You find a video of your boyfriend touching a naked stripper on his phone. what do you do?

[Anonymous]

shes naked and at one point, the guys are all around her with her legs open and your boyfriend is one of the guys touching her all over, including between her legs. he's touching everything.

and there's probably more that wasn't recorded on this video. what do you do?

because this just happened to me. :(

Updates

+1 y

not a stripper at a club, the stripper was at a friends house. and I'm pretty sure in the vip section you can touch them, but anyway that wasn't the case here. it was at a friends house.

[Stacyzee]

Was he aware that you were looking through his phone? If not, in this case he may try to reverse everything and say you we're invading his privacy.

If he does, do not fall into this trap.

He should have told you the day it happened not lied about it.

Let him know this dishonesty hurt you even worse than the actual event, because now you don't even know what else happened (because you can't trust him).

It's a difficult choice to tell you what to do from here.

If you feel like you can trust him and move past this, then keep dating him.

Just be wary and keep your eyes open for things.

If you feel like you will never trust him again then end things.

[Darkfairie17]

Yea, I would probably question the relationship. I have no problem with a guy looking at girls. I mean it happens right? My ex boyfriend used to go to strip clubs, only because his friends went. He didn't go often, only twice. But he said the girls were really gross. He wasn't someone who thought strippers would fall in love with him.

But I think in your case, I would seriously reconsider this relationship. I can see if he just went with his buddies to watch, but to be touching a girl like that. EWW! haha

You don't know what else he has done. A guy with good morals would just watch or not even want to go.

[PerpetualNerd]

Dump him. I wouldn't even care to hear an explanation, if it happened while we were together then that's just gross.

[samhradh_leannan]

I agree.

[Anonymous]

You could do a couple of things - apologize for going through his phone without his permission, and stop lying about what you found there.

Strippers operate on a no-touch policy. You touch the girls, and seconds later a giant bouncer will be playing hackysack with your skull on the walls outside.

Oh, but let me guess, there will be magically some extra information which for some reason you just didn't feel was relevant to put in the question, which will explain why they were all able to Fatal Attraction this stripper...

[raineydaygurl]

The place my boyfriend went appaerntly they let you motor boat them and stuff

[Opinion Owner]

YEAH...RIGHT

[Asker]

i think its common sense that different clubs are more or less strict about things. that's how people end up getting arrested for prostitution and drugs being sold in clubs.

and I didn't think it was necessary to explain one of several obvious explanations, no. the important thing I was focusing on was what I found on his phone, a**hole. but I explained in the update anyway. jesus.

we don't have a "dont go through my phone" rule. if he forgot to check his phone or remove it, its not my fault.

[Theguyoverthere]

If you two are together, run like hell and dump him. If this was like, a year ago, then what's past is past.

[Anonymous]

Your not allowed to touch strippers between their legs. Any case be up front and question him about it.

[Stacyzee]

Most strippers are also escorts, so they allow it.

[Stacyzee]

Every club is different more strict than some.

[SaltandVinegar]

You are not allowed to touch strippers or you get the sh*t beat out of you and you get kicked out

[pr3ttybr0wn]

He'd get confronted and dumped