worrying about the future is useless. Today is all that matters you have nothing to worry about RIGHT NOW, right? So do not allow your insecurities to creep in and destroy your personality and opportunity for him to see your inner beauty. Being pessimistic, down, and worried are all useless fears!
You have him now, respect him by living every moment with him making the best of the every situation. He deserves you to be happy for what you two share. Personality is very important in making someone very attractive and Happy.
with the thinking you harbor now, could kill your opportunity to keep what you have right now.!
and your fears will come true if you do not change those fears into appreciation for what you have!
Only the MOST desperate guys will date girls they don't find to be physically attractive, so assuming he wasn't one of those ultra-desperate guys, it means that he found you attractive, and that's part of why he wanted you to be his girlfriend in the first place. Unless something has drastically changed with your appearance (gained 100 pounds or something), his opinion of your looks won't have changed, and he'll still find you attractive.
BUT... what he absolutely will NOT find attractive is your insecurity. Insecurity in a relationship is like cancer, and over time, the negativity spreads like tentacles into every aspect of your relationship, until there is no more hope.
Other, "prettier" women aren't your enemy, your own negativity is. And if you lose the battle against your own negativity, you'll lose the war.
The truth is that no matter how beautiful we are, there will always be women who look better, are more in shape, have bigger or perkier boobs, longer legs, clearer skin, healthier hair, longer and shapelier legs, a nicer ass, etc. The fact is that in a good and healthy relationship, looks aren't the main motivator. Of course they are of importance, but hey, your boyfriend is with you, which means he is attracted to you! None of my ex-boyfriend were objectively extremely hot, but to me they were, and no matter how objectively hot guys crossed my path, I had no interest in them.
The thing that might cause problems is the fact that you appear to be very insecure and have no confidence, and are basically waiting for your boyfriend to find someone else. That is the real problem.
I feel your anxiety but he is your boyfriend for a reason, if you were that loathsome he wouldn't be with you in the first place. and secondly its not all about looks, of course attraction is one of the most important things in a relationship but when you really like someone that person usually becomes the most attractive person for u, at least from my own experience
There will always be someone prettier or more intelligent or funnier than you in the world. The trick is to play up your good qualities. He's with you for some reason, and if it's not your looks, then congratulations, you found yourself a good guy. Just play up that personality and you should be good :)
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HERE'S HOW I SEE IT.
Yes, you will get dumped.
And it's not because you're ugly. It's because you're insecure and self loathing. That is a complete turnoff except to a putz.
I won't even waste my time with that kind of crap with 9's & 10's and have dumped insecure needy 9's and 10's because of it.
Your value is in your attitude, make yourself beautiful from the inside out, because in reality, outer beauty will fade, and if you're left with just a sad pitiful shell of an existence when that's gone... well... wtf?
He's already your boyfriend, so he sees the beauty in you even if you don't see it. Don't make him change his mind being insecure.
If you tell him this constantly then probably yes. It wouldn't be because of your perception of your attractiveness neither.
Two thingd, if you really cared for him and loved him you would stop doing this ... Secondly all the worrying in the world has no value, do you know why ... it's because thinking that he's gonna leave you for someone else is thinking about something you have no control over. He might, he might not but nevertheless you thinking about it won't make a difference for what he does.
People are fairly sticky and give their partners the benefit of the doubt. Even if he thinks other girls ARE prettier, he doesn't KNOW them. Not like he knows you. But be wary of that insecurity. It's endearing to know that someone feels nervous about you liking them. But when this turns into restrictions and paranoia, it becomes a whole different ballgame.
Would you leave him just because a "better" guy came along? Of course not, because you love him. Men are not all shallow creatures that only care about looks. Besides you likely have a different standard of beauty than he does. He must be attracted to you, or he wouldn't be with you.
Well first of all, if you say your ugly all the time, you will believe it all the time. Do not do that because as others have said, this will cause insecurity and it will probably lead him to leave.
Second, if he thought you were ugly and wanted a better girl, he would not be with you now.
As long as you realize these two things you will be fine, if not you will have trouble in the future.
If he's with you while you're ugly, it's because he can't get better girls. Of course he will find them attractive, even if he lies to you about it. But that doesn't mean he has enough game, money, power, fame, whatever it takes to get more beautiful more in shape women. You have nothing to worry about. Usually when a guy gets in a relationship, they latch on for dear life.
be as attractive as humanly possible perfect everything except the things you can't change without surgery IE: overweight, bad hair, no style you get it be as attractive as possible and accept your shortcomings
@phattyme Please understand REAL LOVE doesn't worry!
Please face you fears and go up to him and tell him what's on your mind. One of a man responsibility is to be his woman foundation (supporter). If he doesn't look you into your eyes and connect with your soul when you telling him. Now you know up front, he's not the right man for you. So be prepared of him leaving.
Let me know who he takes your mind
Young lady you need some higher self esteem and self confidence. If you think you're ugly. How can you except guy to think otherwise unless your playing a game pity.
There are tons of reasons for a guy to leave a girl and being pretty doesn't keep a guy.Trust me.Pretty girls get dumped and left for other girls too.
Also It's perfectly normal to be a little insecure!Just don't let it get you down .(I highly doubt you are ugly.you are just being hard on yourself).
if he leaves you for another girl than he clearly wasn't right for you .
As a contributor below said low self esteem and jealousy make something that was good into something unpleasant.
If you spend all your time being afraid of something that might never happen, then you'll be a miserable girlfriend.
And believe me, that will get you dumped faster than anything. No one wants to date a miserable sour puss.
if he loves you he will never leave you and he will know deep in his heart that you are the most beautiful girl ever ever. because love is not about faces it's about hearts.
He knew what you looked like from day one. If he leaves you, it would probably be for a different reason.
You boyfriend will leave because of your insecurity, not because of your looks.
probably - bad looks and low self esteem / jealousy is a combination that will eventually wear down even the purest golden heart
Well if he is shallow then he might.But I doubt you are ugly you need self esteem.
Only if he's the shallow type.
Also, I'm sure you're not that ugly, you need to be confident!
It's that insecurity that puts guys off. It's usually the insecure ones who cheat on their parents out of their own insecurity, seeking validation.
that's not why he's dating you.
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