Would you prefer beauty over brains?

[Anonymous]

guys if given a choice what would you prefer most in a girl. Beauty or brains? If there is another factor please state!

Beauty

Brains

Other

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aite since so many people have been preferring beauty (keeping guys in context mostly)


WHAT WOULD YOU PREFER MORE BEAUTY OR PERSONALITY?

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and by beauty I mean physical appearance not inner beauty lol

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okay so many people are complaining about this question lol I am sorry but my motive of asking this question was that I have seen a lot of couples where either the guy is ugly and the girl is very attractive or either the girl is so damn ugly and the guy is too goodlooking! so I just don't know what happens there..is love all superficial (beauty) skin deep. or there are some meaningful mysteries hidden behind it. As simple as that!

[GoodManDave]

I think that beauty gets you in the door more quickly and appeals to more people. But for the guys who want a long time quality relationship, there has to be at least enough of both to keep things going.

It may get you in the door faster, but if there's some personality, then it's endearing.

I have a crush on a woman I met a few weeks ago. She's beautiful... but where she works, there are a lot of beautiful women. Even when she's busy, she'll still come over to say hello (and it's to me more than anyone). I think that's more attractive than anything. I can be playful with her without worrying, and that takes a girl farther.

One night a few years ago, I went out with a few friends from church to a local restaurant. There was a girl who I thought MIGHT be kind of cute. I didn't get a chance to really talk to her; I decided to introduce myself; but she had to leave really quickly. We talked for about 30 seconds, then she began to leave. I said goodbye by using a line from the movie The Princess Bride. Not for her, but... It's just a good line. And she answers with the next line in the movie. THAT made her a lot more memorable and endearing. I remember her when most friends don't because she made that strong of an impression on me. Not the looks, but that personality was the thing that drew me in.

I think the mind would keep the relationship going. I want to talk about things. I want to make her think, and I want her to make me think. In that sense, I want someone who can challenge and inspire me, just as I want to be the main person who does that for her. A girl who doesn't "get me" is not someone I'd want to date for very long.

I don't want to be in a relationship where I have to constantly repeat myself and explain every joke or reference that I make. I do that too much already.

[JohnnySS]

updated response: well we KNOW that the better looking you are the stronger your body's immune system defends itself against foreigners. In my experience... I am a very handsome looking man and women with great bodies, beautiful faces and w/e are almost the only ones who have ever approached me. So we know through my experience and through research that couples will usually be within 1-2 points of physical attractiveness to one another. A man will usually be more stubborn when it comes to attraction a female - less, because of the expectations put on females in the current society. Which are pressure to have a baby and pressure to see butt ugly guys as equal to hunky guys which they aren't. In my life, I have been attracted to even fat women - some are beautiful, however their bodies are not compatible enough for me or I don't find them attractive. They might have a great personality or have, great body, or a great face. They may have only one of those features and that's enough to make them attractive to me. However I have a standard and only one doesn't do it. Women - are the same.

[JohnnySS]

All I know is that the better looking you are the more stronger your immune system is. Personally I don't know if It means anything else, like inherent genetic behaviors because genes encode for predetermined personalities which are then molded by life.

[JohnnySS]

Also, take off the womans makeup when assessing comparing her in a couple to couples to get a better indication of their compatibility.

[JohnnySS]

We all have a check list in our hearts of 1.2.3.4.5.6.7... some of us have chosen for more lax rules some have chosen more stringent rules. He/She this and this but not this but she/he's this but not enough of that.

[MaskofInsanity]

Beauty. I'd easily choose personality over beauty, but in all honesty, I think intelligence is highly overrated. Most people I meet who claim to be intelligent are arrogant and overbearing. I've learned to get turned off by guys who are interested in me because they think I can keep up with them - it's almost condescending.

Good looking, positive and down to Earth - winning combination.

[cupcakequeen]

I don't care about how stupid a person is when it comes to book smarts. I also don't care about a persons looks -- though attractiveness is a plus. I care most about personality and charisma/chemistry. How well I match with a person and how long I can talk to them without getting bored. I want them to have a good heart and be sweet and loving. That's all that I need.

