Are you sure you're really "friends" with these girls, or just polite aquaintences.
Personaly, I am not hesitant to give out my number to friends. But there are some guys who are friends of friends, or who I have spoken to a few times, that I might not give out my number to. And it is not because I think all men or the same, or because I think every guy likes me, but because I just don't know him well enough.
I want to know what sort of "friendship" a guy wants before I'll give out my number. Because I'm sick and tired of the good old "friend routine" from guys I meet. If a guy asks for my number and I politely say no, he'll say "oh, just as a friend", and then it's like I'm obligated to give it to him. Then suddenly such guy wants to "grab a movie" or "hang out at my place". At 2 am. Yeah, I'm sure he wants to be "friends". I am not going to go over to some guy's house and "watch a movie". If he's really a friend (and I already know he won't make a move on me), then sure. But if a guy wants to make a move on me, I hate this method. It's like trying to "sneak" into the dating zone. I have much more respect for guys who just come right out and admit that they like you. Don't pretend to be a girl's friend and then suddenly try and pull a move after she gave out her number.
But if you don't do this, than my story doesn't apply to you. However, some of these girls might worry that that's what you're trying to do. Maybe you aren't putting off "Friend" vibes, but "I like you but are too chicken to say it, so I'll ask for your number as a friend" vibes.
If I'm at all hesitant to give a person my number, the only reason is because I don't want them to have it. It's not like I just enjoy being difficult.
I have acquaintances who I enjoy seeing, but I don't really know them enough to drop them a message (or at least one of substance--meaning that it doesn't just say "hey" or "what's up" etc..)
You may think you're buddy buddy with a girl, but she may not feel exactly the same way. It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like you, but maybe giving you her number is out of her comfort zone.
And some advice...if someone is hesitant to give you their number, just let it go. Cause if they are reluctant, that means they don't want to give it to you at all, but they feel pressured by you so they just give in to avoid more awkwardness. I've been in that situation before where someone has practically forced me to give them their number just to avoid a scene!
Giving my number to someone is an invitation for them to text or call me whenever they want. I really really HATE texting so it's a rare few who get it. Just friends who I would want to chat up briefly to hang out with later.
Also, it's really annoying when someone is pushy about that kind of thing...if you say "Hey, what's your number?" that's fine, but if she seems hesitant say something like "you don't need to give it to me yet if you don't want to," and lay off until she asks you for yours. Either she will or she won't. If you're pushy, yea she will give you her number eventually, but she will want to talk to you less.
Not that I've had much success in getting numbers form girls or even getting one that I like to go on a date. But the thing I've tried lately is that I gave them my number if they want to call me or text me their number it's their choice and it's all ti their hands. Witch is still needless to say far away from getting a date. I never text or call without a reason.
But on the other hand I understand girls not wanting to give out their number to guys they don't trust. So it's a tough spot. But on the other hand I guess there's also too much of this not giving a person a fair chance going on witch is another tough spot.
What the girls said is dead on, they're just not interested in ya buddy. Or they want you to prove yourself before they decide they're interested in you. When they say "we should get to know each other better first", what they're really saying is, "you're not good enough for me, come back when you are".
At any rate, if she doesn't want to give you her number, she's already judged you, which is pretty rude, so just don't talk to that chick anymore.
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Because guys typically ask for a girl's number if they're interested in dating her. They (guys) want to exchange/give you their numbers if they're interested in being friends.
That, and girls always wonder how the guy's going to use it. Is he going to call me wanting a date/to hit on me (when I'm not at all interested)? Is he going to start texting me (& running up my rates)? Is he going to give it out to others?
If there was a way to look up the total of all the harassing/unwanted social phone calls made in the past year and organize it by gender, I'm guessing a majority of those people are going to be female recipients. Very few guys I know are/have been the targets for unwanted advances over the phone as a result of giving out their number to a girl, but most of my female friends have been on the receiving end of such calls multiple times.
I don't know, I don't think this is universal, lol, I think it's the kind of girls you're going for. Some girls like to make a game out of it, others just don't know how to say no without feeling awkward. I have no problem giving my number to guys I get along with, whether they be friends or love interests or someone I just met and hit it off with. If I don't want someone to have my number, I just don't give it to them, I don't play around and give them false hope, especially if they creep me out. But where I live, it's a small-ish community, so the web of connections is extreeeemely intertwined. Which means everyone more or less knows everyone else, or is connected in some obscure way, so most people here, especially in the 18-35 range, have all kinds of random numbers. Exchanging numbers is a really common and social thing in my community, no one thinks much of it, it's just normal. So most people I know, girls included, respond more like I do, lol.
We worry about what it will imply. We're not sure what the motive is. Just take a look around this site and you'll see why. Tons of guys complaining about being friend zoned by girls who "led them on." Essentially, if we are attractive and don't treat you like a stranger, we're ridiculed for leading you on and being a horrible person when we friend zone you. We "should've known" that wearing that tight shirt one day and giving you our number as friends meant we had to be your girlfriend. :/
This is partly why women are worried about giving their number out.
I realize I tend to do that. Its just that I never know where the conversation will go. If they confess their true feelings or not through texts and when they give me their number at first and deep down I know I'm not interested.
Its like I'm trying to save myself the trouble.
We don't WANT to give our number to everyone! Why? because most of us have been bombarded by guys bugging us to do things from send them pictures, to BEGGING us to come out with them. It gets really old, so its natural to be a bit cautious. Plus asking for our numbers can sometimes seem like you're hitting on us, even if you're just asking as a friend.
When you ask for a girls number it makes you look like your interested in more then " just friends " it's different when your about to meet up or hang out and you casually ask.
Girl give out there numbers to people they consider good friends, the people they like talking to.
If I'm interested, no convincing is necessary. I just give the guy my number. Most people don't want to be direct and say "no, not interested" but I guess your persistence wears them down. I've had guys do this to me and then they get a fake number or I transpose a digit lol.
Well if we aren't friends and maybe just acquaintances or strangers, I feel like once I give my number away its kind of letting them know that I'm interested in them, and I don't want a guy bugging me if it's unwanted attention. Might as well let him know right off the bat rather than getting random texts that I don't feel like replying to.
I don't know if I want to date you or sleep with you
I don't know your intentions or trust you
I don't know if you have a big mouth and will go back and tell people everything about me
I don't like you like that but you keep asking me for it
If I'm hesitant, I don't want to give it.
If I'm interested in the guy, or friends with him, of course I'll give it.
If he's my friend, he should have my number. I don't see a reason not to give it, I mean it's the best way to contact each other to hang out, talk, or whatever.
We're only hesitant when we don't have an interest in the guy haha, trust me. Otherwise you'd have our number in a flash. Or if you're totally friend zone and we don't feel you'll try it on with us when we aren't interested you may end up being given it too. It all depends on which one of the two we think at the time.
With any of my friends I will give them my number. No offense, but maybe she doesn't really see you as a friend, just some person she hangs around with. She might not be able to accept you as a friend because you might be giving her signals that she doesn't like. Maybe she thinks you are only her friend because you have a crush on her or something like that. If you were really friends it shouldn't be a problem.
It sounds like its a little bit more your problem than it is theirs...
Why bother with phone numbers? I mean who calls these days... few* maybe ?
Just add her on Facebook...
simples! (:
Umm... it's pretty easy to get girl's numbers. At college, at least. Where are you asking them?
If I know them I never do that.
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