Guys that claim they only like strong women that don't need men, tend to be guys that don't want to step up and accept the responsibilities of a relationship. They have a "Bitch handle your own problems, and don't bother me with them as if I actually care about you" type of attitude. Or they are guys that are just saying what they think women want to hear. Since most women don't want to hear that all of the things they have worked hard for isn't really going to help them attract a man.
The kind of man that is attracted to the damsel in distress is any man that wants to feel valued by the woman. Most guys like being able to know that the women we care about is better off because of us. We certainly don't want to think we are holding them back, and believe their lives are not as good because of us. There is a huge difference to meeting a woman in distress and a woman that is just useless at all times without someone to take care of her.
A true damsel in distress would piss me off. Bitch, I'm not saving your ass in a castle from a turtle dragon thing. You're an adult, take responsibility for yourself.
However, if you mean a damsel as in a girl who simply needs help with something and will truly appreciate what I do, I would like that. I like a girl who is her own person, but if she needs me to help her with something she couldn't easily do on her own, I would be glad to do it for her (only if she was a girlfriend or regular friend, though).
insecure guys who like to think of women as weak because its the only way they can think of themselves as strong- if only by default.
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There are some guys who copy their father's roles, in the days when most women didn't work outside the home and were pretty dependent on men for making most key decisions...
Not many guys nowadays want a dependent woman, a 'damsel' in distress. We mostly hope to find someone who can help us out of our messes, as well as mostly handle her own problems!
I don't know any guy that wants to fix a mess of a woman, or who wants to play daddy and make all her decisions and such. It good to help your partner when they truly need it, and to be apreciated for that support. It just can't become a habbit or else it comes of like they are a needy dependent (child), not a serious partner.
When I'm in a relationship I like to look after the woman I'm with and do everything I can to make her happy.
Unfortunately I've learned the hard way that there a lot of women out there who use guys like me so I am more careful now. Sad.
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I am the committed, good, nice type guy. Guys that like girls like that I would consider behind the times, lacking a backbone or self esteem, or are just desperate. There's a girl at work where she's constantly asking for my help, playing the "Oh! You're so tall and strong" game and it honestly annoys the hell out of me.
Sick of these low wage jobs! lol
Honestly? It would make me feel like I was raising a child, not being with an adult woman. If she was a true "damsel in distress" as you say. I prefer independent women.
I think every guy likes to feel needed from time to time.
That said, I think many guys will avoid damsels who are always in distress. Very few men will tolerate a drama queen.
I hate when girls cry about everything and act like they need to be waited on all the time and it would be nice if the women you speak of were more common. I have stopped and helped women change popped tires before, I helped an elderly lady load her groceries into her trunk on a hot day, and I always hold doors open for women. I don't do it to get praise or thanks, I do it because that's what right and what you should do in those situations.
I consider myself confident and WANT a strong/independent woman.
A woman who depends on a man is weak IMO.
Dependency is not a good thing, unless it cannot be helped (infants, invalids/the sick, etc. are IMO excluded lol..)
Since you said "not the ones who fake it," I think most guys would be cool with that regardless of what type of guy he is.
Pretty much every guy from what I've noticed but yet they whine about us going for the bad boy. I'm guessing its more acceptable for a woman to be in distress rather than a man.
Fat Italian Plumbers who like to eat mushrooms.
Probably a man that's insecure.
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