[Hannah591]

I couldn't go out with someone who was extremely dumb. They'd drive me up the wall as I have a habit of correcting people which I hate doing but I do it anyway. I'd prefer a guy who could teach me something new everyday, not drive me insane with his lack of common sense/education.

[bytesbull]

Personality means more to guys that have grown up. When I was younger it was all about the looks. I didn't care if a girl even behaved erractic or kind of retarded if she looked good, but as I have grown up a girls personality is the most important factor when I consider getting involved with a woman. My older brother once said something to me that stuck with me to this day, "you can't help how you look you are born with your looks and have to live with them, but you can be a great person and other good people will see right past how you look and like you for who you are".

Words to live by.

[Asker]

Great answer!:)

[Longshot]

While there needs to be at least some physical attraction, I'll take an extra dose of personality. Finally got up the courage to ask the most DDG girl at school for a date.We went out a couple of times. Nothing came of it. Her personality sucked. Should have stayed home and watched cartoons.

[Asker]

HAHAHAHAHA your last sentence cracked me up!

[StevenJohn]

I voted C which for me, means Personality. My girl for instance, is stunningly gorgeous and very air headed. But her personality is so bubbly and positive that it makes her air headedness cute as can be. I really don't care if someone is smart or not but beauty and personality is important to me. Beauty sparks sexual interest, which is a must for a passionate relationship. Personality is what makes you create a long lasting bond which will keep the passion once beauty fades.

[Sexydncr]

This ^^^^

[Anonymous]

Beauty. I don't really care about a woman's ability to recite poetry or do complex mathematics. Her intellect isn't going to make me feel more loved. Nor do I need her to have a high paying job to support me. I make my own money. Now if you had said personality that would be different.

[emzy-89]

Her beauty isn't going to make you feel more loved either

[Opinion Owner]

No but attraction is important. As I said if she had asked about personality it would have been a different answer.

[Confucius16]

The people I like best, are the sweet girls, the ones who are really nice, and don't get angry too much. The ones who like helping others, and are kind. The ones who are not attached to their own ways of thinking, but are open-minded.

Beauty is enhanced when these qualities are there. That's like inner beauty, and it's great.

Intelligence is not as important as wisdom. Wisdom is life experiences and knowing , while intelligence is ... how fast you learn, how much you can memorize, etc.

[jamesma87]

Personality is more important than brains imo. I don't mind if a girl is a bit ditzy as long as we get along well and enjoy each others' company. Someone being smart doesn't really guarantee anything except their intelligence.

Obviously people want a mix of beauty, brains and personality but if you have to pick one then beauty is going to be the most popular choice. Nobody is going to date someone that they can't stand the sight of

[Deft_maiden]

I've been told to " dumb it down" more than I care to count. So beauty for sure.. Guys don't want to be threatened, they want to shine.

[Winteredrose5162]

I completely agree, my mom always told me that at first not to show intelligence because then guys become intimidated.

[Anon1999]

That is true. But I love intelligent women, when you are both 80 years old sorry just beauty isn't going to cut it anymore. Got to have something to talk about.

[Deft_maiden]

@jk348 yes I agree. But while young men don't see it that way :/

[Titi18]

Hahahahhaha I love this answer

[alltheabove1212]

It's very obvious and not shallow that there needs to be physical attraction. That's why these questions are kind of misleading if people are looking for advice. The girl needs to be a certain level of attractive to a person initially, and then the brains part adds a whole variable.

As beauty sometimes compensates for brains for some people, it can go the other way around too.

For me, I need to be physically attracted, and then brains (smarts, wittiness, maturity, overall sense of humor)

[bytesbull]

I see what you are saying but some guys really could care less about how a girl looks. I made a breakthrough or something because I don't give a sh*t how a girl looks physically anymore. If she is cool and has a great personality that's the girl for me. She can't help what she was born with as far as looks go so why penalize for that? The guys that only want a hot LOOKING girl are missing out on some great girls.

[alltheabove1212]

yeah I see what you mean there. There are things girls can do beyond what they were born with that makes them look attractive. Honestly maybe it's my age. I'm 23 years old so it's possible I haven't grown out of it yet.

[Asker]

agree with bytesbull!

