It shouldn't be.
If they are something that gets brought up by someone you start seeing there will be a couple things to discuss.
A) You need to explain to him that you have worked through that and do not do it anymore. You may explain why you were doing what you were doing if you want to but don't feel pressured.
B) reassurance you will not go back there. I think this will be anyone's primary concern, that you won't go back to cutting.
Something that I do with anxiety, is I explain to people certain things that can trigger me and why I do what I do, that way they know how to navigate certain situations with me, or they understand why I might act or do somthing.
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I agree with the first anonymous male user. Its not the scars itself that I would have an issue with. Usually people who self-harm have a slew of other issues even if they are over the self-harming. This isn't always the case but I personally have not met an exception.
The scars themselves aren't really an issue, I don't mind scars that much. The bigger problem for me would be the self-harming itself. Even if the person said they had gotten help and were over their issues, I'd still worry that they same issues would come back and that they'd start harming themselves again. That's not to say that I would never date someone who had harmed themselves in the past, because I would certainly consider it, but it could potentially be a deal breaker.
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I doubt they're deal breakers..everyone goes through something plus if they love you enough they won't care.
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