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How can I make his first time amazing?

so a guy I like and I are planning to have sex. he's a virgin. he's done things, but he's never gone all the way..but I have. anyways, I'm wondering how to make his first time amazing. I've never been anyones 'first', so I'm not sure lol. also, how can I make him more likely to last a decent amount of time? or is there anything he can do to prepare? I know people say when guys first have sex theyre extremely fast and I'm hoping this doesn't happen. any ideas/advice/etc would be great :)
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I've never had sex before but I can say the following:

    It takes longer to ejaculate the more a guy does it:

    While masturbating to p*rn the first time I might ejaculate might be within 3 minutes. I don't think I can last past 5 minutes -especially if the woman is moaning a lot.

    The second time can last up to 10 minutes.

    The third time might last up to half an hour depending. The third time also happens to be the most intense for me -despite ejaculating a lot less fluid.

    After he ejaculates the first time, have a pee break and go at it again. Recovery time for me is within one - 8 minutes or so.

    Let him get you close to orgasm BEFORE having him enter you. This way he'll learn a few things about how to make you feel good AND have a good shot at penetrating you to orgasm -every man's #1 goal.

    Don't make unnecessary moans unless you are about to orgasm. Personally, moans set me off very quickly.

    Let him have control; if you jump on him and just think about yourself he'll probably be forced to ejaculate against his will. Let him start and stop as much as he wants.

    Tell him what makes you feel good!

    He might also want to keep his legs spread apart as much as possible, because I tend to approach ejaculation faster with my legs close together.

    Here are some tips from a p*rn star about it:

    https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=JHyxxBrkxWo



    Don't lie and say you orgasmed if you didn't. Instead try and get him excited for round two after his refractory period passes.

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    • he ended up lasting between 5-10 min which was very surprising :) thank you :)

  • Don't even worry about how long he lasts. It's not about the duration the first time. If he only lasts 30 seconds don't even bring attention to it. As a young guy, that's probably one of the biggest fears about the first time. The last thing you want to do is make him embarrassed. Duration comes with experience, it's not something that can be forced.

    As a rule of thumb though, the more foreplay, the less time it will last (at least at first).

    As for what you can do, don't make him do any of the work, unless he wants to. Get him on his back and climb on.

    • that's actually exactly what I did today and I was very surprised, he lasted somewhere between 5 and 10 minutes. I wasn't so much worried about how long he lasted for my own selfish reasons..it was actually more I didn't want him to feel bad :) thank you :)

Most Helpful Girl

  • regardless of what you'll do he will think it's amazing haha. I would save the mind blowing sex until he's used to the feeling I guess! that's just what I would do, I could be wrong!

    • ok thanks haha. any ideas to make him last as long as possible?

    • don't do anything that will turn him on more haha

    • lol fair enough xD it ended up going very well. he lasted somewhere between 5 and 10 minutes :D

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  • give him a bj first? maybe that will help

  • Tease him a lot first. It gets guys wanting more and more.

  • it seems most girls are against teaching guys, they always want the guy to lead

    • nah I'm not like that. sure I like guys to play a part in it but I didn't mind teaching him :) Its the first time I did anything with a virgin, but it went quite well :)

    • nah I'm not like that. I mean I like the guy to play a part, but I didn't mind teaching him :) someone has to :p

    • yeah because from what I've observed, most girls are turned off by innocent guys, they find guys who are followers instead of leaders to be weak

  • It's his first time. He's going to be VERY excited. His penis might be very sensitive too, especially if he's uncircumcised. I'm uncircumcised, and my first few sex sessions felt insanely intense (not in a bad way!). His penis will have to get used to having sex.

    I recommend after kissing/foreplay, start off by giving him a BJ. Once he's ejaculated, get him to eat you out. By the time you've orgasmed, his penis should have recovered. Then have sex. Having orgasmed once already, he'll last longer the second time.

    Make it a relaxed atmosphere for him. Make sure for his first time, you've got a few hours to spare, so preferaby at night. You don't want to give him performance anxiety.

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