Does my boyfriend's ex girlfriend reflect what he likes?

[Anonymous]

I saw some pictures of my boyfriends ex girlfriend and it made me wonder a few things. I noticed that me and her look completely different. I want to be honest but not mean because that's not right but She was on the big side, pretty much over weight, very short, she has big boobs, tattoos, and a bit sloppy with her apperance. She was also a different race. I look completely different though. I'm medium height to tall, way darker skin (caramel or deep deep tan), dark hair & eyes, small/medium frame, I don't have big boobs but I have a big butt. He had sex with her so he must have found her attractive. After seeing her it made me wonder how he thinks I'm attractive if he thinks she was beacause we look completely different. I wondered if he likes bigger woman as well and is my body enough for him & attractive. I do have a few insecurities but I try to work on them. Does his ex girlfriend reflect what he truly likes? Or does he care more about personality maybe?

[Nena91]

I know how you feel! I checked out my bf's ex girlfriend's Facebook profile. It was a big mistake. I started to worry how he could find me attractive when we were so different. She was super outdoorsy, had been married twice by the time she was my age and had a ten year old kid and was in the military. I am ultra-feminine, a virgin before I met my boyfriend and studying Interior Design. It was a bad idea to even worry about her. Ultimately, a guy wouldn't be in a relationship with a girl he's unhappy with. When you compare men you've found attractive to your boyfriend, you may find they are pretty different. ( Even thinking of him compared to celebrity guys you find attractive could help. My boyfriend looks about as much like the singer of Tokio Hotel, (google him!) as I do his ex, but I find both attractive.). Comparing never helps. He would be with her, not you, if she was better. You will also find things about your relationship that prove he loves you. For example, my boyfriend is Hispanic and so was this girl. My bf's parents had some problems with their kids being with non-Hispanics, especially Germans. But my boyfriend still CHOSE to be with me, a white, half- German girl. Also, he's glad I'm not in the military which this girl is. You'll find things different about you that girl didn't have that your boyfriend likes.

[MaskofInsanity]

Not everyone has a "type."

Don't worry about it. If he's with you, he's attracted to you. If someone lined up the guys I've dated, they'd say "wtf?" Most have nothing in common physically at all, yet I was attracted to all of them.

[WizeGuy2350]

Personality always matters, but looks matter too. Some people have more than one "type" that they like. Most of my ex-girlfriends look completely different; I thought each was attractive in her own way. Just relax and enjoy your relationship. There's no need to feel threatened by another person; he's with YOU now, not her.

[Anonymous]

Don't over think things.

Yes, his ex girlfriend reflects what he likes, and you as well, reflects what he likes.

[G_GTom]

Does your past exes reflect what you like? Should your boyfriend compare himself to your exes.. on wait, women already do that for us :)