What does a guy mean when he says a girl is intimidatingly beautiful?

[Anonymous]

What does a guy mean when he says a girl is intimidatingly beautiful? Why would a guy be scared by a pretty girl?

[Anonymous]

Lol. I asked a similar question when the guy I'm seeing said, "Wow, she's mesmerizing."

There are a few things going on here:

(1) No matter what you say or do, your guy is looking at and thinking about other gals. Even if he's 100% faithful to you, his mind will flick over to some random figure and he'll have a sexual thought. It doesn't mean he's a player or a horrible guy. It just means that visual/mental stimulus crossed his path for a split second. The moment passes, no harm, no foul. Try to be cool with it.

(2) Guys will think that certain women are "out of their leagues" (just as some women do of certain guys). Sheer, unadulterated beauty can be very overwhelming to the senses and cause a guy to back off rather than attracting them to a girl. A girl who looks "perfectly beautiful" will (most presume) be attached to a similarly "perfect" sort of guy, and would therefore not go for the regular joes out there -- or at least that's what most of the regular joes think. In actuality, many of these girls are just looking for a nice fellow.

(3) SOME "perfect" looking gals have attitude to match their looks and this combination makes them intimidating -- or even repulsive to some guys, believe it or not. Are the guys still visually attracted to them? For sure, but they're not emotionally stimulated or inspired to go up to them.

(4) "Scared" doesn't quite cover the sentiment here. Intimidating here means off-putting -- unattractive in a sense that they don't feel that she is approachable. She is giving off an unapproachable vibe. Like a citronella candle at a Luau...

[moonflowerz]

The guy I have been talking to for weeks said this to me last night when we met for the first time! He said my pictures didn't do me justice. How can I make him feel at ease and tell him I am extremely attracted to him too. The attraction is mutual so no need to feel intimidated. Help? He could be the ONE!

[johari]

Means he's afraid she will reject him because he might not be on his league or not her standards

[UnderDriven]

I think it is cognitive dissonance: attraction and repulsion at the same time. He is super attracted to her, and yet he feels inadequate or threatened by her beauty. He may feel inadequate because (1) he isn't as attractive as she is, and therefore she would never even consider him an option, (2) he doesn't make enough money for someone like her, or (3) she will have lots of guys chasing her so he could never hold onto her. He might feel threatened by a sense of loss of control--he feels so attracted to her that she could make him her slave...

[Jmark]

He probably finds you too attractive for him. Like I'm still in high school, and the pretty preppy school council girl, this like angelic blond girl, comes and asks me to sign a petition to change the date for prom, I couldn't meet her eyes and had a hard telling her that I was in grade eleven, and couldn't sign it because I'm not a grad. I think I feel as if the really pretty girls are higher than me and feel as if they carry authority because of their symmetrical faces.

[clashcity22]

Do you like being rejected? Well neither does anyone else. Why should I go up to a girl that I am pretty sure will reject me and then have to deal with that feeling and embarrassment? That's why they feel intimidated. Maybe if attractive women weren't so damn shallow or gave a guy a chance, then guys wouldn't feel intimidated

[Lommelun]

And the very real fear that she'll not consider him "good enough" for her. If she is very beautiful, she'll be able to get any many she fancies.

Just think of yourself: How many times have you blown off men who were "not your type", or "creepy guys" or something like that? You've never rejected a guy because you felt he wasn't good enough for you?

Beautiful girls have high standards for looks. I certainly would never pass muster with the good looking crowd.

[aMuse]

Some people get intoxicated by the looks of the people they crush on. It can cause them to have a cloudy mind, which can make it hard for them to keep their sh*t together. He might might be afraid to look stupid in front of her, and knows he will when he's infatuated. Thus, it crushes his confidence.

[Cyran]

Intimidation is the same as fear of rejection

Not always it's just about the beauty - it's mostly about how approachable the girl is, about the 'vibe' she's giving: whether she seems stuck-up or down-to-earth

[martyfellow]

Ah, you know, so beautiful you assume she will be distant because she has guys lined up with their Porsches to drive her around...

[RedThread]

Insecurity. He doesn't feel like he's on equal footing with a beautiful girl.

[Anonymous]

It means she's way out of his league and he knows it