[clashcity22]

I'd have to say beauty, but inner beauty. I like a girl that has a great personality, but also has some looks. My ex girlfriend was such a great woman. She was friendly, kind, caring and just all around, the best person. She is overweight...or so she thinks. I like a girl that has some meat on her bones. There's something about girls who are a little bigger. That's just me. She has a gorgeous face. I guess I need inner beauty and outer beauty in some combination.

[Asker]

lol why'd you leave her then? or she dumped you?

[Anonymous]

Beauty. This is like asking women if they prefer a guy to have a high paying salary or personality or brains.

Most of us don't want to be with an idiot forever, but we don't care what job she has. She can work at Target for all I care.

As for the personality thing, I don't know. I guess you mean the attractive girl has a sh*tty personality (much like most of them are), so it would depend on the overall score when it comes to the girl with the good personality. Though if she is really unattractive, I opt to not choose either.

[AveryBeck]

For me it's personality, you want a girl who is similiar to you in almost every way. Looks are superficial, but of course most guys would probably go for a supermodel. To be perfectly honest why go for one when you can have two? Looks & personality = <3 the looks are just a bonus

[SteelyMcBeam]

I would prefer to share common interests with her.

Beauty is naturally attractive, but it's impossible to date a beautiful chick if you aren't tall since beautiful chicks are pickier from getting approached so often, and height seems to be a REQUIREMENT for attracting women.

Brains can definitely be impressive, but not necessarily beautiful. There are wayy too many brilliant involuntarily single people after all.

[gonyr]

Brains. Although I can't say I'd date someone I wasn't physically attracted to either. I know it seems shallow but if that initial attraction isn't there nobody's going to make a move. However, if hypothetically it came down to two girls. Girl A was really hot but wasn't really smart or couldn't really carry a normal conversation vs Girl B who maybe wasn't as god looking but was very engaging, I'd go with girl B

[Jonny_]

Intelligence is no measure of good personality... Especially when most people seem to see intelligent people as nerds/dorks/dweebs, which are seen as social outcasts. I like intelligence to an extent although it depends if they're the kind of person who thinks they're so smart as to argue every detail to the bitter end. As for beauty, I can't really fault it. Of course a mixture is the best.

[jmr2191]

My god, brains, brains, brains! Beauty doesn't mean anything without brains or a good heart. Beauty is important, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and no relationship skin deep will survive. Relationships are multi-dimensional. They're physical, emotional, cognitive...the fact of the matter is that beauty alone will not work, brains alone will make it difficult, but beauty, brains and mutual feelings make it very difficult for the relationship to fail.

[ladsin]

unfortunately I can't say between the two... I need a girl to be smart enough to carry on a conversation, but also gotta be good looking enough to arouse me... so if I had to choose between one or 2 id have to go for a middle ground

[ladsin]

lol you might remember girl from my state a few years back (miss south Carolina) "everywhere like such as Africa doesn't have maps" lol but yeah that would be annoying

[ladsin]

@ update, still same she needs to be able to get me up, but personality is definitely more important (as long as she's semi-decent I'll take a good personality over good looks)

[dan3314]

I really dislike the stereotypical dumb blond type (btw I don't believe its only blond girls who can be dumb) I don't know why but I'm attracted to girls who are really smart and even successful. I do have standards though and I would never date a girl who looks horrid or doesn't seem to care about how she looks.

[Anonymous]

Beauty and personality. Then brains. Assuming this is a girl who wants me.

In practice, most girls who like me seem to be smart.

My guess is they find stupid guys annoying, so have to overlook my other faults because they have restricted options.

[Opinion Owner]

Personality without looks = long term friendship.

Looks without personality would likely be a short term relationship that crashes and burns.

You're not going to settle down without both. Now 'beauty' doesn't mean supermodel. But there needs to be something there that makes me feel lust.

[Cyran]

If it would be Beauty VS Kindness it would be hard to choose but right now it's simple:

Beauty!

Just because a girl is smart doesn't mean she's also a good person, it's possible to be smart and completely callous and evil at the same time... and that without beauty? Not what I'll choose!

[Prof_Don]

I can't lie...I want a female with (what I consider ) beauty. Brains are required as well,

but if forced into extremes , I'd take a brainless yet loyal trophy wife over a way below average brainiac.

[djvtech]

Most men are lieing if they disagree with you.